Screening - Personal Information

Mr.Frosty's Avatar
Hello! I'm pretty much a newbie, and was hoping to get some information on screening from more experienced people. Specifically, I was wondering how much personal information is normal to give when you are being screened? I completely respect and understand how important it is to screen thoroughly, but I'm also a bit reluctant to give too much personal information that could be tied to me. Thanks in advance, and feel free to message me if you'd prefer not post here. If only I had joined P411 back when they were accepting new people!
Savannah Moon's Avatar
Hello! I'm pretty much a newbie, and was hoping to get some information on screening from more experienced people. Specifically, I was wondering how much personal information is normal to give when you are being screened? I completely respect and understand how important it is to screen thoroughly, but I'm also a bit reluctant to give too much personal information that could be tied to me. Thanks in advance, and feel free to message me if you'd prefer not post here. If only I had joined P411 back when they were accepting new people! Originally Posted by Mr.Frosty
It is per provider choice what they require.if you feel it is too evasive, Then perhaps choose a different provider.
The question at that point is what is your range of comfort.
You will cross both ends of the spectrum depending upon the provider and the intensity of their screening.
So, determine your comfort zone..
Fsn57's Avatar
  • Fsn57
  • 03-08-2019, 08:19 AM
Some providers want personal identifying information, others do not require it. For the most part you can find enough quality providers such that you do not have to give out your personal information, particularly after you have a few references under your belt. You're right, P411 is a great option. Once you are verified with them, you never have to give out personal info to an individual provider.


I have never given out any personal information to a provider, but I see mostly P411 providers. For the occasional provider that is not P411, I don't give out any info that can lead back to me. Some may think this is being paranoid, but you don't know the provider any better than she knows you. Too many times that information has gotten used to the detriment of the client. In St. Louis, there is a provider (Brandi on List Crawler) that will occasionally publish on List Crawler a client's identifying info. There has also been times when a desperate provider has used the info to blackmail the client (one such event recently reported in one of the city's forums on eccie). There are also those ladies in KC that have managers of questionable character that collect this personal information for the lady.


Of course this my perspective, bottom line is do not give out any information you're not comfortable volunteering.
You'd do good to find one or two girls with good reputations that you can see regularly that way you won't need to do screening as often.
DallasRain's Avatar
Ditto w miss kinder and miss moon

And like my friend unique...get you a dancecard of gals and stick with that

Enjoy!!
Several of my past gals have retired. Smh! Its rough if I want to see a new gal.
Savannah Moon's Avatar
Several of my past gals have retired. Smh! Its rough if I want to see a new gal. Originally Posted by MrNyceGuy
Agreed.
Just so you gentlemen kow, screening is not a joyride for us, but also know at least for me, I try and make it as pain free & non evasive as I possibly can.I think we all do.
Basically, we just want to know that when we are alone with you, we are safe.
I joke & say I need your SS, Bank routing # & Blood type..kind of to get break the ice & laugh a little perhaps. Because if the coin were flipped & I HAD to give you my personal information, how would I feel.
I use gut instinct, add verbal conversation with Name, age & reference.

Back in the day before internet, I dabbled with a dating service..21yrs old, they wanted your ID and a contract signed.
& they got it.

This world can be very dangerous..
Yet in the BREATH Amazingly exciting.

Get the business portion ironed out prior to meeting, once you walk in the door..SPANK ME!!
yourdesire's Avatar
Agreed.
Just so you gentlemen kow, screening is not a joyride for us, but also know at least for me, I try and make it as pain free & non evasive as I possibly can.I think we all do.
Basically, we just want to know that when we are alone with you, we are safe.
I joke & say I need your SS, Bank routing # & Blood type..kind of to get break the ice & laugh a little perhaps. Because if the coin were flipped & I HAD to give you my personal information, how would I feel.
I use gut instinct, add verbal conversation with Name, age & reference.

Back in the day before internet, I dabbled with a dating service..21yrs old, they wanted your ID and a contract signed.
& they got it.

This world can be very dangerous..
Yet in the BREATH Amazingly exciting.

Get the business portion ironed out prior to meeting, once you walk in the door..SPANK ME!! Originally Posted by Savannah Moon
+1 all the way
DallasRain's Avatar
Quote..
This world can be very dangerous..
Yet in the BREATH Amazingly exciting.

THAT is why references are vital
Savannah Moon's Avatar
Quote..
This world can be very dangerous..
Yet in the BREATH Amazingly exciting.

THAT is why references are vital Originally Posted by DallasRain
I left out same.

Yet in the same Breath..Amazingly exciting.

Yes..screening is vital and a pain in the ass.
Yes the same ass that likes to get SPANKED
jaydalee's Avatar
Every lady has her screening requirements.Look at her website/ads.
Some ladies are newbie friendly and will see a gent with no references but will require personal info.
Do what is comfortable for you there are many ladies with all kinds of screening options.
Best of luck to you.
JRLawrence's Avatar
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I use gut instinct, add verbal conversation with Name, age & reference.
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This world can be very dangerous..
Yet in the BREATH Amazingly exciting. Originally Posted by Savannah Moon
"I use gut instinct..."

No one can get that gut instinct with text messaging. After a certain point, we need to talk to each other in order to read what the other person is like. A thug will rapidly give himself away.
Savannah Moon's Avatar
"I use gut instinct..."

No one can get that gut instinct with text messaging. After a certain point, we need to talk to each other in order to read what the other person is like. A thug will rapidly give himself away. Originally Posted by JRLawrence
FYI..
It is a REQUIREMENT for an individual to speak verbally with me PRIOR to setting the actual appointment.
And since you & I have never met, you have ZERO idea what is required to see me.

You may jump through all my hoops, but if my gut says no, for whatever reason, we are NOT MEETING.

GUT is huge in these scenarios..
In fact, Gentlemen use it as well..

Listen to your GUT!! PERIOD
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Listen to your GUT!! PERIOD[/QUOTE]


"Well, I've been listening to my gut since I was 14 years old, and frankly speaking, I've come to the conclusion that my guts have shit for brains."


― Nick Hornby, High Fidelity
Mr.Frosty's Avatar
Thanks everyone for the excellent advice. I'll look around and see if there's a provider who sees newbies, and whose screening requirements I'm comfortable with. Thanks again!