I guess I'll know the true answer to my question soon enough if my SA subscription is cancelled. But I can't help but wonder about a couple things.
1. Why do I get gobs of "Favorited Me" heavily from Venezuela and to a lesser degree the Philippines? Plus other places all over the world. Singapore, Russia, all over the US. You name it. And the odd thing about it is, none of them had even "Viewed" me first! So how the hell do they favorite me without even viewing me?? Seems like an automated program at work here. Shades of Ashley Madison?
2. Another weird happenstance is that the day my subscription was to end again (Yes, I marked down the 30 days on my calendar), I suddenly got a couple messages from women I had previously even texted with weeks before! But never met. OK, I re-upped my subscription. And then those women totally went dark as far as their last logins. It's almost like they were beacons / sirens that re-activated at just that moment to pull me back in. But curiously, both actually texted with me prior although we never came to anything time or meeting place wise. So obviously there is a human behind the curtain. Just don't know who or why.
3. Which brings me to another observation. On several occasions, I will PM with somebody seemingly well. She offers me to text. Or maybe I do. We go off line. She is all over me with all this "Baby" shit. Baby this and Baby that. No mention of any monetary arrangement however. We haven't even broken the ice yet. She (maybe I should use quotes, "She") has a certain superficiality about herself. Talks a good talk. But can't agree on a place or time. Asks if I'm free but then doesn't reply to my suggestions of time or places. Things of that nature. Am I talking to prison inmates? Or homebound women (or men)?
My Eccie premium expired so I can't check the national postings on this subject. ButI know there are enough Iowa guys who might be able to share some experience. So I'm posting here anyway. I have had some pretty decent connections using this platform. But there is still something very "off" about it.
1. Lots of women in poorer countries have internet and want money. I'm sure some of them are fake, but they'll favorite any profile they see in America with the hops of getting some kind of financial assistance.
2. I do believe when your subscription is close to running out they boost how visible it is so you get lots of messages and views right before. It tempts you to resubscribe.
3. That's part of the reason I got out of the sugar bowl. Lots of women are in this and have no idea what the expectations are or they just heard about it either online or through a friend. Unless you manage to find someone who communicates very straightforwardly, it's basically just online dating with the drama of money added to it.
2. I’ve had the exact same thing happen to me. Met a girl I saw a couple dozen times in the last, had to of been couple hours of my subscription. Luckily I just shot her my burner number and explained my situation. She texted me thank god.
3. I’ve had same thing also here as well. I think one reason could be some of the girls are real but when it comes down to putting their money where their mouth is, they can’t bring themselves to do it.
I scroll through and almost lol at some of the girls who say no sex. You expect me to pay you money so I can tell you my feelings? There are shrinks for that. I try to do a subscription once a year. Get as many phone numbers as I can. Work on them throughout the year. The price for subscription is a little steep. I’d join more if it was half the price maybe.
I've used SA for a while now. Both back in Iowa and since I moved to the Chicago area. I do like some have said and just get a month and make as many contacts as I can and then let my subscription lapse. By the time I weed them all out I usually have 3-4 serious options after the month and that gets cut to 1, maybe 2 if I'm lucky after the first time we meet. I will stick with them for a while and then start over. I've dealt with a lot of the stuff you bring up.
1) As mentioned above they are girls from 3rd world countries and it's like buying a Powerball ticket with their looks as a way out. Some are fake and scamming, but most are real. I get 5X the amount of "favorites" in the big city than I used to back there. The first girl I met over here was from Columbia and she just may have been worth it to have some kind of arrangement that allowed her to stay, but I only got to meet her twice before she had to leave.
2) That's just how the girls there are. They will strike up a great conversation then just disappear for a while and then come right back to the conversation. It's so annoying at times. It's most always the 19-24 year olds that do it so I've just learned that's just how they communicate and it's not their main source of income so they take a less motivated approach. It may seem like they do it right when your subscription runs out, but it may just be because that's when you're scrutinizing more.
3) There's a lot of them that are "just seeing what it's about", have fun flirting, try to establish something so you'll buy pics and vids, don't know what their doing, think they know what their doing until they get to actually meeting then get cold feet and some that do as we do and talk to 5-6 guys at a time and narrow down their options. It's just something you have to deal with on SA.
All in all I've had some great arrangements and some absolute disasters, but I've had that in the hobby world too. I lean towards the sugar stuff because I'd rather find a couple sb's to come over for 3-4 hours on a regular basis than play in the big city hobby world and all that it entails. When I was back there it was nice to have a smoking hot college girl in Ames that would text "wyd" at 2am when she'd been out with her friends while still hobbying. I still make a stop by CR on my way by when traveling back and forth to see the best provider around and ive seen a couple providers here and will continue to do so, but I will always have a SB around. Like Mr. Jones said, it's kinda like online dating, just do away with the small talk bs of the first few dates and get right to the part where she puts out and you start paying her bills. Just don't have to worry about meeting the folks or dealing with most of the other relationship related bs when you both go back to normal life.
I concur with BubbH for whom I have the utmost respect. I have found almost all of the ones in my search area to be legit, meaning actual girls. Many of them just want you to send them money because they are cute, in college, or have a lot of debt. I am not interested in FinDom or $$$ lunches. There are many interested in a more transactional, short term relationship. He once told me it was a numbers game and it truly is but it is also one worth playing.