NOT an Expert buy,,,,,,

There are Ladies on this site or in social gatherings and new to our community,,,,
Sometimes if you go too strong you may turn a Lady off. I know of one who wants to join in but has reservations due to aggressiveness that makes her uncomfortable.
When introduced to someone who is not experienced it may get you more mileage if you show a little restraint and go slow. Being the first is not always the best.
We are attracting more ladies but they need guidance and not a push.

LOL! Just messing with you. What do you mean by restraint though? Like don't solicit them outright, or what? Also, what aggressiveness are you referring to?

Funny!

wow ...are you the boss of all ladys when comes to all of the drama when come our friendship .

Marcus, if a provider is new to this community, and has never had any prior hobby experience...it can seem a little overwhelming. Then, when you add *anxious* hobbyists into the mix...it can be downright frightening!

One good way to ease her in is to introduce her to another provider. Most of us are very willing and experienced in helping newbie ladies learn the ropes. Even someone moving from another city greatly benefits from learning the local scene from someone who's been here awhile. 4 years ago Just Alisha did that for me in Austin and more recently NJ here in SA. Local ladies know the gents who are just "too eager", those that choose not to follow standard etiquette, and we keep a keen eye in those that like to push the limits with a lady that is too new to know better. Even better, we can introduce her to the gents that will treat her with respect, follow etiquette, and never push her past her comfort zone. IMO the latter type of gents outnumber the former when dealing with the "core group", but new ladies are unfortunately easy targets.
Bottom line is find a well established provider you trust and currently has the time to show her the ropes and let the San Antonio Sweethearts guide her from there. Thanks for looking out for her and the rest of us

As far as your advice for the gents: most follow it already, many others would be well advised to follow it, but unfortunately the worst offenders will be clueless that it applies to them.

Thanks Nikki:
You are far better with words than I.

Marcus, if a provider is new to this community, and has never had any prior hobby experience...it can seem a little overwhelming. Then, when you add *anxious* hobbyists into the mix...it can be downright frightening! Originally Posted by Likinikki

Also thanks ATXDREAM.

I am sorry ....i got it now....it read over and to understand what he was writing about being a provider...

being provider is the number 1 frield to be in right now

That one that wants to join but isn't because someone is too aggressive needs to contact the Handy Giraffe..........he is non confrontational....drama adverse and cute.....LOL

That one that wants to join but isn't because someone is too aggressive needs to contact the Handy Giraffe..........he is non confrontational....drama adverse and cute.....LOL Originally Posted by handyGiraffe

I can confirm all the above

Marcus, if a provider is new to this community, and has never had any prior hobby experience...it can seem a little overwhelming. Then, when you add *anxious* hobbyists into the mix...it can be downright frightening! Originally Posted by Likinikki

I concur