What do you ask for when requesting a reference? I usually just ask to make sure that they've met, and were there any serious issues that I should know about.
I get reference requests where girls ask me to describe the guy physically in detail so that she can recongnize him, what kind of car he drives, what his house looks like, and analyze his demeanor. Do you want me to guide the penis in too?
I usually respond that he is an okay guy, no problems (at least not with me, I meet the greatest guys ) but that is not the way I give references.
If you'd like to recongize him, why not ask him for a physical description or better yet a pic. Take the time out to read his p411 profile and his posts here, maybe have a conversation with him first , or meet him for drinks or dinner first (which I am always happy to do) rather than ask another lady to perform what should be part of the job for you? All of this comes with the job we do, and a part of the process of getting to know someone if you ask me. If I can take the time out to do it....
I just don't understand, but there may be just a possibility that I'm dense like that , so I'd like to know what you guys and gals think.. what info is sufficient when giving a reference because I never did like doing other people's homework for them.