im very confused

i have been seeing this provider for a yr and a half now. we got real close. she was getting more distant these last 6 months or so and almost impossible to set up a appoinment with.finally the other night she showed up real late. i ask her if she was still my provider and she said no. i have done so much for this girl. but the more i done for her the more got taken away from me. now she said were friends. that she doesnt do her friends. ladies is this a normal thing or what? i ask her to reconcider and she give me the option of being either a friend or a client which meant i would pay the same as the rest and i wouldnt contact her unless its to set a appointment. no hanging out with her or giving her rides.i have been doing this all along paying the same then alot more. i picked being her friend although the client sounds a whole lot better and cheaper. the thing i dont get is i thought we were friends all along. i do care deeply about her and shes a whole lot of fun. i just cant figure it all out.

i have been seeing this provider for a yr and a half now. we got real close. she was getting more distant these last 6 months or so and almost impossible to set up a appoinment with.finally the other night she showed up real late. i ask her if she was still my provider and she said no. i have done so much for this girl. but the more i done for her the more got taken away from me. now she said were friends. that she doesnt do her friends. ladies is this a normal thing or what? i ask her to reconcider and she give me the option of being either a friend or a client which meant i would pay the same as the rest and i wouldnt contact her unless its to set a appointment. no hanging out with her or giving her rides.i have been doing this all along paying the same then alot more. i picked being her friend although the client sounds a whole lot better and cheaper. the thing i dont get is i thought we were friends all along. i do care deeply about her and shes a whole lot of fun. i just cant figure it all out. Originally Posted by jeffro5024

there alot more to it that it would take forever write it all. i feel like she played alot of head games.

Personal relationships are always more complicated than p4p. I am sure she likes your financial support, but may be struggling trying to mix business relationships with personal ones. You aren't the first guy to struggle with having personal feelings with a woman who makes her living doing this!

You are trying to be friends with someone who sees you as a meal ticket?

It does not sound like relationship material to me...it sounds like business...no feelings, no emotion, and definitely nothing genuine about it.

I have tried it myself once before...someone who lives two lives and lies to everyone about everything is not someone that can actually ever be trusted.

What is real? What is a lie?

If you have to ask then you are already on the wrong track brother!

All she cares about is what you can do to benefit her if you are no longer a benefit then she moves along to the next tard.. She did play games & you are probably an easy target and she took full advantage of it..

At the end of the day this is a Buisness

You probably got to clingy & she threw you away like a used condom full of nutt..

Not all girls take advantage but there are many that do...

Thanks you all for the words of wisdom. Now i know im not completely nuts. mark it up as a lesson learned. A very expensive one. The $ is'nt what bothers me I can make more. its the time i put into it for nothing. Thats something i cant get back. On the bright side i get to start exploring again.

Good for you.

Some lessons hurt and others are expensive.

It us not how you were knocked down but how you get back up and move forward that really matters.

Thanks you all for the words of wisdom. Now i know im not completely nuts. mark it up as a lesson learned. A very expensive one. The $ is'nt what bothers me I can make more. its the time i put into it for nothing. Thats something i cant get back. On the bright side i get to start exploring again. Originally Posted by jeffro5024

I know money isn't the issue but your feelings & your time are & thats what she initially took advantage of & thats so not cool... Good luck to you

Good for you.

Some lessons hurt and others are expensive.

It us not how you were knocked down but how you get back up and move forward that really matters. Originally Posted by looking4justtonight

Couldn't have said it better !

I went through a very similar situation. My girl was not a provider, just a girl 28 years younger. It started out awesome but it seemed as she started having true feelings for me she started pulling away. Sexually. We are still freinds. She does have a husband so it was complicated. Even though I miss her i just chalk it up as great memories.

Went thru the same thing on a non provider billyj but I was the one that had the feelings and very hard to get over

She still wants to be friends and I'm good with that. It's really not her fault. It was this dumbass writing this that deep down knew it wasn't real fault. I mean she played some dirty cards. It went as far as having a child together something that when I met her was one of her questions. She ask if I wanted kids and I said hell no im to old to think of that. She wanted one bad supposedly. Somewhere along the way I was her sugar daddy. I said hell no dont you put that title on me Ricky bobby. Then it was boy friend. That lasted.l all of 2weeks. I was smothering her. When she realized I was done she played her ace in the hole eye make a baby you would make a wonderful dad. A few attempts then she don't ant to do that anymore. What a dumbass I am I was hooked thinking she was for real. Just to help out understanding this. First night we met while talking getting that nervous feeling to go away we found out we grew up in the same little small town l. Although she's a lot younger I did remember seeing her. That's what got me so tied up with her after that I was comfortable.

Awwee! So sorry that happened to you- the kindest of hearts get torn, but like you said- you can explore again. Make-up sex has been some of the best sex ever had! Smile and keep your chin up