New to this

Ok so here goes.

I’ve been married for 20 years now and I’ve never done anything like this. I don’t even know where to begin. Found this site, read some posts, but still don’t even have a clue where to start. I know I want more out of life. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

are you a cop, mr "regular guy"?

This is just my opinion: If you are looking for some strange you are smart to be here. Pay for it. It's efficient, most of the women are pretty skilled, and you're not tethered to one person. An affair can get messy, especially with married women. Read about getting a hobby phone, never give real life info. I always think of my wife like she's the NSA. Don't get sloppy or lazy. Think like she might hire a private investigator at some point.

Now that the scare stuff is out of the way. I've had some of the best sex in my life here. Read reviews and book with the established providers. Have fun brother!

Enjoy and welcome

This is just my opinion: If you are looking for some strange you are smart to be here. Pay for it. It's efficient, most of the women are pretty skilled, and you're not tethered to one person. An affair can get messy, especially with married women. Read about getting a hobby phone, never give real life info. I always think of my wife like she's the NSA. Don't get sloppy or lazy. Think like she might hire a private investigator at some point.

Now that the scare stuff is out of the way. I've had some of the best sex in my life here. Read reviews and book with the established providers. Have fun brother!

Enjoy and welcome Originally Posted by slowmover

Good advice given above. I would add to this by telling you to never, ever prepay. Go back several months and see reviews…there are several long term providers that have a good reputation, and aren’t the flavor of the month. They will help you get started, and are reference friendly. Feel free to PM if you have any questions. Best wishes and happy hobbying!

I am not a cop. I am just a horny guy that is at the end of his rope in his semi-sexless marriage. I want that “ best sex of my life” experience. But I’m not getting it so here I am looking for it. Just never done this.

Good advice given above. I would add to this by telling you to never, ever prepay. Go back several months and see reviews…there are several long term providers that have a good reputation, and aren’t the flavor of the month. They will help you get started, and are reference friendly. Feel free to PM if you have any questions. Best wishes and happy hobbying! Originally Posted by Spoljana

That is why I posted. I want a good quality provider. I don’t need the new flavor. I think I need someone who has the experience with someone like me. Someone that can take all the BS out of it and give me the experience of a lifetime. That’s what I want. . lol

A few immediate thoughts:

Before you embark on this journey, make sure you have taken an honest assessment of your marriage and if it really is a good idea to live this secret life (assuming you aren’t one of the gentlemen here who do reach an agreement with their spouse regarding their participation in the hobby. They do exist). If your marriage is crashing, it’s better to recognize that now and end it before you have done anything that could put you in a disadvantageous position once you face the reality of ending your marriage.

If you are committed to your marriage for whatever reason, make sure you prioritize the rest of your life (career, family) appropriately. A change of habits will be noticed, for one, but you also don’t want to look back and regret how you short-changed your job or your kids in the interest of chasing pussy.

Read up on P411 (lots of threads on the subject here) and consider joining. It’s a screening service, which will require a certain amount of real-world information disclosure, but it’s been around 20 years and there are a lot of quality providers who are also members. It will ease screening and the ladies there are real, not scammers as proliferate on most ad sites.

Get Premium Access. There is a lot of good intel not found in the public forums, and most of the really important details in the Encounter reports are not visible to you right now.

Best of luck, and welcome to the community.

I was just joking about the cop thing. Plenty of solid advice from the guys above.

Assuming you've already done everything to repair your marriage (counseling, therapy, advice from online groups, etc) and you're dead set that this is the road you want to go down, here's a starter kit:

Strictly start with verified providers with good reviews (under the encounter reports section). Most of these providers will require references, but you'll be able to find some that don't. There's another site with an ISO section (in search of) where you post a description of what you're looking for (time, place, activities, physical attributes). Providers who are not strict about references will reach out. Check their history/reviews, and don't fall for deposit scams.

Once you have seen a few providers (make sure you ask them if you can use them as a reference), then you can start reaching out to providers who do screen for references. Lastly, have fun and make sure to leave reviews and contribute back to the community.

keep it business at all times and don’t fuck up

Before diving into this new world, my advice for you is….. research, research, and research. You need to have a plan of what you want, who you see, how much you want to spend, and don’t get attached to anyone. You should make it all business. There many providers that are seeking a better life and trying to hook up with a man, some have baggages, and some will ask for help that are behind in their bills, such as car payment or rent. Also. Go for “new friends welcome”, that way you can build up references. Never prepay for anything, but use cash only. Good luck in your travels.

Excellent point brought up by several others that I will add to my list: Keep it casual and friendly. Don’t confuse an intimate act with a paid companion for real love. If you don’t set and respect boundaries you will really invite disaster.

I was hoping a provider or two would reach out to me from this post, but no luck. So far lol

It’s the same as being married except the money you pay for dinner and shoes goes in their hands and they don’t usually say not tonight.

Don’t get a rental car for the working ladies. Just trust me on this

I was hoping a provider or two would reach out to me from this post, but no luck. So far lol Originally Posted by Reguar_guy83

The ones who will probably reach out may not be the best ones to see.