Don't ask about my wife & kids, and I won't ask about your kids and boyfriend!

Maybe it's just a pet peeve of mine. Please, Please, Please, don't ask about my wife and kids! I know it's hard to find common ground, but I'm there with you, for the S E X!!!!! I'll talk about that, all you want, or even your interest in watercolours; but please don't go real personal on me! Unless talking about our kids and significant others really gets you motor running! With me it slams things into reverse, and throws on the parking brake!! If it leads to mind blowing S E X!, in every conceivable form, than talk baby, talk!!

WTF?????....................Wh y do people even know you have kids and a wife? Especially if it has gotten to the point you have to start a thread about it. You must have told someone at sometime and that person told two people. Then those two people told two more people. Where does it end??

Hopefully this thread is just a joke and your looking for the attention your wife and kids arent giving you at home. LOL

Dont start nothing and it wont be nothing.

Either you have told someone at some point about your wife and children or the lady is just assuming that your married and have children and was trying to make small talk. Much like how I have been ask a million times why I provide, I always answer and then ask why do you hobby. If you don't wanna answer why you hobby don't ask. But if you don't want to talk about it and have never talked about either I would suggest....

Show up without the wedding band on.... take the "my kid is a high honor roll sticker" off the car. And never say anything in an appointment that is personal and you think could be spread around. Use a hobby email and hobby phone. All can be googled and linked to personal information.

But thats just my .02

Ahmen brother!

WTF?????....................Wh y do people even know you have kids and a wife? Especially if it has gotten to the point you have to start a thread about it. You must have told someone at sometime and that person told two people. Then those two people told two more people. Where does it end??

Hopefully this thread is just a joke and your looking for the attention your wife and kids arent giving you at home. LOL

Dont start nothing and it wont be nothing. Originally Posted by naughtyfun

and a double Ahmen sister

Either you have told someone at some point about your wife and children or the lady is just assuming that your married and have children and was trying to make small talk. Much like how I have been ask a million times why I provide, I always answer and then ask why do you hobby. If you don't wanna answer why you hobby don't ask. But if you don't want to talk about it and have never talked about either I would suggest....

Show up without the wedding band on.... take the "my kid is a high honor roll sticker" off the car. And never say anything in an appointment that is personal and you think could be spread around. Use a hobby email and hobby phone. All can be googled and linked to personal information.

But thats just my .02 Originally Posted by BrookeButtons

Bancroft,

I think your best bet is to politely tell a lady as soon as the topic comes up that you don't feel comfortable talking about personal life. Most of the ladies will not know that it is an out of bounds topic as I believe that it is brought up by many guys on appointments. It is pretty easy to know that by simply asking a lady what percentage of her clients are married. Most of them can tell you. Well, they only know the answer because it gets discussed a lot. I know I have mentioned my situation many times to reinforce to the ladies when I can't accept a phone call for discretion reasons or why I need to have a date at a certain hour etc.

So I agree with what has been said. If you don't bring it up, many of them won't either. If they do, cut it off at the pass with a polite comment like " I really don't feel comfortable discussing my personal life. I'd much prefer discussing how incredible the sight is of your nose bumping against my pubic bone every time you take me deep in your throat." You know...something polite like that......

I agree with all of you! 100%!! Yes, the ring comes off, as does the watch, and wallet except for license! All other items are left at home, or locked in the car!

I never bring up my family, or personal life. It's where I draw the line! I also know better. I have also never asked why they, the lady, started "providing". I now do tell all of my lady friends, "please no family questions!"

I really am just looking to avoid a selfish mood killer. My original point being, if I want to talk about my family, I'll throw away the money on a shrink!

I'm glad we can have these little conversations!

The only thing I take into an apointment with me is the donation,my phone and maybe something to drink or if I have asked he provider if she needs anything. Everything else is left at work.

Deepthinker , Very nice and thoughtful reply. :-)

It seems some men have taken an interest in my children, only to know to what degree they are living. IE Have they graduated yet, etc..

I personally feel it very gratifying to hear of a client's child being admitted to an Ivy League School/ Tech School/ Community College, or just out there in the work force! HOORAY FOR THEM!!! Maybe as gratifying for some to know my children's progress....

For ME, I believe I am sometimes an outlet, a woman, with whom, some men are allowed to share such things.

I think many people share such things simply out of pure excitement!

I'm with DT on how to handle it. I wouldn't let that brief conversation spoil your next appointment with your ATF.....

I believe most men, and women, prefer any specific boundaries they have to be aired upon encounter, in order to enhance the experience.

+1 SE

I think it depends on your relationship with said provider. With someone you know pretty well, it just becomes natural to talk about family life. I have shown providers personal photos of my family and vice versa.
Now I also agree it is not an unreasonable request to make personal info out of bounds when you're visiting providers with whom you just met and have zero connection but to fornicate.

For many years I took off my ring when on appointments. I would say the majority of providers I saw would ask if I was married. I agree with the original post that this is not what I want to talk about while hobbying. I few years back I decided the hell with it and now keep the ring on. Now I rarely get questions about family. Go figure.

Good advice DT on how to approach an appt. Most of the ladies we meet are quite intellegent and can put a lot of what they see together. Having a restricted amount of time to meet, only meeting during lunch, no weekends, tan mark where a ring would be, driving a mini van, limited communication time.

Also agree with how long you have been meeting and how comfortable you are with each other to what might be shared. It's easy to say lets not discuss that and move on.

I find it interestingly funny that the OP got grilled in the first 2 replies like it was all completely his fault.

My second car I bought used ,for emergencies ,some errands and such, coincidentally has a "my child is a high honor roll student at xxxhigh (ive used the x,s to protect the identity of all involved for the purpose of this discussion)pm me if you want to know the actual school!!....so anyways, this thread has had me pondering the removal of said sticker and I have been left somewhat conflicted.As I am single and without child, any conversations with my ATF about this fictitious human being could have me wasting valuable time with her , lost in rambling explanation.But I do have to admit, I enjoy the camaraderie of my fellow parents that have stopped me in the wegmans parking lot to discuss the success of our wonderfully gifted children.It has given me a sense of purpose and personal pride in knowing that this person believes me to be a model parent.I would also miss the many "THUMBS UP" and smiles from the loaded minivans waiting for the light to turn green.