I apologize in advance if this is intrusive for some of you; directed towards those who don't mind opening up and sharing. I greatly appreciate all input.

I have been wondering for a while about some of you I haven't had the pleasure of meeting, and some of you that I have.... Of course everyone is here for the sheer fun, enjoyment, excitement, getaway etc. But would anyone care to elaborate?

Anyone being deprived at home? Emotionally, sexually, "affectionately", etc?? I for one am. I'll share. I do have a SO, but it's hardly significant in my eyes. I have my personal reasons as to why I stay, and the reasons are prob similar to those that stay who also feel what I feel.

I receive absolutely no attention, no compliments, just, no love at home... I guess which is why I thrive here. Was just curious if anyone would care to elaborate on any specific reasons apart from the usual as to why they love it in this world.

I guess in a way, I'm just hoping that I'm not the only one based on specific circumstances. I just think that every woman should be adored and cherished when they do just the same for their spouse. Obviously, I am short changed. Lol.

Thanks for letting me vent, and thank you in advance for those of you who shared and supported.

And of course thank you to those who set me straight on showing me what a a lady deserves from a real man.

Love love.

What a small world. I was discussing, and still am right now, this same issue with a lovely lady via PM in chat this early morning. For me, I enjoy hobbyimg to have fun, and would never use it as a substitute to a relationship. I'm also mutually exclusive with the two. When I date someone, I never hobby, and when I hobby, I'm never dating! I have a lot of bad qualities, but I've never cheated on any lady in my life, and I hope I never will.

With that in mind, I have never met a lady on this site who fills an emotional gap for me in any type of substantial way, I'm sad to say. I'm still looking, but I don't think I will find the woman who blows me away and fills some deep emotional feeling for me. It's just not in my nature.

I first joined the board a couple of years ago ,before the crash,when things weren't going too well at at home and the wife and I separated for a while. Saw a couple of ladies on the board and then left again for a while. Rejoined Oct. of 2010 but never really participated much. Then my wife and I decided to part ways and now I'm a bachelor again. At my age dating isn't all it is when you're young and I was starting to get lonely and I find the board a nice way to at least communicate if not participate. This board seems more real to me then other forums/blogs. Everyone here knows what the score is. You can pretty much say anything that's on your mind without shocking anyone. Not everyone will agree with what is said but
that happens everywhere. I can say and discuss things here that I wouldn't discuss with the neighbors or even
my family ! In a peculiar kind of way the board is a surrogate family for some of us. We may fight and argue at times but there is a friendliness and openess here that seems unique. Why not use the board/hobby as a subsiture for a realationship? At age 70 I'm not all that interested starting a "real" one again. Been there, done that, more then once. Don't have the energy or inclination to do it again.

When physical needs need to be taken care of, it's only
a phone call away. No game playing. Again, everyone knows what the score is, so to speak. Some may disagree that the type of human contact made here is healthy, but personally, I see no harm at all. As long as we can keep our heads straight about what is really happening then there is no harm done as far as I can tell. IMHO.

Anxiously awaiting to hear from those who agree or disagree. That's what makes this board fun!!

Thanks for starting this thread, Ezra.

Ok it's late and i'm going to rant a little. First off I know this is a hobby. Second I never hobby when i'm in a relationship. I was in a three year relationship and it was miserable, but i only stayed because i hoped against hope that things would get better. I was a good boyfriend..gave her love and attention but it wasn't enough it seemed it never was enough. I finally left after I found out she was cheating on me with a friend of mine.I'm the type of person who loves to give and receive love and affection...she didn't do that. My god we never once made love..that's a cold truth there. So here I am doing this hobby because I want to take care of my needs..meaning I want to feel wanted ....at least for a moment. I know that sounds sappy (is that a word?). Every person should be made to feel special in my opinion. I miss hugs and small kisses,cuddling on the couch,holding hands and all that mushy stuff. =) I miss making a women feel like she is the "most way kool person in the whole world." Ok i think i've said enough...=)

I don't have an so at this time. Past so's were always too bossy for my tastes, so I would usually end a relationship when I felt I was being used. I would rather be lonely than sorry. I really appreciate the women I have met on this board, and I need to visit each one of them again. I

Ramos, I have read your post 4 times now and can find nothing to disagree with. That make for a lame discussion.
Also at 70 I find the board a pleasure and effective communication with many friends and a great reason to close myself in my office and tune out the noise of a lady who doesnt understand the meaning of STFU.

Which leads me to an off topic comment. ------- Do mothers teach their daughters that the world wants to hear their voice constantly? Setting on the john yesterday morning, my wife standing outside the door telling me what is happening on "Days of Our Lives" or "As the World Turns" or something else that I care not a flit for.

Ladies, if you want to keep your man at home, STFU or give him a blow job and dont talk with your mouth full.

I can understand what she is saying, i think some of us are missing things in relationships that make us good at what we do here in this hobby and actually enjoy people.
I know myself, I do have a SO, and we are very close and dont have too many issues. But because of health problems on his end, I am left with not being 100% satisfied from him.( even though he is good..lol)
So, I seek men here that can fill that void. Not for a full time relationships, just instant satisfactions. heheheehe. (like the hobbyists)
well, this is my opinion. ya'll have an awesome day and weekend.

licks and kisses

Interesting this post came up as have been thinking why providers and hobbyist alike go here.

As for me it is pretty simple. Guys have needs both physical and emotional(though we won't admit it). I don't have a SO and though I have met nice ladies to date I have a severe mental block in settling. I figure if I am not married and have no kids at my age I figure I can find look around and find the right lady to spend the rest of my life with.

With this I enjoy this site for two reasons:

1. It allows me to get away from my currently boring life and have fun and to do something I never would have done before. Kind of breaks me out of my not being adventourous mold. That and the stories are both informative and entertaining here.

2. Second and most important reason is it allows me to interact with some of most beautiful ladies both appearance wise and personality wise out there. Not going to lie it is nice to feel special even if for just a brief encounter. As I have not many ladies on here, hope to change, this the ones I have met have been exceptional. The fantasy provided was second too none but great part was the conversations I have had from family to politics. That and the discussions I have had by pm or email with those I have not met have been great. Though I understand this is a business in essence all the ladies have been awesome and sincere everytime I have met them.

With this everyone will have there reason for being here. It is cool to see that someone like EE can start a thread and people here give their own honest opinion with no judgement. In the end we all here to have fun and meet great people.

Back to work for me and hope too meet more great providers soon and revist ones I have seen.

B35h

"Ladies, if you want to keep your man at home, STFU or give him a blow job and dont talk with your mouth full."

Agreed, shooter1a. What is so hard to understand?

I may be wrong, but I think ExoticEzra is talking of buying and selling strange, not just this site specifically.

The strange is the LuAnn plate. Everyone is here for the LuAnn plate. Buying or selling. Some like the fish. Some the beef. Some grab the tacos when they are available.

Everyone has their favorite sides. Many get the mac and cheese or fried apples, even though these are technically not a vegetable in the eyes of normal society.

Some go all out and add cornbread and pecan pie. Some are just looking for a different whitebread yeast roll now and then. Or whole wheat.

Some have been getting the LuAnn plate for years. Decades. Mainly so they dont make a mess at home.

Same plate but a jillion combinations, for a jillion people, who select what they select for a jillion reasons.

Am I making myself clear here?

flinde...lol very well put


licks to you

This hits way too close to home for me. I'm in a relationship which in most people's opinion it's a successful and profitable one. Last year I sent flowers and gifts on our wedding anniversary. My phone rang and I saw it was her calling...I was anxious to hear her excitement and instead I get "why did you send flowers?". I actually had to remind a WOMAN of a wedding anniversary. I'm an old school romantic fool in a loveless marriage. We never argue and have a great relationship just loveless. It's all work and career. That's where I struggle with coming here for affection. I feel guilt at times but darn.... It's been forever. ..hence some of my apprehension which I think some of the girls on here may have picked up on as my shyness. LOL

I'm in tears about some of these posts. Lol. I guess I relate just the same. I'm glad I asked. I thank you so much for sharing. Ty for being brutally honest.

Shooter1A, Thanks for sharing that you are 70!! I was starting to think I was the only senior on the board.
Good to know that someone else survived the 60's.
Ezra, YOUR post had me in tears. I'm so sorry you are in such a relationship. But we respect your unwillingness
to leave for whatever your reasons are. Listen cautiously to folks who
tell you should do this or you shoulda done that . It's easy to inflict our "shoulda's" on people. Much more difficult
for the recipient to implement a "shoulda" Only you know what is best for you, sweetie.

MY SO could care less if I am around, just the 1st and 15th. Now I am sad Ezra...thanks!

Wow i guess we are pretty screwed up in Dr. Phils eyes..lol ..we are all on here for different reasons. Im 28 soon to be 29 single, no kids, pt job, i cook pretty damn good, love my family, funny n outgoing. I have alot of ppl who tell me ur such a good person and alot to offer..WHY ARE U SINGLE? My resp to them is IDK... IN REALITY..i know its bc i cant say i do this n need to get a few things in order.. Plus i need a STEADY full time, & i am not gonna tell someone that im tryn to date & have a long term relationship that im a HORNY TOAD...lol.. When u date someone u cant throw it out there ..lol im serious.. GUYS WHATS UR OPINION? Say ur dating someone n say 3rd date u go have sushi & sake.. She gets horny n wants to SAKÉ SAKÉ.. U WONT LOOK AT HER THE SAME BC SHE GAVE IT UP TO QUICK.. I cant help it n once they find out im a freak i go to dating category to BOOTY CALL status.. Wth? I figure i will keep it simple simply date but not commit outside this.. Meanwhile i still play n get my freak on here.. However if i ever met a great man i would never cheat and would stop providing.. No doubt about that. So until then im happy with just seeing my hobby friends..
Plus where have all the good men gone? No romance, noone is spontaneous anymore.. Smh.. Oh well... Well happy friday .. Play safe & stay warm!

Sweet Lexxxi dd'd