"Romantic lighting" may be good if I'm courting someone or dealing with an ugly woman, but I'm tired of going to a lady's incall and not having good lighting available.
Hey, I'm paying to visit with a lovely lady. I want to look at you. If I'm watching porn, I don't want to turn down the brightness to where I can't really see, I want to enjoy the full experience. I want lighting like on a movie set.
I'm paying for an in-person porn session. I want porn quality lighting.
It's fine to have soft lighting, but I want good lighting available.
Well, unless you're ugly.