Feel like I'm coming out again!!

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I'm coming out of my cave!
As some of you may know, I take my RW career pretty seriously, and I'm constantly pushing for more. So this past 10 days I pretty locked myself in the house and completed all my applications to grad school. Only coming out for tofurky!
I've missed the hobby so much! and I'm very excited to be hosting incalls tomorrow. I'll be making an ad about that shortly, because this isn't one
Anyway, I'll soon begin prep for interviews (as PhD programs require interviews) and would love pointers from you who have experienced the trials of grad school?!?

Also, if you bothered reading this far what would you think if I changed my provider name. I want to do something more romantic, but still catchy. I have something in mind, but don't want to reveal it yet. But is it even worth the trouble? Do men even care like that?
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* give examples of how you approached & overcame problems and/or obstacles
* give examples of how you improved a process, product, a team, etc and cite ballpark figures of improvement
* give examples of how you helped others achieve a common goal or their own goal
* give examples of how you adapted to new situations

bottom line, how you have achieved and helped others achieve, not just "i took xyz class and was in top 10%" or "i was an xyzon my last proj/team/class". results not roles and how you got those results.


also, make sure you answer the interviewer's question - dont just go on & on & on (i did that on too many interviews but learned not to).

thank them for the opportunity and their time.

think of questions you have about the program, college, other students, etc - show interest in them.


good luck!!
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A. Why a doctorate? Unless you’re wanting to teach they’re worthless and actually limiting in most careers.

B. I do pay attention to names to hopefully get a flavor of the gal - I’m not bringing flowers to “Cum Guzzle Susie”.
These are mighty fine questions...and I believe to be the perfect place to ask for opinions about changing your name...

Welcome back to our corner of the universe again....
I agree with PMDelites. Also think of what they can ask that you don't know, not what you already know. Someone on the committee will try to send you a curve ball.
Also remember there names and address them by name. Look them in the eye, as eye contact is vital. If you are not good at it, practice.
Answer their questions directly and briefly. Don't go out on a tangent and don't blurt out non relevant info. Pause briefly before you answer.
If there is any feel of loss of control, pause for 15 seconds. Silence will break the spell.
Get to the site of the interview well ahead of time. Turn off your car, radio, phone and take 15 minutes to focus on the interview, visualize and compose yourself from the drive, any other distractions. Walk into the site with a clear and crisp mind
And most of all, just be yourself. Share your passion for your chosen field and what it means to you and why you want this opportunity. Don't be sugary, just be real.
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... what would you think if I changed my provider name. I want to do something more romantic, but still catchy. Originally Posted by tiatate
Romantic and catchy? Venérea is available UITB.
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  • 11-29-2017, 01:27 PM
Also, if you bothered reading this far what would you think if I changed my provider name. I want to do something more romantic, but still catchy. I have something in mind, but don't want to reveal it yet. But is it even worth the trouble? Do men even care like that? Originally Posted by tiatate
I don't give a provider's name much thought. Too many ladies use "VIP" or "courtesan" in an effort to make them seem upscale (which they may or may not be). I do appreciate a somewhat unique name that fits the provider's appearance and/or MO.

I DO NOT like it when ladies change names. I understand doing it for safety reasons, but, other than that, it just seems like they've got something to hide, like they're trying to run away from a bad reputation, when they change their name.

TLDR: From my perspective, we don't care about your name, we care about your rep. Your reviews are FAR more important than your name.
hope you dont take this the wrong way but do you think it's prudent to put your face and academic credentials out there? you dont think it can come back to haunt you in a big way?

I didnt even prepare for my interview, my advisors (plural as it was a multidisciplinary program) and the board already knew my work so didnt have to impress anyone explicitly. probably woulda been a different story if I had applied to another school.
tiatate's Avatar
* give examples of how you approached & overcame problems and/or obstacles
* give examples of how you improved a process, product, a team, etc and cite ballpark figures of improvement
* give examples of how you helped others achieve a common goal or their own goal
* give examples of how you adapted to new situations

bottom line, how you have achieved and helped others achieve, not just "i took xyz class and was in top 10%" or "i was an xyzon my last proj/team/class". results not roles and how you got those results.


also, make sure you answer the interviewer's question - dont just go on & on & on (i did that on too many interviews but learned not to).

thank them for the opportunity and their time.

think of questions you have about the program, college, other students, etc - show interest in them.


good luck!! Originally Posted by pmdelites
I agree with PMDelites. Also think of what they can ask that you don't know, not what you already know. Someone on the committee will try to send you a curve ball.
Also remember there names and address them by name. Look them in the eye, as eye contact is vital. If you are not good at it, practice.
Answer their questions directly and briefly. Don't go out on a tangent and don't blurt out non relevant info. Pause briefly before you answer.
If there is any feel of loss of control, pause for 15 seconds. Silence will break the spell.
Get to the site of the interview well ahead of time. Turn off your car, radio, phone and take 15 minutes to focus on the interview, visualize and compose yourself from the drive, any other distractions. Walk into the site with a clear and crisp mind
And most of all, just be yourself. Share your passion for your chosen field and what it means to you and why you want this opportunity. Don't be sugary, just be real. Originally Posted by lipsandhipster
Thanks guys, such good points, many things I hadn't even thought of!!! I appreciate it.

A. Why a doctorate? Unless you’re wanting to teach they’re worthless and actually limiting in most careers.

B. I do pay attention to names to hopefully get a flavor of the gal - I’m not bringing flowers to “Cum Guzzle Susie”. Originally Posted by TheEccie214
Yea unfortunately its pretty much impossible to get to where I aspire to be in my career.
Lol good point, so Ms. Guzzle wont be receiving flowers, only cum to guzzle.
tiatate's Avatar
Romantic and catchy? Venérea is available UITB. Originally Posted by chicagoboy
Lmaooooo good one. Sadly it really is a romantic like name

I don't give a provider's name much thought. Too many ladies use "VIP" or "courtesan" in an effort to make them seem upscale (which they may or may not be). I do appreciate a somewhat unique name that fits the provider's appearance and/or MO.

I DO NOT like it when ladies change names. I understand doing it for safety reasons, but, other than that, it just seems like they've got something to hide, like they're trying to run away from a bad reputation, when they change their name.

TLDR: From my perspective, we don't care about your name, we care about your rep. Your reviews are FAR more important than your name. Originally Posted by Crock
You are totally right, It sometimes does seem that way, that the provider is running from something. I also suspect they may have just been younger and out grew their old name.

hope you dont take this the wrong way but do you think it's prudent to put your face and academic credentials out there? you dont think it can come back to haunt you in a big way?

I didnt even prepare for my interview, my advisors (plural as it was a multidisciplinary program) and the board already knew my work so didnt have to impress anyone explicitly. probably woulda been a different story if I had applied to another school. Originally Posted by darkwader
I don't think it's the best road to keep my anonymity, however I try to be as vague as possible. But there wouldn't be a "college girls" category on most escort malls if being highly educated wasn't an asset in this line of work.

Thanks for the advice though! Hopefully I will have enough notoriety to be on their radar before the interview. Top choices are out of state though, so I'll keep to crossing my fingers.
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Lmaooooo good one. Sadly it really is a romantic like name



You are totally right, It sometimes does seem that way, that the provider is running from something. I also suspect they may have just been younger and out grew their old name.



I don't think it's the best road to keep my anonymity, however I try to be as vague as possible. But there wouldn't be a "college girls" category on most escort malls if being highly educated wasn't an asset in this line of work.

Thanks for the advice though! Hopefully I will have enough notoriety to be on their radar before the interview. Top choices are out of state though, so I'll keep to crossing my fingers. Originally Posted by tiatate
I really don't think that has much to do with being "highly educated". I would venture to guess it is much more about the allure of being with a "young, hot college girl" than it is about level of education.

I don't think most guys are looking at those girls thinking, "Man, that PhD is so fucking hot! I can't wait to hear about her dissertation!" Lol.
New name? Considering you'll be a graduate student, how about Mrs. Robinson? Of course, only us old fuckers will get it.
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* give examples of how you approached & overcame problems and/or obstacles
* give examples of how you improved a process, product, a team, etc and cite ballpark figures of improvement
* give examples of how you helped others achieve a common goal or their own goal
* give examples of how you adapted to new situations

bottom line, how you have achieved and helped others achieve, not just "i took xyz class and was in top 10%" or "i was an xyzon my last proj/team/class". results not roles and how you got those results.


also, make sure you answer the interviewer's question - dont just go on & on & on (i did that on too many interviews but learned not to).

thank them for the opportunity and their time.

think of questions you have about the program, college, other students, etc - show interest in them.


good luck!! Originally Posted by pmdelites


I think this is the most serious answer you've ever given on this board. Very well said Sir
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Hooker logic rules!
tiatate's Avatar
New name? Considering you'll be a graduate student, how about Mrs. Robinson? Of course, only us old fuckers will get it. Originally Posted by Billogoods
Lmao Good one!! I'm currently building a new site, trying to incorporate "Ms.Tate" in there a little more too!

Hooker logic rules! Originally Posted by Bob the Nailer
Lol dont even know what you mean? Care to explain?