hobby security

corona's Avatar
Given the recent news stories (and no, I'm not going to talk about it) it seems this should serve as a good reminder to everyone the need to keep hobby and real world information separate. Like really separate. Like brick wall between them.


The web searches have just gotten too thorough. If someone from the real world finds a hobby email (or the reverse) then these two worlds could collide with bad circumstances.
TinMan's Avatar
People also need to read Forum Guideline #5 and remember that everyone needs to respect each other’s anonymity. A few timely one-year banishments might cause some people to think twice before posting “hey, look what I found!” links for no good purpose other than for shits and grins.
Sir Lancehernot's Avatar
Quite by accident, I figured out what's going on here after seeing a post in a national blog I'm a regular reader of.


To the above advice, I might add that, for women especially, the greater your hobby presence is, the more you should minimize your public presence. If you're going to be an escort, don't raise your profile in your community above the status of just another woman shopping at Walmart. You can be a Little League mom, but don't run for president.


I know one woman from a decade or so ago who used her real name in her email address for at least part of the time she was providing, and who moved on to what looks to be a successful career. But she's the exception.


The rule ought to be several other women whom I got to know over the years who to this day have virtually no Internet presence. On the Internet, under their real names, they are UTR.
Busty's Avatar
  • Busty
  • 11-28-2023, 10:44 PM
Bunny Xo married to Jelly Roll has managed a career of
going unscathed & Amy Taylor the model with a pilots license... manages not to have her face concealed on every website. How????????
BLM69's Avatar
  • BLM69
  • 11-29-2023, 12:38 AM
Now is a good time to double check your hobby identity, have a different phone not connected to social media or your personal contacts, don't ever use your personal email or phone number for hobby related stuff, we've seen the last hooker extorting a guy for not wanting to pay a BS cancellation fee
dogfart's Avatar
Good advice.

The one and only time (I think) that I connected R/W info with the hobby was when I used a pre-paid credit card (gift card) to subscribe to Ashley Madison. I registered the card with R/W info, and when Ashley Madison got hacked, they got that info, and then I got all sorts of threats to out me if I did not pay up. I did not pay, and ignored the threats, and they finally stopped But, I learned my lesson.
TinMan's Avatar
Now is a good time to double check your hobby identity, have a different phone not connected to social media or your personal contacts, don't ever use your personal email or phone number for hobby related stuff, we've seen the last hooker extorting a guy for not wanting to pay a BS cancellation fee Originally Posted by BLM69
Thank god I figured this out long before social media. Some of the stupid things I did early on in my hobby career would have caught up to me if I hadn’t set up hobby accounts, burners, etc., decades ago. I’m amazed at the short sightedness of people these days, not thinking their current life situation may change such that they won’t want all this hobby crap pulled up simply by some nosy SOB who decides to google an email address or phone number.
GayleMeyers's Avatar
Thank god I figured this out long before social media. Some of the stupid things I did early on in my hobby career would have caught up to me if I hadn’t set up hobby accounts, burners, etc., decades ago. I’m amazed at the short sightedness of people these days, not thinking their current life situation may change such that they won’t want all this hobby crap pulled up simply by some nosy SOB who decides to google an email address or phone number. Originally Posted by TinMan
So .... do you know now why I consider p4 wanting my real world info to be such an invasion?
BLM69's Avatar
  • BLM69
  • 12-01-2023, 05:42 PM
So .... do you know now why I consider p4 wanting my real world info to be such an invasion? Originally Posted by GayleMeyers
So you don't support hookers asking for ID's to make them feel safe or to make sure they're not LE?
DownForWhatever's Avatar
...try "Googling" your various email addresses and phone numbers...

That's probably all the "Karens" did
GayleMeyers's Avatar
So you don't support hookers asking for ID's to make them feel safe or to make sure they're not LE? Originally Posted by BLM69
Only when and if some guy has NO OTHER MEANS OF BEING SCREENED.
Thanks for replying for TinMan ... I'm sure he appreciates it.
TinMan's Avatar
I thought it was a rhetorical question. I don’t recall ever questioning your decision not to provide your personal information to p411. I just explained why I thought they were asking for it. They may be making a rational business decision to rescreen some or all providers. You are making a rational personal decision not to provide that information. Both things can be true.
BLM69's Avatar
  • BLM69
  • 12-04-2023, 09:54 PM
Only when and if some guy has NO OTHER MEANS OF BEING SCREENED.
Thanks for replying for TinMan ... I'm sure he appreciates it. Originally Posted by GayleMeyers
I'm not replying for anyone, you're on a public forum giving your 2 cents, I was asking a direct question so save the Karen act