In Texas, and going by the Eccie men and their willingness to be open about their Kinkiness...........Dallas by far. I know every city has their fair share, but some attempt to hide it. Lifes to short not to have fun............
I will tell you I did not have nearly as much of a demand for pegging or anal fisting as I have in Tennessee - of all places! I found Vancouver to be a nasty (in a good way) too! Places like NYC are tamer than you'd expect.