It was bound to happen sooner or later.

slimpickens54's Avatar
I have a confession to make. I broke the cardinal rule and fell for a kgirl provider. She is in an AAMP in NorCal, but I’m posting here because this is my home community and if anyone can relate to the allure of a beautiful asian companion and the simplicity of the AMP environment, it’s this group. Plus, this is not the kind of thing I can get off my chest at home!

I’ve seen here several times ove the past three months as work has taken me to the area. She leaves for Korea in 7 days, so not possible to see her again. Saw her last week for the last time. A little pillow talk as the session is ending and she looks at me with a solemn expression and asks, “is this the last time?”. A few minutes later she touches my cheek and says she’ll miss me and, BAM...felt like I was hit by a truck, and realized I have fallen for this girl...HARD.

Naturally, the reality is I fell for the fantasy, as I really know very little about her. We’re connected on K-Talk, but like mine, it’s an alias identity. And, while there is no doubt a personal connection, the magnitude is clearly one-sided. Plus, there’s the whole RW life thing. Even with all of these rational thoughts, I’ve still been walking around in a funk for a week. I’m such an idiot.

Bestman200600's Avatar
You need to test drive it for six months. If that works out, dive in. Good luck.
Ronin3's Avatar
Been there. Done that. Total failure after 5 years of off and on. Feel your pain. But still a believer it can work out. It did for my best friend. 10 years and still going strong.
#metoo
I am right there with you. I have been carrying on an outside the spa relationship with my atf for over two years now. I know there is a real possibility it could come crashing down anytime.However, right now things are good, she's beautiful, Im happy and satisfied. If and when it does crash I can look back and still say it was worth it.
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What's your RW status? Single or is there an S/O?

If you're single and really want to see what's there, book a two week trip to Korea. Tickets are cheap and will be even cheaper after mid-August when the heavy travel season ends. If she'll host you in her home city, introduce you to her family, etc. then that tells you something. Also gives you a chance to see her in her natural environment. If she balks, then that gives you your answer.

OTOH, if there's an S/O in the picture then you've got a much bigger risk. You pretty much have to be prepared to walk away from a known thing for something that may or may not be there. Most likely may not. Do you really want to walk away?

One more thing to think about. How much do you like kimchi?
It's okay to walk around in a funk, reflect and reminisce. But do your self a favor and delete k-talk or block her and put it behind you. You have a RW life and probably more than you want to sacrifice personally and professionally if this came to light.
What's your RW status? Single or is there an S/O?

If you're single and really want to see what's there, book a two week trip to Korea. Tickets are cheap and will be even cheaper after mid-August when the heavy travel season ends. If she'll host you in her home city, introduce you to her family, etc. then that tells you something. Also gives you a chance to see her in her natural environment. If she balks, then that gives you your answer.

OTOH, if there's an S/O in the picture then you've got a much bigger risk. You pretty much have to be prepared to walk away from a known thing for something that may or may not be there. Most likely may not. Do you really want to walk away?

One more thing to think about. How much do you like kimchi? Originally Posted by billw1032

Go to Korea and let her host him? That's how you get your organs illegally harvested. Not even joking. Look it up


Guy said he's seen her for the past "several months". Need to get your feelings in check man maybe this isn't the game for you smdh
slimpickens54's Avatar
One more thing to think about. How much do you like kimchi? Originally Posted by billw1032
Thanks for the levity. Kimchi is definitely an acquired taste. One I haven’t mastered!

Walking away from RW/SO is not in the cards. Just different needs at this stage, not dissatisfied.

The one-night-stand, no drama nature is what I like about the AMP environment. I think it was the added intimacy of the Apartment AMP environment that pierced the veil, so to speak, in this case.
Man I feel for you buddy that feeling of if you're not gonna be able to see them again after hearing goodbye.
this is just for fun man, as long as happy hr over yougo back to where you belong man, if more than that it may bring you more trouble man
We've all had at least one gal (or vehicle) that has made us feel this way. But, the truth is that you haven't really "fallen" for someone if you are not willing to chuck it all and go balls to the wall to stay together.

So, let it go. Miss her a bunch. Find a new sack mate. After all, you were able to find someone to fill the gap in your RW relationship. A little shopping & the right amount of money will get you another one.

Sex is the worst basis of a relationship. It always goes bad, at some point. Then, you're shopping, again.

If it's love you need, love your wife. The more you love her, the less you'll care about KGirl.

Better yet, forget about the SO & the KGirl and buy an old hot rod or motorcycle.
love cant replace good sex that why we are here
billw1032's Avatar
Go to Korea and let her host him? That's how you get your organs illegally harvested. Not even joking. Look it up Originally Posted by Ferdinand II of Aragon
Well, I did 5 minutes of searching (all I had time for) and the articles I found said what's going on is Korean patients going to China looking for organ transplants. Speculation is that the source is Chinese prisoners who are members of disfavored groups like Falun Gong. I don't know about all that, but I've been to China A LOT recently and wouldn't be the least bit scared. But this is all OT.
Thanks for the levity. Kimchi is definitely an acquired taste. One I haven’t mastered!

Walking away from RW/SO is not in the cards. Just different needs at this stage, not dissatisfied.

The one-night-stand, no drama nature is what I like about the AMP environment. I think it was the added intimacy of the Apartment AMP environment that pierced the veil, so to speak, in this case. Originally Posted by slimpickens54
I think you just answered your own question. Take chitwoodstunts advice and cut off all communication and put it behind you. I made the same mistake with a stripper and I was in a funk for quite a while, but trust me you will get over it.

Sex is the worst basis of a relationship. It always goes bad, at some point. Then, you're shopping, again.
Originally Posted by Billogoods
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