Tipping

While I like to and want to tip, I am unsure of what a proper tip amount is. I usually tip $20 or so on a $140 - $160 visit. Is that too little? I don't want to insult the provider! I can't really afford a $50 tip, but I do want to show extra appreciation. Is tipping expected? What is a decent tip? Thanks...Paul

Ballpark 40-60 with the rates you gave.
Gifts and other tribute are proper....
.....to the proper woman.

tips are never expected but ALWAYS appreciated....no matter the amount!

ditto to what dallas said!!
id be glad to accept a $20 tip ... its,the thought that counts
i try to show great appeciation

I agree tipping shouldn't and with most ladies is not expected. I don't believe that there is a standard amount. It is what ever you feel ... believe me you are already a special guy for wanting to offer

And to agree with MS PK, when tipping is offered most providers will show great appreciation and definitely take care of you

Thanks, ladies. I have never pointed out the tip. I just include it in the stack. I tip because the provider was easy to arrange with and nice enough to schedule with me. I really appreciate your comments. I want to treat the provider right. I have only seen four providers on ECCIE, and each one has treated me fantastically. I have been blessed....paul

I've never expected a tip...ever! What I appreciate is a little gift when a gentleman arrives. If you're having trouble with an amount...try leaving a gift card, a nice bottle of wine, candles, box of chocolates, etc., as a way to thank a provider. I'm sure she will appreciate anything!

I do believe in tipping... Sometimes.... I never point it out, I just include it in the envelope. I am known for just getting good B/J's from various providers... So even though im only there for 30-45 min, and I sometimes only get a bj, I always pay the hourly rate. This could be construed as gratuity. Also- as Nikki said, giftcards, candles, chocolates, whatever...just wrap it up in ribbons and bows and you'll be amazed. I have found that gentlemanly behavior, great hygiene, small gifts and effective communication will get you better service than a huge tip!!


I saw a great provider just today, and got only a bj, and i tipped $50 even though it was a $$ fee.
Ladies, plz correct me if i'm wrong, but I feel that ladies still like to be treated like LADIES, and therefore good manners, good hygiene and goodness usually trump a $20 tip....

I've never expected a tip...ever! What I appreciate is a little gift when a gentleman arrives. If you're having trouble with an amount...try leaving a gift card, a nice bottle of wine, candles, box of chocolates, etc., as a way to thank a provider. I'm sure she will appreciate anything! Originally Posted by Likinikki

(Same here) it's the little things that count <3

Seriously? Do you tip your doctor or your lawyer? I think a professional in the $100 plus range per hour is beyond tipping. Do you think a professional delivers subpar performance for lack of a tip? Beyond pathetic!

First of all nobody said anything about "subpar". Secondly its the "Above par" performances that really stand out. Whats Pathetic about it? The provider is not asking for any additional monetary compensation. This is all to simiply show "Your" gratitude... you cant teach people how to be grateful.

As a matter of fact I do tip Dr's
and other professionals.
The doc who brought SO back from
the House of Persephone was tipped
a gift card to Ruth's Chris and asstd
gifts for his family.

A transmission shop owner that saved
me over a grand was tipped a $50
the techs(4) $20 each.

FFL lawyer gets scotch every xmas.

Gun dealer gets bourbon.

I get a level of treatment that I doubt you do.
Those professionals I have interaction with.
These women I have intercourse with.
If you view them as semen recepticals
you will behave so.
If you view them as special creations
you will behave so.

While I like to and want to tip, I am unsure of what a proper tip amount is. I usually tip $20 or so on a $140 - $160 visit. Is that too little? I don't want to insult the provider! I can't really afford a $50 tip, but I do want to show extra appreciation. Is tipping expected? What is a decent tip? Thanks...Paul Originally Posted by aap17

Hey Paul,

Great question. And one that generates lots of buzz here and on (most) other boards. If you study through the responses, you'll see some common threads.

1. Providers almost always answer the same way: "I appreciate a tip but never expect it." What provider would say they expect it? I've never met one. Nor have I met one who doesn't appreciate it.

2. Gentlemen almost never know how much. This is probably true and I think the ladies would be the first to tell you there is no defined amount. Why? Because they don't expect it and probably usually don't get it. So any amount is probably welcomed by them.

3. Tippers almost always justify their behavior in terms of manners and etiquette. Non-tippers almost always justify their behavior by defining "professionalism" (i.e., you don't tip your dentist or lawyer, etc.).

4. Ladies in general can't tell you if tippers receive "better" service. It depends most likely on the individual lady you are seeing. I can't imagine that she wouldn't modify her service at least some if you have a history of tipping her. But that's her call.

5. Non-tippers will usually say that the best tip is a polite attitude and return service. Tippers will usually say they have polite attitudes, are return customers, AND they tip. If given the choice between a return customer with a good attitude and a bottle of wine and a return customer with a good attitude and a generous cash tip, some ladies prefer the latter. I have no data with which to determine if ALL ladies prefer this. Perhaps the ladies could answer this but I suspect they won't; because, in reality, I suspect most men don't tip and therefore ladies don't want to offend the majority of their customer base.

6. Normally, if you come out on the boards in favor of tipping, you will be accused by the non-tippers as "brown nosing" or "white knighting." If you come out against tipping, you will be labeled by the tippers as a "cheap bastard." And the ladies will stay out of the argument.

Is there a bottom line. Probably. Is tipping appropriate and if so, how much? The answer is yes, while an individual choice, tipping is always appropriate when the level of service has exceeded your expectations. I doubt you'll ever find a lady who is anything but grateful for a cash tip. The amount is never set, never a percentage. The amount is always up to you and as some have suggested, an extra $20 "on the pile" as you suggest is a nice gesture. No lady of whom I'm aware expects a certain percentage.

As for tipping your doctor and lawyer, I've always considered that a baseless argument. If my doctor looked like my ATF and got naked with me for two hours, I would indeed tip my doctor.

The whole point is, "was it special to you?" If she made it special, you have an opportunity to make it special for her with a tip.

All the best.

JDN

JDN, great observations! One thing though...not all providers are made the same. You would be surprised, at how many providers feel *entitled,* and make snide remarks about gents who *only* tip...let's say a $20-50!

When those of us who say, "tips aren't expect...but, appreciated," there's some TRUTH to that statement.

Anything to show extra appreciation is appreciated even if its just an extra Thank You. I think best tip of all is returning