QUESTION

For the gents would you request bbfs with a provider "in the heat of the moment"?I saw someone a few months ago and everything went fine,recently the person contacted me again and without hesitation I agreed to see him.Everything was good at first and once things got hot and heavy he started saying stuff like just let me take "it" off.That made me feel uncomfortable and I must admit I was a little caught off guard.I stopped for a moment to make sure everything was in tact and I guess my body language and the whole ora told him something wasnt right by that time the session was done without him finishing.I proceeded to get dressed he told me he didnt like cond*ms and he asked me "do I care about money?" and said "i must not care about repeat customers because he didnt finish and he would call someone else to get the job done".Mind you he payed for a half hour I gave him all his time and I never rush anyone so if he didnt start talking about bbfs I wouldve stayed longer but when he brought that up all I could think about was him trying to pull a slick one and I felt as if I had to be extra cautious and got a bad vibe all throughout my body.I told him my safety is ultimately what comes first and I told him how uncomfortable he made feel and he told me that "in the heat off the moment he said it" but to be honest he sarted trying to pull it off thinking I was gonna say go ahead but I didnt I got offended so he tried to play it off like it was just dirty talk...This person is now on my dnsl and ladies if you want to know more pm me and I will give you his info
Deepthinker's Avatar
Heck, I think I might have asked a provider to marry me "in the heat of the moment". Then I remembered that I was already married.....
Lol was it someone that you seen one time beforehand
roscoe14850's Avatar
You did the right thing, ultimately it comes down to your safety & livelihood, don't compromise on that.
In the heat of the moment no I have never had a gent say let me take it off.... however I have had clients who I have seen frequently and often and they feel that after so many visits and time spent together it should either be on the house or BBFS... neither are true.

BBFS is just not safe for any or all parties involved. And it's a great way for your SO to find out your dirty little secret.

You did right Jen, spent the allowed time with him, if he didn't finish, well he'll have to go to Rosie. I would have been the same way.

I have gents that try to do a few pokes, and it straight up makes me feel totally uncomfortable. All it takes is a little pre ejactulation to give you any and all STD's. If a gent can't understand why I do things witha cover, well I don't want to see him, plain and simple.
jokacz's Avatar
ROTFLMAO I would venture a guess that he would have about as much chance getting a Republican to tell the truth as he would getting BBFS out of you, Jenn.
Lexxxy's Avatar
NOTE:This post is not for the weak, I tell it like it is sugar.
You know what, I am 101% sure there are some scum bag low life desperate classless money hungry (probably addicted to a forbidden topic) high volume hoochies that actually do BBFS out there that let guys be stupid enough to risk their health as well as their SOs health and their families health "in the heat of the moment". I get LIVID if someone tries to rub on me without a C...or touches their.... then tries to touch my... the answer is "NO! GO WASH YOUR HANDS WITH SOAP!".
I just saw someone in Buffalo the other day(a girl he has seen before that he didn't tell me about until he was already there I know for a fact does BBFS for enough "incentive") while dirty talking he was talking about "cumming in my...." so I refused him FS all together. That isn't something to dirty talk about, ask about, hint towards, request, seek, participate in, want "in the heat of the moment"..... if that pathetic hoochie does it with YOU that means she does it with EVERYONE! BBFS with her is pretty much like rubbing Ds with the guy she saw(probably minutes) right before you, you might as well have just booked a bi MFM BBFS STD cesspool.
Common sense sure does fail sometimes and when it does there are real consequences. Think about how pleased your SO would be if she found out you were in this hobby. NOW add on how pleased your SO would be if she found out you were in the hobby, have an std, and gave her that STD.
THINK WITH THE RIGHT HEAD!!
NOTE:This post is not for the weak, I tell it like it is sugar.
You know what, I am 101% sure there are some scum bag low life desperate classless money hungry (probably addicted to a forbidden topic) high volume hoochies that actually do BBFS out there that let guys be stupid enough to risk their health as well as their SOs health and their families health "in the heat of the moment". I get LIVID if someone tries to rub on me without a C...or touches their.... then tries to touch my... the answer is "NO! GO WASH YOUR HANDS WITH SOAP!".
I just saw someone in Buffalo the other day(a girl he has seen before that he didn't tell me about until he was already there I know for a fact does BBFS for enough "incentive") while dirty talking he was talking about "cumming in my...." so I refused him FS all together. That isn't something to dirty talk about, ask about, hint towards, request, seek, participate in, want "in the heat of the moment"..... if that pathetic hoochie does it with YOU that means she does it with EVERYONE! BBFS with her is pretty much like rubbing Ds with the guy she saw(probably minutes) right before you, you might as well have just booked a bi MFM BBFS STD cesspool.
Common sense sure does fail sometimes and when it does there are real consequences. Think about how pleased your SO would be if she found out you were in this hobby. NOW add on how pleased your SO would be if she found out you were in the hobby, have an std, and gave her that STD.
THINK WITH THE RIGHT HEAD!!
Originally Posted by Lexxxy
Very well said Lexxxy...men sometime's think with the wrong head and can be stupid!!
offshoredrilling's Avatar
Asking is one thing. Getting is another.

Hay its out there. So latter he said "I do not like condoms". Ok I can buy into that statement.

One could try female condoms. But that still would be up to the provider. Male condoms do have there own set of risks built in. Female condoms have most of the same risks plus a few more. But both have less risk than BBFS. I find that the female condoms very in feel. Some feel better than a male one. Others feel not so well at all. Risk in male condoms, well break or reaction to what it is made from and others things put on the condom. Shape can be a factor ribbed feel great to one female will not to another. Female condoms shape and break are not a problem. What make of still would be. And you can add missed to a risk. As in it some how did not go in the condom but next to. And nether could tell till to late.

then he went on to say ""do I care about money?" and said "i must not care about repeat customers "".

mmmm Not cool with that. Better would have been
Sorry that asking bothered you. I hope I can still see you.
And not cry if you still said NO will not see again.

I do not have a problem with asking. And getting or not getting. Not sure I like how he reacted after getting the "no". But I only have one side of the story. Your reaction sounds ok to me as told.

Some providers will not see me as I will only use condoms I buy. Thinking I may alter the condom. I have a reaction to most makes of condoms. As in one make I am ok. Another make I can not pee latter. But the same make may use different lubes that can make for problems,
Lexxxy's Avatar
I am sorry but if someone is larger than 5 inches, likes fast paced, likes rough sex, and/or likes positions other than missionary a female condom is really dangerous and a terrible idea. If someone likes really sweet, slow, and gentle missionary GFE and doesn't mind periodically stopping to make sure it is properly in place than okay, female condoms are okay for them.
Female condoms are more expensive, harder to put in, take more time to put in properly, slip out of place, and can break and leave the lower ring stuck inside the wearers vajayjay. Thanks but no thanks.
SweetElizabeth's Avatar
Heck, I think I might have asked a provider to marry me "in the heat of the moment". Then I remembered that I was already married..... Originally Posted by Deepthinker
offshoredrilling's Avatar
I never heard of a female condom breaking. But agree on the rest Lexxy.
As I have had the female condom slip or got pushed out of the way in deeper in than should be. And yes I did forget harder for ether to put in over He/she putting on a male condom on him.

Not sure on the 5 in. thing. As I have had good luck with them, other than one time. And true it was from being ruff with each other that time. But I was able to get it out.


edit: Oh and I'm a Republican LOL jokacz. So how did I do on the lie scale LOL
  • LynnT
  • 08-13-2011, 10:58 AM
Ive only had one older guy ask.. said he was clipped.. I said that doesnt matter what if I have something?? As careful as you can be its not fool proof to catch something.. he didnt press it or be rude so I was cool and I explained what if I do? Do you want it?



F him Jen he can go to the scum ladies to get the BB. There are plenty of high risk ladies that post on BP.. even other sites Im sure. He must want the gift that keeps on giving..
jokacz's Avatar
edit: Oh and I'm a Republican LOL jokacz. So how did I do on the lie scale LOL Originally Posted by offshoredrilling
You have my vote. If only for dog catcher, woof! j/k
offshoredrilling's Avatar
Ive only had one older guy ask.. said he was clipped.. I said that doesnt matter what if I have something?? As careful as you can be its not fool proof to catch something.. he didnt press it or be rude so I was cool and I explained what if I do? Do you want it? Originally Posted by LynnT
I would not think being clipped would change the risk from him. Or from you. I could be wrong.

This thread going well so far. mmmmmm ya ok why not.

How do others feel about a provider that has bbfs on the menu? Or being asked by a provider that does not normally offer it? As I have been asked!!!

And please keep all names out of it. The one I'm thinking of is not on this board anyways.


You have my vote. If only for dog catcher, woof! j/k Originally Posted by jokacz
how much does it pay??? LOL