emergency during visit

so i had to come to nola today. so since i was here i said hey what the hell, may as well do a lil hobbing so after a few misses, one well known provider calls me back. i set up an time to meet,and i an off......i get there and do the two call,and she doesnt answer..bout to get , but before i can she calls back, and she is in tears and muttering... she says :i am sorry but i cant see u right now, someone just shot my brother....... i am speechless, all i can say is ok. but i feel bad now cause i felt like the right thing to do is to call back and check on her..... but i dont know provider/hobbiest,handbook allows its but i mean on a human level i feel like i should but i didnt so i am saying it here (HOPE YOUR BROTHERS OK ) ....... hobbying sucks sometimes.... thanks everyone for listens,just had to tell someone thats like minded...i dont thing the girlfriend would understand

Life happens, a good friend of mine told me once that in this hobby it is possible to have feelings. Because I have a hard time trusting the providers I am with, I put up a huge wall, so as not to allow myself to like these ladies (by the way it did not work there are a few ladies I consider my friends). But I do have feelings and I have friends in this hobby, both hobbyists and providers. So, having compassion toward someone that is hurting is natural.

I once got a slight fever just before the appt. was to start, I felt bad about cancelling so I left the decision up to the provider, I called her and told her I was not feeling well but I will come over anyway. I had never seen her before so we did not know each other very well. She sounded disappointed and asked me to do what I want (sounded like she wanted the cash). I explained to her my concern is not for how I am feeling, my concern is that if we get intimate, I fear I will be passing my sickness on to you. She thought about it and I could almost hear a light go on in her head and she asked me not to come over. Just simple compassion for our fellow human beings.

Glad you were able to talk about it. I have sympathy for any one that has a loved one get shot.

sorry that happened to you{and her family}!!!

I have sympathy for any one that has a loved one get shot. Originally Posted by Outdoorsman

I have sympathy for anyone who gets shot!

No harm in sending a quick text: "Hope your brother is doing well".

@stavin..... that's why I put it on here because I know she lurks here. I thought to text too. But I wasn't sure what was the correct action, so. Putting it here will do the job....I hope. I don't worry about having feelings about a provider,because I have a solo dolo complex, but just because she is a anatomic sales associate doesn't make her less then a person....and I still. Respect her feeling...as long as they not hobby related

great idea...maybe send her an ecard

@stavin..... that's why I put it on here because I know she lurks here. I thought to text too. But I wasn't sure what was the correct action, so. Putting it here will do the job....I hope. I don't worry about having feelings about a provider,because I have a solo dolo complex, but just because she is a anatomic sales associate doesn't make her less then a person....and I still. Respect her feeling...as long as they not hobby related

But I wasn't sure what was the correct action, so. Originally Posted by mrbig2284

You can never go wrong by being a gentleman.

(Not that I've ever tried it, mind you. But I've heard it's a good idea.)

Pm or email her. I was going through horrific family issues this time last year and a few friends called and checked on me the whole 2+ months that I rarely dated. I consider them "damn fine people" two of the three are still regulars and while my regulars always get the best, these two get exceptional.
Ya know, actually...they are probably the only non-family members who I always pick up the phone, answer emails immediately and drop everything to see. Yep, pretty sure they are.

That sure beats the ole "I had to go to the emergency room because of (insert more bullshit here)" excuse.

That sure beats the ole "I had to go to the emergency room because of (insert more bullshit here)" excuse. Originally Posted by cpi3000

thats what i thought later, but the provider is well known and i have not heard any bad things about her before.....so i dont think she was making it up...... plus a lie like that is pretty low for anyone, not just a provider.