since we can't reply in reviews i thought this would be the best place to respond..
One question for you guys.....I notice alot of providers asking for references or to be verified first. Can anyone help with this? Is there some website I need to be verified on? My concern is that, like many, I'm married and really need to keep this on the downlow. I don't want to have to use my cc to be verified.as one person suggested, P411 is an excellent way to demonstrate to a girl that you are safe, reliable, and not associated with law enforcement. of course, there is the catch-22 of having to have received an "ok" from at least one other local provider.
How would one build references? I don't personally know people on the board, but hope to get to know others at least online and gain some trustworthy status to expand my horizons with other providers. Originally Posted by wideswing
as another person suggested, posting reviews on ECCIE of verified providers goes a long way with a lot of girls. there is a fair amount of crossover between ECCIE and P411 so you could quite easily advance your reputation by reviewing a provider who can also "ok" you.
it was also suggested that you build your reputation with BP girls, because as pointed out, many of them do not screen, and then use them as references.
i would advise against this.
you will find that many gentlemen here, as well as most of the providers, are very wary of girls who do not screen, as well as of the gentlemen who see those providers. if you come to be known as someone who visits with providers who do not screen you very well could find yourself blacklisted by the providers who do.
references can also be a tricky matter. i for one do not wish to have even other ECCIE verified providers know who i am visiting with and when. i certainly do not want a BP girl to know that either. some providers also feel that way or will only accept references from a few limited girls but not others.
unfortunately, not every provider is honest and trust worthy. in the end, this is a business. some girls are dependent upon it, some aren't. it is not uncommon for a less than reputable provider to attempt to make problems for the girl(s) she regards as competition. even worse, are the horror stories of providers attempting to extort or blackmail clients they know have families, spouses, or public notoriety when they begin seeing other girls.
i would advise against using references if discretion and confidentiality are important to you.
some providers when screening first time clients will request personal information such as full name, address, name and number of employer, or even a scan of your drivers license. some gentlemen are obviously wary of this. keep in mind however that a providers business is also built on her reputation and it only takes one violation of trust for her business to be ruined. speaking for myself again, i prefer knowing that a client (new or repeat) has a lot to lose. it helps to assure me that he is not going to be problematic.
if all of this is entirely new to you and not just ECCIE or P411, i would recommend you check out this link "advice for a good experience" which has a lot of great information for first timers http://beforeyoucome.blogspot.com/
not for nothing but!!!! you could not fine a blog by a current or X female escort that supports your view. Bing that this was from a X male escort 
makes it very strange to read 
