Screening Process/ Contacting Providers....

Here we have it yet again. Been a topic on the boards in the past, and needs to be relived yet again. I am sure it's probably been 6 months or so since it was last addressed!
Guys...All that are new to the hobby, been in the hobby for years, reviewers, anyone that is seeking out a little play date this is for you.

Do not make the screening process any harder than what it needs to be. In one email (not 3-4) you should establish who you are, what your seeking (DISCRETLY this means don't tell me you want BBBJ WITH CIM ), two women you have seen in the past, ALONG with their contact info(email addy only unless the lady has publicly posted her number), your contact info (number and email addy) and a date you are looking for.

That's it!! Really guys... it is so simple. And in case you can't read/think clearly I have a form, like many other ladies on their sites, for you to fill out. It is all spelled out for you. All you do is put in the information that is requested!!
Also this does not work for me or many others. And I want you guys to tell me why this doesn't work......

"I have seen Chloe, Gabrielle and Erica in the past...." Why oh why does that not work? PROBABLY BECAUSE THERE ARE ONLY LIKE 100 GABRIELLE'S, CHLOE'S AND ERICA'S OUT THERE. We aren't mind readers. I can assume you meant Sexygabrielle, but I am not 100% I will not from now on just assume you are talking about a lady to find out SHE HAS NO IDEA WHO YOU ARE.

Oh and to the f*cktard that gave some incoherent lady my number.... THANKS... I only got like 50 calls from this chick, I am pretty sure she didn't speak English! Had to call Verizon and block her number!

I don't care who you are giving my number to... DON'T GIVE IT OUT!!! I DO NOT HAVE IT POSTED FOR THE PUBLIC AND WHEN I GIVE MY NUMBER TO A CLIENT I AM FIGURING HE WILL BE DISCRETE AND NOT GIVE MY NUMBER TO ANYONE THAT MEANS, DON'T GIVE IT TO A LADY WHO IS SCREENING YOU SHE CAN CONTACT ME VIA EMAIL LIKE EVERYONE ELSE, DON'T GIVE IT TO ANOTHER GUY THAT ASKS FOR IT, DON'T GIVE IT TO THE POPE! MY NUMBER GOES TO THE GRAVE WITH YOU WHEN YOU DIE. IF THIS HAPPENS AGAIN, I AM GOING TO START SPAMMING YOUR NUMBER TO EVERYONE SO YOU DEAL WITH THIS BULLSH*T!!!!

Okay.. Now that I have gotten this off my chest! I am going back to emails. If you don't get a reply from me...it's now not because I didn't get it or it went into spam... I am just tired of being a broken record.

Guys, ladies spend a ton of time screening new clients. A little common sense will help them out. All the necessary info will speed up your request too.

I love the word "f*cktard". LOL

Thanks Brooke -- info is much appreciated!

omg wow I have since cooled off... ate a bowl of lucky charms and back to being a happy camper

But really... screening should be quick and painless. It's there for both parties to be safe/comfortable with one another so we can enjoy our time. Don't make it harder then what it is.

Thanks for the instructions/lecture ... I'll keep this thread handy it's very useful. I only feel like you were talking down to me just a little bit... Peace!

Brooke,

I have yet to meet Chloe, but there can ONLY be one "Erica" and "Gabrielle." The others are mere namesakes for these two ladies.

The fieriness in your post is embelmatic of just how exciting a young lady you are, in every respect. You seem to bring the same passion to everything you do.

So, okay, then, how does it go? Use several e-mails, give the reference your private phone number, try to identify the reference as laconically as possible, ignore your form, and don't bother with providing you contact information? Did I get it right?

Maybe this board should create an entire section devoted to this process for those unfamiliar with it.

I only feel like you were talking down to me just a little bit...

I don't talk down to anyone especially since screening is such a simple task! But you might feel this way if you have done any or all of the above to a lady before... then probably your right I was talking down to you.

The problem with listing just a ladies name is it can be Chloe of Rochester who is also known as Chloegiggles or it could be a Chloe off of backpage, or from another state. Either way us ladies are not mind readers. We don't know who the lady you are refering to. So it just makes it easier. Dot all your I's and cross all your T's.

There are gentlemen who have been in the hobby for years, have reviews up and will not give 2 references in an email. They inform me "what my reviews don'ts speak for it's self"....

We aren't hear to spend our days on the internet, trying to get information to meet. I used to be the girl that would go to the reviews, ask a lady and see the guy, not anymore. If you can't fill out a simple form on my site, or email me in the 1st email with date/time, reference 1 and email reference 2 and email.... we aren't meeting.

Jon

If you wanted to meet Brooke. Just give her Erica and Gabrielle. As in I think she does not want gals not on the board to have her info. So you are all set if you wanted to see her.

But for a guy that found a provider from BP, Bar, Street. Do not give that to Brooke. Or give hers to them. Now Chloe has meet "one I use to see the most(from AC)". But I am sure Chloe would not want me to give that provider her phone number without asking first. Just like I would not give that providers number to Chloe without asking first.

So if on the board just give the board name. If from somewhere other then ECCIE. ask first.

Okay, I'm lost.

I'm going to go back and re-read this entire thread. Twice!

Gosh! This "hobby" is complex!

I may have to put some of this stuff on 3 x 5 cards for reference later.

As in I think she does not want gals not on the board to have her info. So you are all set if you wanted to see her.

I actually do not care if anyone, backpage or not has my email account. That is publicly known. Any guy or gal can contact me via email. What's listed in the public isn't private.
I do have a problem when a guy I have seen, gives my number to a lady so that she can verify with me that I met the guy in question. This is a big NO NO. Just like when one writes a review, you don't put my number on reviews, you write will give out once screened. I have never publicly said my number is "555-555-6633 call me".

Guys give out ladies numbers more times than not when it is not pubic knowledge. I know many of the ladies numbers and didn't get any from the ladies. Just like how I know where many have their incall.... and I have definitely never been to an appointment. Things like this should be kept private. This is where discretion comes into play. Do you want us to start calling your wives, SO or work informing them of your hobby? No, just like how I expect you to respect my privacy as well. Don’t share photos, phone numbers or my incall locations. Discretion is a two way street. Blast my phone number and I'll blast yours.

But for a guy that found a provider from BP, Bar, Street. Do not give that to Brooke.

I don't have a problem with asking a lady from BP, Bar or Street for a vouch... I just want to make sure she screens! And I will ask her straight up what her screening methods are. Ladies on ECCIE all pretty much have the same screening process, so I don't have to question it. I'll take a reference vouch from anyone that is reputable and screens. Old school or new school.... whatever works works…. I’m always up to learning new screening processes.

What isn't a good vouch is the famous one and you get the same response from 98% of the ladies on bp... "Well his number is in my phone so I must have met him"? Really, you can't even give a description of the gent? Either the man wasn't her cup of tea or she has a revolving door, or maybe he just wasn't good at his skills.

Either way, know when you leave the appointment, I'll remember much more than "well I guess I met him I have his contact info..." And I'll tell the ladies much more than "yup he's fine". Just like how many have picked up on birth marks or scars in photos and known when they meet it is me... we are all observant.

Need to think before I try again. But I think we are on the same page. But I always ask first what I can give before I do so. As some are from long ago. Then I have to ask. And if I wanted to see ya. Would have to tell you it was long time that I have seen them.

each gal has her own twist of how to do all this. But its not that hard. And it part of the homework. Read Read Read. And if you still do not get it ask before hand. Never had a lady be mad asking first what I can or can not give out.

We are pretty much on the same page OSD... And like you said, if your unsure it's better to ask a lady than to assume and get in trouble

Do you want us to start calling your wives, SO or work informing them of your hobby? No, just like how I expect you to respect my privacy as well. Don’t share photos, phone numbers or my incall locations. Discretion is a two way street. Blast my phone number and I'll blast yours.
Originally Posted by BrookeButtons

This sure speaks volumns.


I understand the screening process but am understanding it goes a step or two further. Brooke do you ever look up a guys handle on here or other sites to see what he has written, who he has seen and what his demeanor is like and his interaction with other ladies on here? And if so, if someone knows you are familiar with say Chloe, Erica or Gabrielle, and he has reviews posted on here of them, is that not ok to say I have seen them and to use them as my reference? Just asking. I know it's simple to put in e-mail addresses but am curious if this approach really upsets you or anyone else out there.

Recently I contacted a syracuse girl who mentioned she had a friend in Buffalo but didn't think she was my type. Reviewing posts/reviews/comments give anyone reading them an idea of who we are and our likes and dislikes. She knew what I look for and I appreciated her grasp of the details. Even though we have not met, and she may not visit Buffalo for a while, I hope we meet soon.

Obviously this will not work if there is a lack of substantial participation on the boards.

I don't talk down to anyone especially since screening is such a simple task! But you might feel this way if you have done any or all of the above to a lady before... then probably your right I was talking down to you. Originally Posted by BrookeButtons

I DO feel like I was being lectured AND talked down to. I will also state VERY PROUDLY that I have never had any problems at all with screening and I do consider it a very simple task. I would also like to thank all of the ladies who have made screening in the past a breeze for me without the lectures.

if this was the site I was beginning my "hobbying career " at, I would really be ending up at RGH..I had never been "scolded" in the last 19yrs or so before I came here.Just used to pick up freetime and ring someone up and go and take care of business..no harm no foul for the most part. same with bp now, most just take care of my business..then I somehow end up here so the so called top 4 hell bent on trying to corner the market with bs, with least experience can continually preach at me about myself..who I am, when noone before here ever really cared, just took care of business...its all been very intresting and odd..