That you know what kind of visit you're going to have with a NEW client? When I contact a new lady, I get nervous, anxious, a little frightened with the risk and excited to meet, but I can usually tell what kind of visit it will be when I finally talk to them on the phone. Us hobbiests also have the benefit of your showcase to enlighten us. The ladies, on the other hand, do not have that benefit. So when or what is it? Is it the prose he uses with the pm's? His handle? His voice with the first phone call? Maybe it's the first sight? Possibly the first kiss or his pheromone he emits? Is it during activity and you realize "this guy has skills"? Or is it afterwards your preconceptions were all wrong and it was a great visit. I hope you ladies have not become jaded and look at all new encounters as "training a new puppy". Feel free to chime in...this will be fun and interesting to hear the responses.
Originally Posted by Lunytunz
I'm always a little nervous meeting a new client, but I also pride myself on having the skills to put anyone at ease. So even if I'm feeling nervous I want him to feel comfortable. Putting someone at ease makes ME feel comfortable. I listen to his voice on the phone, his mannerisms and also what he puts in his e mail and tells me about himself. Despite what the stereotypes say that us providers 'only care about the money', there HAS to be some kind of chemistry between the provider AND the client, otherwise, the session won't go well. I always am in a good mood, and if I'm not, then I won't work that day because I'm not going to let my mood rub off on a client who is taking the time to pay me and then I'm not going to give 100% of my best. Luckily, since I have another day job and don't rely on escorting as my sole source of income, I have many breaks in the week and keep my clients primarily to long-time regulars. This new year 2012 will see my first new clients in different states and cities, and I'm really excited about meeting new friends in these places, which makes me even more enthusiastic and excited.
I certainly hope that it shows in my posts here on the board as well. I'm thrilled to be venturing out for the first time in years to meet new clients/friends.
It's interesting for me personally because I try to 'envision' what a client might LOOK like based on his voice, and I'm wrong a lot of times. A older man might sound young, and a young man might sound old. I envision people and they come to my incall ( or I go to them) and the person is totally different from what I envisioned him to be. MOST men I see are average to attractive, sometimes very attractive, although 'looks' have little to do with a good session. I've had a few unattractive ( what by society might be considered not handsome) men give me so many orgasms, it left me needing an asthma inhaler. And then there were a few 'handsome' guys who were so terrible that it left me wanting more. So it all depends.
I for one just believe in this: have a good positive attitude, love what you do, be friendly and fun, and the rest will follow. Not to mention repeat clients