Exploring..... New to me.....

I couldn't decide whether to put this in the AR or here and decided here due to it being pretty tame...lol.

It's kind of interesting how some say that there is a provider out there for everyone...lol. I've never had a provider or civilian that I had a desire to explore fantasies with till now.

I'm pretty vanilla when it comes to those things and for the most part always will be. I don't consider myself dominant or submissive unless it's mutually done.

Just here recently I got to blindfold someone and it was a real turn on. It wasn't a dominating type thing but more just to make her wonder what I was gonna do. She seemed to enjoy so it makes me want to try it again. I wouldn't mind being blindfolded myself.

For those of you that have blindfolded or been blinfolded what are some of the things you have done or have had done to you that really turned you on?

If I were the one blindfolded it wouldn't take much to get me going. Ok let me clarify that, I'm ready to go as soon as we walk in the door, so I'm always turned on lol. I like light touches and it's interesting how someone can run their fingers over you without touching a certain area, and when they finally do it can make your knees buckle.

Also what is sensory deprivation all about. I think I have an idea but not sure. Is it like allowing someone to look but not touch or hear but not see type of stuff. For instance if I had a lady stradle my face while I licked but she wasn't allowed to touch? That sounds pretty erotic.

Just wanted to pick some brains and get some feedback along with ideas

Done a lot of this. Blindfolds are a lot of fun. To me sensory deprivation is when one sense (ie sight for example) is taken away. You have to then rely on hearing, taste, or feeling to know what is happening. If you're blindfolded and your partner is getting something out of a drawer, you'll hear that and really wonder what she's fixing to do. Or she just asks you to open your mouth and puts a honey coated finger or nipple in, or sprinkles powdered sugar on your lips and tongue. Or touches you with something unknown, say a cold stainless steel chain, our a soft rouge brush.
All your other senses are greatly heightened and the anticipation of what comes next is very exciting.

Trust is the key between the gent and lady when exploring blindfolded. I would never do this with someone that I've just met, only someone I feel completely comfortable with.

Blind fold makes me think of firing squad!?

you might be surprised if you try it

you might be surprised if you try it Originally Posted by Eccie Addict

Just when I thought you were starting to like me you want me to face a firing squad? LOL

Sounds fun Mr Addict... might give that a try! For NOW I'm still looking for that SPECIAL provider I can meet up with, have a session with out a single word being spoken! The quest goes on!

I think I might have found a provider I can do that with. Only problem is being heating impaired I get enough silence as it is, I like 'em loud...lol. I finally found that

Loud ones... The ones I've been married to always seem to be LOUD! LOL

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I think that putting a blindfold on someone when you don't really know them is fairly safe. You're not being bound while doing it if that's all you're doing.

When I play around with sensations, well nevermind, here are a few ideas for you:

Feathers or a feather boa.
The dull edge of a dinner knife.
Rope.
Silk.

Squeeze the juice from a piece of fruit that you like and lick if off of her.

Take a piece of leather and slowly just pull it across her stomach down to her pussy area. A scarf works well, too.

Hold an ice cube over her nipple and let it drip a few times on her nipple and then gently suck on it.

Just things like that will work nicely. This type of exploring doesn't have to be hardcore.

You know, anything that you see in the bedroom you can generally play around with, well if you have a bedroom like mine!

You can also feed someone while blindfolded. Think of ... what was that movie? 9 and 1/2 Weeks. (The book is better, by the way!)

Of course, any type of sexual activity is great while blindfolded.

Explore and have fun!

Elisabeth

Disclaimer: Just writing some ideas down off of the top of my head. There are no limits on what you can do while blindfolded. Not really.

Love the new avatar EW

IMO, one key to a blindfold is what the recipient is allowed to see BEFORE vision is taken away.

I will give an extreme example: have a welding torch & a branding iron in clear sight as the blindfold is applied. Fire up the torch & make considerable noise getting the temperature high enough to brand properly & reminding your partner that the pain will be temporary but the pride of having your name on her ass will be permanent.

Then the ice dildo presses against her ass. Hard to initially tell the difference between heat & cold... and an ice dildo is just plain Sadistic fun.

Obviously there is no small measure of mind fuck in this example. And the blindfold makes it all the more intense. More tame examples work too, of course. The human imagination is a powerful thing.

Removing sight is probably the most common thing when getting into the alternative lifestyle. Most of us are accustomed to seeing things all the time, and of course there is a high level of arousal that is associated with sight... mmmmhhh, just look at those tits/smile/hair/ass/legs/cock/chest/etc. It's part of the human condition I think. And blind people have always reported a hightening of the other senses, which just leads you down the path of sensual kink and domination.

Once you've removed their ability to see, you need to continue to work on getting them to the point where they can only feel. There are many gentle, and some not so gentle, ways to restrict their movement. Silk scarves, rope (strict or light), leather cuffs, even chains can all be used. Then you want to take away their ability to hear. A leather hood with ear plugs works well. But if you are lovers, or perhaps a tad creative, the best way to take away their hearing is to use earplugs connected to say a MP3 player, so they might hear gentle music, or perhaps you've recorded something in your own voice you want them to hear over and over... The truly sadistic person will record show tunes on the left channel and say something like the soundtrack to Yentil on the right channel. But that's best left to expert perverts!

Now you've got them to the point where they can only feel. Perhaps its a good time to get out the ginger plug for their bottom, or perhaps the dildo (ice anyone)? But mostly you've got their most erogenous area in a hightened state of arousal - their brain. If they have a good imagination, or have been properly prepped with all sorts of ideas, their own fantasies will start to kick in and all you need to do is be the catalyst to take them over the edge...again, and again, and again.

And notice that nothing I said was gender specific... everybody deserves a fun time!

Removing sight is probably the most common thing when getting into the alternative lifestyle. Most of us are accustomed to seeing things all the time, and of course there is a high level of arousal that is associated with sight... mmmmhhh, just look at those tits/smile/hair/ass/legs/cock/chest/etc. It's part of the human condition I think. And blind people have always reported a hightening of the other senses, which just leads you down the path of sensual kink and domination.

Once you've removed their ability to see, you need to continue to work on getting them to the point where they can only feel. There are many gentle, and some not so gentle, ways to restrict their movement. Silk scarves, rope (strict or light), leather cuffs, even chains can all be used. Then you want to take away their ability to hear. A leather hood with ear plugs works well. But if you are lovers, or perhaps a tad creative, the best way to take away their hearing is to use earplugs connected to say a MP3 player, so they might hear gentle music, or perhaps you've recorded something in your own voice you want them to hear over and over... The truly sadistic person will record show tunes on the left channel and say something like the soundtrack to Yentil on the right channel. But that's best left to expert perverts!

Now you've got them to the point where they can only feel. Perhaps its a good time to get out the ginger plug for their bottom, or perhaps the dildo (ice anyone)? But mostly you've got their most erogenous area in a hightened state of arousal - their brain. If they have a good imagination, or have been properly prepped with all sorts of ideas, their own fantasies will start to kick in and all you need to do is be the catalyst to take them over the edge...again, and again, and again.

And notice that nothing I said was gender specific... everybody deserves a fun time!

Originally Posted by Krunkman

You are on the right track. Stimulate the brain and the rest of the body will follow. This is a great thread, don't ya think? I swear, I have become an "AR" junkie!

Great ideas for a newbie...lol.

I'm learning alot here and appreciate all the advice. I don't really have any desire to fully dominate someone. A very mild, mutual experience would be more my taste. There is alot you can do though even being mild....