Making it interesting for her

Sir Lancehernot's Avatar
There's an old joke about Elizabeth Taylor's seventh husband saying about their wedding night, "I know what to do; I just don't know how to make it interesting."

But some of us enjoy providing pleasure to the other person, whether it's just because we like to do it or because we hope there may be a little added benefit of some kind that manifests itself as a result.

For those of us, I ask, "What can we do to make your time with us more enjoyable?", whether it's a BnG, a visit to VIP, or a visit where a bed might actually be employed -- knowing full well that there's no way that something you do three, four, five, six or more times a day can leave you feeling the same way it does a guy who gets to do it three or four times a year. You're sort of like the captain on the Disney jungle boat ride, while we're the passengers.

"Cum in five and have your ass out the door in 10."
"Who gives a flip? I'm not there for her. I'm there for me."
There, we got those two out of the way.
Samhyde's Avatar
Imagine for a moment you have to fuck somebody who is NOT your type. Is there anything this person can do to make it more interesting for you. Other than "hurry up and get the fuck out of there?"
mtabsw's Avatar
Fortunately, the providers I see are not the "are ya done yet?" types, or they're very good actresses - I prefer to believe the former.

I do usually make a point of telling them "I am definitely here for me, but have found life gets a lot better if you're enjoying it too - please don't hesitate to let me know if you'd like something ..." That sometimes pays off handsomely - a hot PYT recently confessed she's a big fan of a porn dude and sent me a link. We started discussing his costars and found one who is very similar in looks to her so agreed on a reenactment. HOT beyond belief - she had the toy, the outfit, and even threw in some activities that are usually not offered and when done, are hardly ever done with enthusiasm outside of K-town.

Lesson learned - share early and often what you like ladies & gents - good for all us.
SchnellerFahrer's Avatar
I do usually make a point of telling them "I am definitely here for me, but have found life gets a lot better if you're enjoying it too. Originally Posted by mtabsw
100% agree on this. I believe VERY strongly that shared experiences should be equally as fun and satisfying for BOTH. I write this in my P411 profile, and I mention it anytime I'm seeing someone for the 1st time.



Of course - YMMV with each person, with various levels of rapor and personalities, but for the ladies I see often....we have incredible great times together, sometimes with so much fun, sweating, O's, laughter, conversation, cuddling, and/or wall-rattling experiences (I'm thinking of YOU, K! *wink*).
For those ladies who are my favorites that I frequent often - I love it when you reach out, which I'll respond to immediately, and we have such great times together.

You make life SO much more FUN when we sincerely enjoy each other's company, I appreciate you tremendously and hope you feel the same!!
rexdutchman's Avatar
Fortunately, the providers I see are not the "are ya done yet?" types, or they're very good actresses - I prefer to believe the former, with good convo which makes the meeting interesting,,,,
mikehammer002001's Avatar
Only had one "are you done yet" and that was Singapore, for the most part I am truly grateful for those that give a good IOP, yeah I know I am not what they were hoping for but...
johnclark's Avatar
When providers say "Oh, I like anything, but nothing in particular" just give them a tittie twister until they tell you specifically what they like. Works every time.
The ladies that think that way don't usually last long, are extremely high volume/low rates, and don't have many repeats. One thing that has stuck with me since I began was "Find one thing you love in every single person you meet, and learn their story as to what they look for in a provider!" I do that, and I also don't do qv, I like to take my time with someone and find out their specific needs, I do MSOG, very gfe... Maybe I am wrong but a lot of girls who are not GFE don't really like the business as much. I am the type that doesn't believe in just half assing something. I don't understand how a girl can do something like that and just want to have a revolving door! I would much rather have frequently visiting friends than 10 new guys every day for qv and trying to hurry them all out! I am shocked at how many stories guys have told me about providers rushing them... makes 0 sense
Vanilla Gorilla's Avatar
The ladies that think that way don't usually last long, are extremely high volume/low rates, and don't have many repeats. One thing that has stuck with me since I began was "Find one thing you love in every single person you meet, and learn their story as to what they look for in a provider!" I do that, and I also don't do qv, I like to take my time with someone and find out their specific needs, I do MSOG, very gfe... Maybe I am wrong but a lot of girls who are not GFE don't really like the business as much. I am the type that doesn't believe in just half assing something. I don't understand how a girl can do something like that and just want to have a revolving door! I would much rather have frequently visiting friends than 10 new guys every day for qv and trying to hurry them all out! I am shocked at how many stories guys have told me about providers rushing them... makes 0 sense Originally Posted by NicoleBBW
Unfortunately you are in the minority of women that feel and think that way.

That is why YOU ARE SUCCESSFUL, Respected and BELOVED by men such as myself.
'TUNACAN''s Avatar
I tell the ladies I am here for me & I'm paying you to leave but this always works for me... The ladies get their cookies first.
Give her a huge O then do it again right quick unless she's sensitive down there, then you might want to back off that thing for a minute. I wasn't listening to my ATF and she was having one of those earth shattering massive O's while at the same time she was mumbling for me to back off and when I didn't she slugged me. I think I referred to it as selective hearing.