I just wanted to throw this question out to everyone...
When you first walk in, especially if this is your first time with a particular provider...do you feel ok having her bring you a drink, getting comfy on the couch and having a little "get to know each other time"
or
Do you feel thats not what you are paying for and you wanna just head on back to the bedroom and get busy?
Personally, I like to kind of get to know a guy a little bit first. But I undersand they might not feel that way...
what do you guys think....and providers...what are your thoughts?
Please don't take this the wrong way - but you need to learn to "play your player". The answers to this question will be as varied as a fingerprint database. Communicate with your client, there is no right or wrong answer to this question, and there's no "playbook" to be formed by the responses you'll receive . . .
Maybe I am missing something, and I apologize in advance, but the question seems disingenuous given the obvious variance in the answers you'll receive. Maybe I'm just having an off night, but I don't really get it - just go with your gut, everyone is different, and communicate. That's key . . .
Maybe also my view of this particular question is skewed by the recent thread that was in Coed and moved to Infoshare that sought advice better suited honestly, for the powder room (which honestly, I don't know if you can even access).
I'm not coming down on you, and I don't want to stifle the conversation - I just think you need more IRL BCD client experience.
Kisses,
- Jackie
beer, wine, mixed or me.
whats the bar menu??? coffee or tea is nice as I'm a one and done drinker.
And you do not forget this is not tea with the queen errr king
Offshore, seriously, you'll have to slow it down for the threads outside of you know where . . . the masses don't follow the shorthand that we that have been around SHMB's for a long time do . . . ijs.
Angel apparently everbodys agent orange is acting up tonight, must be all the tornado warnings or threats!
I like to get to the deal, but a get to know each other wouldn't be bad, just not my style!
I think most guys like to have a little chat session pre-action with a new provider and a drink is also a nice touch, but they also don't want to use to much of their allocated time just talking, especially if the lady happens to be a clock-watcher. If she's not a clockwatcher, then the "get to know each other" period can be a bit more leisurely.
I cant really agree with what you posted here. Yes there is going to be a wide range of answers, but few people answer just yes or no when asked these types of questions. She appears to just be looking for some additional help in judgeing the situation and the additional input guys answer here might be what she is looking for.
And to be frank, the word disingenuous is probably a terrible word to use in this thread. At least in comparision to your posts in most other threads.
Please don't take this the wrong way - but you need to learn to "play your player". The answers to this question will be as varied as a fingerprint database. Communicate with your client, there is no right or wrong answer to this question, and there's no "playbook" to be formed by the responses you'll receive . . .
Maybe I am missing something, and I apologize in advance, but the question seems disingenuous given the obvious variance in the answers you'll receive. Maybe I'm just having an off night, but I don't really get it - just go with your gut, everyone is different, and communicate. That's key . . .
Maybe also my view of this particular question is skewed by the recent thread that was in Coed and moved to Infoshare that sought advice better suited honestly, for the powder room (which honestly, I don't know if you can even access).
I'm not coming down on you, and I don't want to stifle the conversation - I just think you need more IRL BCD client experience.
Kisses,
- Jackie
Originally Posted by Jackie Devlin
Well, that's your opinion Ryan - but this really belongs in Infoshare or the Powder room - aside from my admission that I may be off tonight, this whole thread if answered in the wrong way by a provider or Escort actually may cause a bit of legal entanglement - it is an admission of an appointment where money is exchanged for sex . . . As for whether or not you find me disingenuous, I don't care and it would really be a topic for another thread, which you're welcome to begin and I'll delightfully ignore - it isn't as though you would ever be a client of mine . . .
As Jackie pointed out, this conversation is much better suited for InfoShare, in which you will get more honest answers.
Each person runs their business different, unless you don't want this to be a business for you and you want to be taken advantage of by some hobbyists.
And to answer the question, I expect at least a few minutes of getting a feel with the girl. I personally dont actually like it when I open a door to an incall and the girl is wearing lingerie the first time I meet them, because normally they hide behind the door while opening it.
I do prefer outcalls and normally offer something to drink and a seat for a quick chat. Now the second, third visits I am perfectly fine with the girl instantly molesting me as they walk in the door.
The exception to this is if there is a girl who has a very low donation and I expect a little less from the experience. Then it is all about my penis and not about my brain at all.
Offshore, seriously, you'll have to slow it down for the threads outside of you know where . . . the masses don't follow the shorthand that we that have been around SHMB's for a long time do . . . ijs.
Originally Posted by Jackie Devlin
ahhh they do not understand me in upstate also. ask'em
You guys seem to be totally missing the point that she's directing her question mainly TO THE GUYS. How can posting in the Powder Room solicit a single response from the guys?
You guys seem to be totally missing the point that she's directing her question mainly TO THE GUYS. How can posting in the Powder Room solicit a single response from the guys?
Originally Posted by KCSmutMonkey
Sorry, my mistake - I said I was off tonight. Forgive me, carry on and answer away! I suppose if she is interested in what we might have to say she can ask for access to the Powder Room or post it in Infoshare.
Seriously, mea culpa.
I dont understand why the inforshare (assuming the private womans infoshare) and the powder room is the best place to ask the question considering the guys opinions count a little more for the experience.
I would agree that another post in one of those areas would be a good idea for additional input on safety and good and bad experiences. But, it still comes down to the client. If it didnt, there would be no donations needed.
Jackie & MsElena,
Much wisdom given and for the most part I have to agree with you. As I read Angel's question, she is specifically inquiring, "What we guys think one way or another." Forgive me if I'm wrong or totally out in left field.
Me personally? I generally like to chat for a get to know you. For me, it makes the setting easier on both of us and once we get down to business, we both can read each other and be in sync a little better than straight to the bed. I genuinely like getting to know the girl I'm with and since I usually like to schedule for at least 90 minutes (2 hours if possible), to me it is time well spent if 5 to 10 minutes is for a get to know you period.
This is just me, obviously I only speak for myself on this issue. Jackie & MsElena, you both are valued resources on nearly any issue and a wealth of information.
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