You answered your own question, darlin. Its all about speaking intelligently and politely. Yes, some of us ladies get wild BCD and use language we would never use in public, but to approach a lady in the way most young guys do won't work with legit professional ladies. I see gentlemen of all colors, but in all honesty, if someone on the other end of my phone says, 'yo baby, wassup? Can I hit dat?', it makes my pussy pucker and slam shut!