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"I guess I don't see the connection either JR. Surely you're not suggesting the girl that KayC_K saw got punched somehow had it coming because she wasn't strong enough to walk away from an abusive relationship?"
First: Don't call me JR.
Second: Learn to read asshole learn some logic and quit putting words in my comments. I said nothing about the girl had it coming, idiot. No woman has it coming, not ever; and you know it.
Third: read what Carpenter says about how difficult it is for a woman to walk away from a situation.
Do we need to explain the various aspects of dependence to you? Emotional or otherwise?
And how azzholes can trap gals with it.
Of course I know that some guys prey on gals cause the guys are very good at getting gals trapped in a dependency situation. It doesn't matter what the label is, they are all scum.
And our entire community knows about these traps and that they can be very difficult to escape from. They are not just walk away from things as you infer. It takes phenomenal amounts of courage, it takes advice and support from personal friends. And sometimes it takes direct involvement from others.
Why do you keep embarrassing yourself to the community here.
And by the way, also embarassing yourself to a few gals at an east coast club that are reading this over my shoulder whom are bitching at me for not outright cussing you out for being clueless.
Ok Im done,and happy hr crowd is arriving.
Originally Posted by Unique_Carpenter
This is very well stated. Thank you Carpenter. You also should stop calling me JR. I am free to comment about what KayC_K said and attempt to give her some encouragement because she is right.
I should comment that what you say about the various aspects of dependency should also apply to the world outside of the hobby. Subordinate (we are all subordinate to our government) does not mean the same thing as submissive (meekly obedient or passive).
Society as a whole has a tendency to expect women to be obedient and passive making it difficult to teach young ladies the skills to be leaders of men, and women, and not submissive. Teaching leadership to young girls has always seemed to be difficult. It takes time and effort. Sports, public speaking, science and math all help. Most important, I insisted that the daughters and granddaughters take the hard courses in school.
Self confidence is developed by achievement over time.
A self confident woman would never allow abuse.