I have been in the hobby, sad to say, for 17 years. I can say that my tastes have changed dramatically.
In my earlier years, just being with a sexy provider was enough to fulfill my hobby appetite, but my needs and tastes have definitely changed.
For a lot of hobbyists... CBJ is a deal breaker. For me, I am not a big BJ hobbyist. My tour de force is kissing.
So my discussion question is: "Why do providers not want to kiss?" Is it a) hygiene, b) the looks of the hobbyist, c) too much intimacy, etc.
Maybe this has been discussed before, I just don't remember seeing anything on it.
In closing, entering into the holiday season I want to wish you and yours the best.
Max