Spontaneous or planned?

Philhelm's Avatar
This is a question for both the guys and the gals. What are your views on spontaneous (same day) versus planned meetings (a day or more prior)? I fall in the more spontaneous category, which can make things a bit more difficult sometimes. I'm just curious on how the community views this.
Andrea Davis's Avatar
I prefer planned. I let it be known in my ads that same day appointments are at my discretion. The main reason for preferring planned is......"I HAVE A LIFE". I don't answer my hobby phone while I am at home relaxing, so if you don't email me you will probably not get an appointment. If I have seen you before then you are welcome to book a same day appointment.
Spontaneous, I don't plan my horniness days in advance. I also have extremely bad luck with any appt being kept on the ladies end with anything more than a 8 hours advance notice. For this reason I rarely try to book with a traveling lady that is just passing through or here just a day or two. Because I know if she is popular she is usually booked up before she even gets here.
Philhelm's Avatar
I prefer planned. I let it be known in my ads that same day appointments are at my discretion. The main reason for preferring planned is......"I HAVE A LIFE". I don't answer my hobby phone while I am at home relaxing, so if you don't email me you will probably not get an appointment. If I have seen you before then you are welcome to book a same day appointment. Originally Posted by Andrea Davis
I would imagine that providers tend to lean toward planned, as opposed to same-day, while the guys might lean toward same-day, or a split. I don't hobby all that often at the moment, but there are some days that I just have an itch that needs to be scratched (Hmmm...maybe using the itch analogy is a poor choice... ).
swarmyone's Avatar
I'm a same-day kinda guy (within 2 hours is even better). I personally don't understand how you can plan something like that out several days in advance. When I'm hungry, I want to eat. I don't make reservations for next Thursday.
Philhelm's Avatar
I'm a same-day kinda guy (within 2 hours is even better). I personally don't understand how you can plan something like that out several days in advance. When I'm hungry, I want to eat. I don't make reservations for next Thursday. Originally Posted by swarmyone
That's how I am. It's worse if it is in the evening, since I'm not rude enough to call someone after a certain time, unless I know that she is awake and posts her hours of availability. The problem is that it is harder to find someone sometimes. A night like tonight, for instance. I wish I knew of some providers that are night owls.
I like both.

I schedule certain days to work each week so that I'm able to see a gent if he calls short notice. As long as his reference's check out, we're fine.

If a gent calls on a day I'm not working, he'll get my voicemail informing him I'm not working that day and asking him to leave a message/email or call back the next day.

Planning a visit days or weeks in advance is usually for when I'm touring, a gent is planning a trip to Omaha or one of my domme/fetish sessions. As a few of you have said already, there's nothing sexy about planning for an encounter days in advance.
Sens55's Avatar
Both. When I travle & my window of opportunity is smaller I tend to plan ahead. In town its 50/50. Sometimes I can plan. But sometimes I have unexpected time & like to take advantage of it.
Planned please!

Sunday afternoon I got a call from a gent, the time was 1:44 pm. He would love to see me he says. Great I say, when did you have in mind? Well, I'm on break from work, so I was thinking maybe in the next 15-20 minutes?"

At this point, the top of my head blew off. What precisely am I supposed to do to be ready to greet a gentleman in 15? That gives me enough time to do a wh(re wipe I suppose. Hair? Forget it. Makeup? Well, maybe I can throw on some lipstick. How's the incall look? Ok, I can toss the coffee cup in the sink and make up the bed real quick.

So lets just forget the ambience, the styled hair, the fresh grooming with the Lady Schick, and the sexy costuming then.

I'm all for spontaneity, and I can generally accomodate same day requests with ease. But if spontaneous means "Hi there, can I come right over?" The answer will always be no, you can't. At a minimum, an hour and preferably longer so I can plan my day is appreciated. I plan my schedule around my gentleman's schedules, so the more notice the better.
Philhelm's Avatar
Planned please!

Sunday afternoon I got a call from a gent, the time was 1:44 pm. He would love to see me he says. Great I say, when did you have in mind? Well, I'm on break from work, so I was thinking maybe in the next 15-20 minutes?"

At this point, the top of my head blew off. What precisely am I supposed to do to be ready to greet a gentleman in 15? That gives me enough time to do a wh(re wipe I suppose. Hair? Forget it. Makeup? Well, maybe I can throw on some lipstick. How's the incall look? Ok, I can toss the coffee cup in the sink and make up the bed real quick.

So lets just forget the ambience, the styled hair, the fresh grooming with the Lady Schick, and the sexy costuming then.

I'm all for spontaneity, and I can generally accomodate same day requests with ease. But if spontaneous means "Hi there, can I come right over?" The answer will always be no, you can't. At a minimum, an hour and preferably longer so I can plan my day is appreciated. I plan my schedule around my gentleman's schedules, so the more notice the better. Originally Posted by SinsOfTheFlesh
Fifteen minutes is definitely pushing it. Whenever I haven't planned, I simply tell the provider that I was looking to so her today, and then ask her what time would be appropriate. I have seen providers within an hour of calling them, but that is based on their discretion. Besides, I like to be showered right before leaving, so that I'm at my freshest, so I also usually need some time.
N2SEX46's Avatar
Guess I'm in the minority, but I prefer planned. To me, it's like a vacation where I want to put my everyday stress away and focus solely on the young lady I am to see. I plan for business trips, which I'm in now in Tampa and a beautiful girl is all I want to have on my mind. I don't know what Tampa has yet as I haven't done any serious looking, except that I booked Adriana Deville over in Orlando for today (Tuesday). I missed her by a day in Kansas City but she graciously consented to see me. I'll send my review of her to the KC ECCIE. I know she's pricey, but.............oh well, I'm going for it to see what all the hoopla is with this PSE Star.
Hope the weather is better up there. I don't miss the snow.
Sens55's Avatar
I see both sides. SOF, you and I have had a hard time hooking up because I usually have time unexpectedly in the afternoon and you prefer to have a guy call in the morning to make a date later in the day. That's just not always possible, but I completely appreciate your reasoning for doing so. But other girls, if you don't hit them in that "come now" mindset, good luck getting them later.

My experience is, some girls are good at time management and some have never heard the word. Nothing is more frustrating than when I make a date out of town. We have an agreed up on time and location in advance, and the date is NCNS, or extremely late or some other BS that basically ruins the date, and takes away all my available play time that day. And when you're on the road and don't know as many girls, that usually means you're stagging it.

So, again, I see both sides and thankfully different girls do it differently, so it gives me options. When I have unexpected play time, I can go for the short-notice girls, and when I know in advance I will have time, I make a date a day or two (or up to a week) ahead.
I also prefer to plan ahead. But when planning ahead I will typically book a multiple hours session. or possibly even an overnighter (w/ the right girl). But with some girls, planning can be difficult, as their availability can be unpredictable. For these types planning ahead means "are you ready now?".

Nothing worse than scheduling a couple of days ahead, and then when the time comes they don't show and when you call their cell phone it goes directly to voice mail or "mailbox is full".

Then you get their call a day later saying sorry...how about we connect tonight? Very frustrating!
Incall must ALWAYS be planned. Outcall I keep available for established clients and I try to accommodate last minute requests. But I never accept a last minute appointment from someone I haven't seen because there is no time to check them out.
raedy4funn45's Avatar
Since I travlel often, I try and plan ahead, but not usually for a specific day. At least I can get the screening out of the way. But occasionally I just have that urge and hope for luck within an hour or two.