To respond? Or not to respond?

I am new here to eccie, and still fairly new to the hobby, so as I'm trying to learn the 'ways of the world' I have found that I've hit a few snags. ONe of my main problems is being able to prove that I am "legit"... I am on p411, and I have a review up here on ECCIE, but I am still not sure how cautious I need to be when handing out this information. Here is where I have really hit a road block- and am hoping for some help/advice -

A few days ago I got an email from a gent responding to my bp ad. I'm not going to list his name, but let's just say it was very obviously NOT his real name (unless of course, he was named after a very famous author!!) We had some troubles finding a time that our schedules synched up due to me moving, traveling, him working, etc. FInally, he wrote last night saying he would have time (his last day in town I think?) on Friday afternoon - perfect! Me too! As far as verification, I asked for his information, and he was hesitant to give it out. I asked if he had provider references early on and he originally said no. Then, after we finally found a time our schedules worked, he said he'd seen one girl a few weeks ago and could find her number. I told him provider references would be fine, but i'd also need a real name and phone number. He just sent me an email saying that he felt something was off, and that I needed to prove to him that I was legit.

Now, this concerns me a bit - do I just drop it, and find my business elsewhere? Or do I stick around, and just try to understand that he is as worried about his safety as I am with mine? I'm willing to share my p411/review info in order to assure that I am who I say I am, but something seems a little off with this one (and maybe that's my cue to trust my gut?)

Sorry this got a little lengthy, but I really appreciate all the help!

xo
Kathleen

My advice to you if he isn't trying to cooperate with you and has no references or belongs to any review/verification board....I would leave it alone!!!it's best to be safe then sorry;-)

He is trying to get around screening, not worth the time.

You're also willing to give him your real name, right?

He's already got my real name-- I'm not asking for first, middle, last and social number... I was more looking for something a bit more than his um... theatrical version of his name listed on his email. I understand a lot of men aren't comfortable with sharing all of their personal details, and that's fine, but that shoots up a lot of red flags when he won't give me ANYthing. I guess it was more of a question of should I be worried, or am I being overly paranoid?

Always go with your gut when it says to be careful

Ladies never let your purse tell you what to do. Just like guys should never let their little head tell them what to do.

My rules are always that if I am going to make a mistake it is going to be from being too careful and maybe missing out but living to play another day.

My rules are always that if I am going to make a mistake it is going to be from being too careful and maybe missing out but living to play another day. Originally Posted by catnipdipper

+1

See who you want to see...that goes for guys and gals. But under no circumstances would I ever tell a provider my real name or where I work. Just because someone is reluctant to give such personal info, it doesn't mean something hinky is going on. Sometimes we may things much more difficult than they need to be.

Go with your gut feeling. There will be plenty of others who are screenable and safe.

Go with your gut feeling always Miss K, also since your on p411 & have a review here you should be able to get verified provider status and that would help with the "legit" issue. plus you could do a showcase as well.
Good luck sweetie

Go with your gut feeling always Miss K, also since your on p411 & have a review here you should be able to get verified provider status and that would help with the "legit" issue. plus you could do a showcase as well.
Good luck sweetie Originally Posted by Sweet N Little

Well if the mods would hurry up and verify me!! (jk jk jk) I sent in my info, just waiting to hear back, and hoping I get vp status sooooooon!!!

Thanks

I feel certain that maybe if you had a vouch from someone of my tremendously insignificant stature that...um, well its gonna be hard if....um,wait....the ups and downs of a situation like.....um, hell, just come to KC this weekend and I'm sure we can get the balls rolling.....oh, um,....I mean I'm sure we can get something working babe!

Kathleen, I see you have a website which is a good thing. Send them there or p411 for screening. and as others have already said always LISTEN to your gut instincts. And welcome to your little world.