A penetrating question?

Next week I will be having my first experience with a well respected provider. I am very sexually inexperienced. Four, yes (4) experiences in my whole life. Two with providers one with women BFF's. Two weeks ago a BP prvider and I were together and noticed I was not really erect enough for penetration (CG style). But non-penetrative function was ok. I really only go to about 75%-80% which seems fine for non-pen. activities. But meeting with a great privider and never really having this kind of experience in 20 years I want it to go well.

I saw a Physician Assitant and she gave me 20mg of Cialis. I have tried it twice on some practice runs and it increased things to 95% and with straining and flexing to 100%. But the pill makes me feel like I have the flu.

The question to guys waht is your experience and providers waht have you seen?

So the question is can a male perform with a stiffness of 80%-95%?

I really need input, because the nerves will probably make things worse.

Also to take the pill or not?

Please help

penis pumps SOMETIMES work...along with a nice tight cock ring

best to ya babe!!!

I thought the pumps were actually masturbation toys. Are they supposed to work for this issue?

I also have a little, clear, silicone penis ring, its really stretchy. It didn't come with instructions and I didn't know how far back to put it. Hair got in the way, but that will not be a problem after tomorrow. Getting waxed from the belly button-down and around to the shoulder blades. And a manicure!

I thought the pumps were actually masturbation toys. Are they supposed to work for this issue?

I also have a little, clear, silicone penis ring, its really stretchy. It didn't come with instructions and I didn't know how far back to put it. Hair got in the way, but that will not be a problem after tomorrow. Getting waxed from the belly button-down and around to the shoulder blades. And a manicure! Originally Posted by buzzworm86

Get the manicure first.

I thought the pumps were actually masturbation toys. Are they supposed to work for this issue? Originally Posted by buzzworm86

Penis pumps are actually a very common non-pharmaceutical, non-invasive treatment for erectile dysfunction. The main thing is that for medical grade penis pumps (which can be bought over the counter in some states and over the internet) include an industrial strength cock ring (actually a set of them, since not all men are created equal in that aspect, If You Know What I Mean), unlike the masturbatory aid pumps, which usually don't come with a cock ring at all.

Cheers,

bcg (who regretfully speaketh from personal experience here...)

I would think before taking pills or messing with a penis pump you should see an urologist and actually get examined.

Are you able to get fully erect by self-stimulation, through a bbbj? How long has this problem been occurring? Could there be mental aspects to the problem? This is all stuff you probably should be discussing with a qualified physician. I know you said you saw a physician assistant but if all she did was pass you some pills that is not really addressing the issue. Erectile dysfunction can be an indicator of other underlying health issues.

I would also think a provider might be worried about the condom slipping off if you are less than fully erect.

All good advice.

Also I know guys that only take 1/2 of that pill and they like it better. So you might try that as well as far as after effects.

I think things will work out. Like I said I can be a good 80+%. It is not like real and defastating ed, I think just penile laziness. Like if one as a human didn't have to stand strait up all the time and the master would let you slouch to get your work done, eventually you would slouch all of the time and it would be hard to stand erect at important times. I think 1/2 a pill would be good, not letting myself mindf__k myself with worry and just allow the experienced person drive.

The ideas and encouragement have been great. I do have a diagnosis of pre-diabetes, hypertension and depression. The last two i take meds for. And recently I have decided to try to work on the health issues and try to stay on the planet a while and see what pans out. One doesn't have to "burn-up, or burn out" seems like one could just glide along and enjoy the ride for a while.

Thank you all again for the advice and encouragement. Have a super fantastic, but safe holiday weekend. Sounds like we will have a hint of fall comming our way!

I have to say buzz, you are very brave at being so open about your situation. First you might look at any meds your taking. I know when I'm taking my alleregy meds I have troubles getting hard. I believe most ed meds have that side effect of clogging the sinuses. As far as the condoms, I use the Lifestyle brand, they fit snugger than others and none of the ladies I've been with mind me bringing my own. As far as the nervesousness. I recommend try emailing or pming each other to get to know each other better. That helps me. I also have to say you are very brave to do the waxing also. There is no way I would get waxed at my groin. There are some hair removal products for men. Good luck and just remember relax and have fun.

This also would be a great continous thread to help us clueless males. So ladies your input would be very valueable.

This is a good read for those who are not sure

http://fantasyescortguide.com/beginners101.htm

I know a few who take a "ed cocktail" (pun intended). Like one guy takes half cialis some hours beforehand then viagra right before. The thinking being if one doesnt work a combo will. Dont do that w/out checking with a doc, ok? It does make sense to me though, like the old sinus cocktail shots? "Member those?

Three things:
Tell her.
Nuthin like getting @ halfway through a date & thinking "What am I doing wrong?" Communicate upfront and there is no awkward moment where she sits back looks at you & says "Whats wrong?" < mood killer.
Silence isn't golden here - you'll be wasting your gold if you don't let your lady know. Pretty sure it will be no biggie, so just say it get it outta the way & have fun. If there's an issue or a fetish always say so - at least we know what we are in for.

What is the timing on your pill? Time it right.
Had a guy book a 2 hour date had one pill (he takes halves). Takes it 30 min to work & works for like 30? Yeah - he popped the first half 30 min before the date. Brought wine & chocolate & we sat down and started nibbling & swilling and... lost the window. Then he pops the other half, we keep playing, but we are on a long date - he has asked for a long teasin drawn out scenario so thats what I do...and we miss window #2. About that time is when he tells me we had (past tense) these windows. If I had known he wouldnt have missed either.
That 2 hour turned into damn near 4 because I was freakin stubborn (No, I wont be that nice again) and the last bit was work, just plain work.

Relax. Easy to say but seriously...relax. If you picked a good girl you'll be fine.

Just FYI- if using a cockring... def use the flexible silicone ones. I saw a guy in the ER who came in and went straight to surgery! He underestimated the size, put it on. Then being unable to cum AND unable to lose erection due to lack of blood flow.. his pretty pink peter turned black..
Please note- LOL i did not place ring and was not a client of mine.. LOL!!

The bravery came when I was getting a full wax yesterday, but wow, the feeling today is indescribable, my sack is like a real soft chamois, and it looks like I have an extra inch. a couple more and I might me average.

Just FYI- if using a cockring... def use the flexible silicone ones. I saw a guy in the ER who came in and went straight to surgery! He underestimated the size, put it on. Then being unable to cum AND unable to lose erection due to lack of blood flow.. his pretty pink peter turned black..
Please note- LOL i did not place ring and was not a client of mine.. LOL!! Originally Posted by LusciousLacy

And this is why this should be a continueing thread.