RANT: Not Being Prepared

There are some things one would assume all parties would understand in our shared hobby. Everyone should show up clean and if circumstances don’t allow for that, a shower should be requested.

Typically the guy expects the lady to have the tools needed for the encounter. When a provider asks me if I brought lube and a few minutes later asks if I have a condom, I wonder “Did you think we met in this hotel room to play cards?”

[This second paragraph is my real rant. A provider who says she forgot, isn’t on top of her game.]

I don’t know if it is still common for guys to leave payment in an envelope (with a thank you card?) anymore. But I have never been one to pull out my wallet as I’m leaving. This expectation may be my misunderstanding. I have always put an envelope (with a card) near the TV or some place the provider can clearly see.

As I said in a previous thread, I’ve been out of the Hobby for several years. I guess I need time to get re-oriented.

It’s all gone to shit OG.. and I think it society in general. Last couple meets I had was from SA. Pictures posted were at least 10 years previous, came in some slides, tights, and a t shirt. Sticky and sweaty..she was not fresh !! closed her eyes as I explored. Finally I asked are you ok? Typically I put donations somewhere they can pick it up either in envelope or cash in view with their belongings. Needless to say.. it didn’t transpire as I had hoped.. she later texted when could we get together again. I just told her their no chemistry here for the effort you require.
I’ve talked to several over the years that require the guy to bring his equipment for the job. I do because I require a type that I like.

Back when, I was told not to bring things like condoms and lubricant to a session because if LE gets involved, having those on you makes their case easier.

I’m understanding the appeal of providers who really understand the Hobby world (and who at least are good at pretending they care).

I could not agree more with your opinion. Much of it is a societal disregard for manners and respect on both side of the transactions. And let’s be very clear …. It’s a transaction where there is a provider and a customer .both should be treated with respect and a care for service . As you describe, I am about done with the “hobby” as there is no real connection any more ….providers want beyond top dollar for mechanical low end service . I have no issue with the cost of high quality service but I do have an issue paying top shelf for Dollar Store value. Only answer I have is I do not do it any longer ….. if I want “pop off” valve relief service I can accomplish that alone for nothing. If I choose to spend time with you then let’s make that fantasy happen together ….. there is room in this hobby for top shelf service at a good rate but you don’t ask Manhattan pricing and provide oil field service in the South!