Growing up we were a blended family (yours, mine and ours) and very close, but since my mom passed away she was more or less the glue that held it all together. It seems like no one is willing to go out of their way to try to bond with anyone, also doesn't help because my family seems to hold "grudges" they don't like something someone said at Christmas

The one holiday that most everyone tries to get together is Christmas, the rest of the year no one seems to care. I find I can't even go back at Christmas as it seems so "fake" to me to see people once a year and they express this great interest in what you are doing, but don't reach out to you the rest of the year at all

It doesn't help that everyone is pretty spread out now. Seven out of 9 siblings that are living are all over the US (IL, TN, TX, FL).