Can the right mistress save a marriage?

I know this sounds weird. But hear me out:

I know I am a sex addict. I see multiple girls and know I will eventually get caught with my Multple emails, texts, and ATM withdrawals.

Could the right mistress own me, put discipline in my life. I know I have non-vanilla sexual needs my wife will never want to fulfill, which are definately subordinate in nature. I love being a beautiful women's bitch. On a leash, worshipping or caged up, begin pegged, golden showers. In addition, fPunish me when I am a slut and looking around beyond my mistress and wife.

If this is possible, what kind of control from a mistress am I seeking?

I think if this is Properly UTR, financials and time wise, from the wife it would be very beneficial for all!

I'm in Dallas and trying to keep things sane! What is everyone's thoughts?

Nope never look for that in a provider(money)many men have sexual desires a S.O. will not sastify thats natural,also plenty of men are sex addicts thats in our genes keep your hobby going be descret and enjoy yourself.

IMHO, not likely but good luck.

If you had a simple addiction of wanting to get your rocks off with a provider on occasion, separately and secretly from the home front, and that satisfied you until the next time, you could prolly cohabit successfully with your wife. In that sense, your marriage would be saved. What you've described sounds pretty complicated to me.
Best wishes finding a happy medium.

If you had a simple addiction of wanting to get your rocks off with a provider on occasion, separately and secretly from the home front, and that satisfied you until the next time, you could prolly cohabit successfully with your wife. In that sense, your marriage would be saved. What you've described sounds pretty complicated to me.
Best wishes finding a happy medium.

Originally Posted by HUMP!

Paid sessions can be helping to guys

Think everyone is right.... I think if I am discreet I am alright.

To be honest sometimes I think she knows but is in denial to herself and as long i keep her in denial (keep taking care of her, put family first) this can stay UTR

I think hobbying saves a lot of marriages. We go out and discreetly get our fantasies fulfilled, and then go home to the vanilla sex & family life.

I think hobbying saves a lot of marriages. Originally Posted by stavinChain

I agree with that statement but don't confuse it with making a marriage better (not saying that you did but some have). Hobbying may help you stay in the marriage but cheating on your wife does not make the marriage stronger.

I think hobbying saves a lot of marriages. We go out and discreetly get our fantasies fulfilled, and then go home to the vanilla sex & family life. Originally Posted by stavinChain

Yes.

This type of activity CAN save a marriage. And has.

But not always. And I doubt it's the norm.

I saw a very nice young 'working' woman when I was living in Europe (where things are definitely more open minded than here in the US). One time as we were talking after a vigerous session I asked her how many of her clients were married. She told me that most of them were and that she felt in most cases the men loved their wives and she did not want to break up their family and she was offering the men a safe outlet that was no threat to their marriages. With a long term mistress, she said, there always were emotional ties that could damage the marriage. She told me that with her, "you don't have to bring me your heart, just your cock."

I saw a very nice young 'working' woman when I was living in Europe (where things are definitely more open minded than here in the US). One time as we were talking after a vigerous session I asked her how many of her clients were married. She told me that most of them were and that she felt in most cases the men loved their wives and she did not want to break up their family and she was offering the men a safe outlet that was no threat to their marriages. With a long term mistress, she said, there always were emotional ties that could damage the marriage. She told me that with her, "you don't have to bring me your heart, just your cock." Originally Posted by GregJM

Good point Clients don't have to bring their hearts.Just your cock and money for fantasies.....

Good point Clients don't have to bring their hearts.Just your cock and money for fantasies..... Originally Posted by Fancylady

But even though there is not an emotional commitment, I have met some really sweet and fascinating women through this 'hobby'. And I have rarely felt it was not worth the money for the fantasies.

It might prolong a marriage but won't ultimately save it.

But even though there is not an emotional commitment, I have met some really sweet and fascinating women through this 'hobby'. And I have rarely felt it was not worth the money for the fantasies. Originally Posted by GregJM

I'm sure you have met really nice hookers in the business.Paid session without strings.You get to go home to your family.

I don't know, ask your wife first