have you noticed

Have you ever noticed that your everyones best friend as long as they need you. But when you just need to talk no one is their to listen

I don't know that it is limited to when the need you--I think so long as smiling and being friendly doesn't cost them effort they will do it. But when you need something that their time or effort (listening or otherwise) it often falls apart.

That is what a small number of close friends are for, and often what defines them. Men or women.

I was taught that a true friend is someone that doesn't wait to be asked for something if they see that you are in need. Wether it's a friendly ear, a shoulder to cry on or actual help that's needed.
If they prove to you that they are just users then it's time to let them go as they were never your friend in the first place.

I was taught that a true friend is someone that doesn't wait to be asked for something if they see that you are in need. Wether it's a friendly ear, a shoulder to cry on or actual help that's needed. Originally Posted by junesetx

Sounds like you just described yourself, June.

Have you ever noticed that your everyones best friend as long as they need you. But when you just need to talk no one is their to listen Originally Posted by bigdaddy354369

Sounds like someone could use a hug....

Hugs are free! Sounds like you were raised right, June! I'm the same way. Sometimes I get hurt by my kindness, but I can't help it. I don't let the same person hurt me again, but I am always willing to help as best I can.

When you don't have true friends, you hang out on these boards. LOL

I was taught that a true friend is someone that doesn't wait to be asked for something if they see that you are in need. Originally Posted by junesetx

That explains why none of my "friends" help me get laid.

Thank ya'll for those kind words. I do try my hardest to be the friend that is there for others when needed.
I agree with Ed and Nicolet...sending out a friendly hug to BigDaddy. I'm sorry your person wasn't there for you. It does hurt to know that there are more people out there that are willing to use you than to put a little effort into being a friend.
IDMT, we've never met but I think your a good person and I don't mind being a friend to you when it's needed. You've been a sweetheart to me, smile.
Sometimes you just have to stick your neck out to find out who your friends really are. It's worth it to give someone a chance as they just might be there for you.
At the end of the day I can sleep with a clear mind and know that I did the best I could do with what I had to work with.
Believe me the ones that use you will at some point realize that they lost a good friend. They are the losers at the end of the day.

"Black Cow Blues" Bob Dylan

Sometimes I’m thinkin’ I’m
Too high to fall
Sometimes I’m thinkin’ I’m
Too high to fall
Other times I’m thinkin’ I’m
So low I don’t know
If I can come up at all

the definition of character is "how you behave when nobody is watching", then the definition of a friend can be "helping someone with absolutly no expectation of anything in return".

+1 I couldn't agree more!!

the definition of character is "how you behave when nobody is watching", then the definition of a friend can be "helping someone with absolutly no expectation of anything in return". Originally Posted by Jackie S

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Well if you're looking in the P4P industry for friends, I might suggest a different route. Though, I can say I am friends with the guys I see most often and would be there if they needed me in a way that had nothing to do with this, many women are not here for that. Once you leave, you're out of sight out of mind. That's not always a bad thing, and probably the main reason guys come here to begin with, so you really can't get all butt hurt over it.

Many men would die if a provider called them up and told them her boyfriend left her, and she just wanted to vent lol. They would probably tell her to go to the Powder Room or see a shrink...cuts both ways I guess.

I do hope you find what you need.

Given the etiquette of this forum I would expect no one to just "listen" to me or vice versa. Just sayin'.