To talk or NOT to talk... that is the question

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So Ive talked about another provider a few times to clients... and was pretty brief and to the point. I let them know that she doesnt see new clients, because she has her own clientele, but yet then later on, she asks me if I know 'so and so' and if hes good to go, I will tell her the truth, like always, and it ends up they see her.
My issue is this. I know guys like variety, (TRUST ME I do) but when they move me aside and see her, it really does kinda hurt my feelings alittle. (same way with her) Her and I over all, have a TOTALLY different clientele because we offer different things and are COMPLETELY different people physically and personality wise. I dont mind if a client sees us both on different occasions, but please dont see the 'other' one right after seeing one or the other of us. Oh and dont post something where we 'providers' can see with both of our names in it.
Its just out of respect for us both.
The only one or two people who have a say so on a client's dick is the client and/or his wife.

A provider telling a client when/where/who and why is like me telling my college I shouldn't have to pay for classes. Ain't gonna happen doll.

He can see both of you ladies the same day if he wants. Its his money, his dick and his right.

As you said, men love variety. All you're doing with this post is leading men to believe you're a possessive provider.
Ms Elena...
I wasnt trying to come off as possessive, just saying keeping things alittle more confidental would be nice. Us providers dont always want to know who you have been with.
Then tell the guys that you prefer NOT to talk about another provider during your sessions.

If I were a guy who hobbied, the last thing I'd do is talk about another provider during my time with a chickette.
I am sure all providers are possessive about their clients - to one extent or another. However, the rule in the hobby is that neither client nor provider should be OVERLY possessive. I know Autumn and I am sure she is not being overly possessive. She is just saying that something that most ladies feel - I am sure of that. I have known other gals who would go out of their way to bad mouth other providers in order to keep a client from seeing someone else. that is not Autumn's style.

Charlie
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Maybe the client gave you as a reference. If the client knows you are friends then using you as a reference gets him verified quicker. At least in his mind. He does not mean to be disrespectful and if he mentions it during an appointment it may just be casual conversation. That being the case request talking about something else that is sexy in nature to take his mind off the other lady.
Talk to Autumn about others NO NO my time with her is way more fun when she is in a position that makes it hard for me to speak.
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A client & provider talk.....I would have never thought LOL
I would imagine most guys would agree, if I'm with a provider and she speaks poorly of another...in reality she is the one that looks bad in my eyes.

At the same time, unless I'm looking for a provider's referemce, I would never discuss who else I have been with...or is going to be with. I would think most providers wouldn't care, plus I think it would as disrespectful to her, as it would be to me, if she began talking about other guys she has visited....just my opinion.

Everyone as the right to be with who they want, to charge/or pay what they want.
To do with whoever they want (as long as it's safe). We are all supposed be grown
adults.

However respect, discretion, and enjoyable fun time (and making $$'s) should be the
goal for all of us.
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  • jan-w
  • 06-03-2011, 05:20 PM
Not sure I see the problem here.

As a client, I enjoy a little pillow talk after the activities. In my experience, yes, sometimes the convo does drift to other ladies in the biz. So what? I don't see why this should bother the lady.

And how does this jibe with references? I don't see any harm in asking a lady I'm with if she will provide a reference to see someone else, even if it's a friend or roommate. After all, it's just business. Men do like variety. Maybe this week, I like blondes; Maybe next week, I like brunettes. Maybe this week, I like curvy; Maybe next week, I like skinny.

How can we handle the references part if a lady objects to giving a reference just because it's a friend of hers?
Maybe I am not really understanding what is being said here. I am not seeing where or what the problem is? Are we talking about one specific hobbyist or all of them?

If your clients seeing other ladies bothers you, then maybe this is the wrong business. These review boards are to share valuable information, so yes, you might see that your clients are seeing other ladies.

Perhaps I am a little confused here, and if so, I apologize.

Lux
I dont mind giving references to my clients... sometimes they are looking for a specific and I will gladly do what I can to help them with that. That isnt the issue. I totally understand that everyone is entitled to do/see/talk to whoever they want and noone is really the judge of that... but thats NOT what I was saying.
Im having a hard time putting it in writing right now...
Let me see if I can help you break this down. If I'm wrong, please tell me and I'll set it right.



So Ive talked about another provider a few times to clients... and was pretty brief and to the point. (Did you bring her up or did they? No matter how it happens, be cordial and never speak negative of her. Don't tell them she doesn't see new clients because she obviously does. If they ask about her, just be nice and say something like, "Maybe you should contact her and see what she says.") I let them know that she doesnt see new clients, because she has her own clientele, but yet then later on, she asks me if I know 'so and so' and if hes good to go, I will tell her the truth, like always, and it ends up they see her. (She must see new clients if she keeps asking for a reference. So she's lying to you that she doesn't see new clients. You should always tell the truth if a guy is good or not. Don't become a lady who doesn't give references. Even if it hurts your feelings.)


My issue is this. I know guys like variety, (TRUST ME I do) but when they move me aside and see her, it really does kinda hurt my feelings alittle. Darlin', these guys will come back and see you if you treated them good and they had a great time. It shouldn't hurt your feelings, guys are going to see who they wish and there's nothing we can do about it. It happens to all the ladies. (same way with her) Her and I over all, have a TOTALLY different clientele because we offer different things and are COMPLETELY different people physically and personality wise. I dont mind if a client sees us both on different occasions, but please dont see the 'other' one right after seeing one or the other of us. Oh and dont post something where we 'providers' can see with both of our names in it.

Its just out of respect for us both. Again, these guys are free to post a review when they wish, afterall that's what this board is for...to share information whether its good or bad. Does it hurt your feelings or the other lady when a guy sees you one right after the other? It shouldn't. We have no rights to these guys. We all get a tad bit possessive sometime's, but we have no right to. That's the time when you take a step back and realize that we're their fantasy, not their reality. It takes all the fun out of this wonderful world of hobbying when things become too real (relationship wise) for some.

Sit back, take a deep breath and treat your clients good so they will keep coming back to see you. Don't worry if they're seeing your friend or anyone else, just think about the times they spend with you and if you can or need to make it better for not only them, but you.
Originally Posted by Autumnkc
Is this a joke?? Hobbyists can see who ever they want. What is this world coming too?? Now hobbyists need to be loyal to providers? Whats the point. OK then ask yourself how they feel when you go see other guys. Your putting too much into this.
When Marilyn and I were sharing an incall, after I helped her get verified and everything, guys would ask me about her all the time and I always told every client that they should definitely see her. That is what you do when you have provider friends. You should help each other out.
Some clients would blow one of us off for the other, we got used to it, it's the way it works in this lifestyle. Sometimes they can't make up their mind who they want to see that day and they're entitled to change their minds just like everyone else in the world.
If one or the other of us had to cancel, we would suggest the other one to the client, that way he didn't feel too bad about getting canceled on and he got to meet at least one of us.
That's how it works, don't feel bad, there are enough clients to go around and you'll see that sharing clients can actually be fun. Especially in a doubles session...
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