Types of gfe

Any comments on what makes the ideal GFE? The reason I ask is that I commented on Angels thread contrasting different approaches,and while I was praising her,it unfortunately looks like I was slamming Silly Girl. The point that I did a terrible job making is that I believe there are multiple definitions of GFE. I like the have a drink,hit the couch first approach just like I like the drop my briefcase at the door,let's get it on approach. I don't know if Silly Girl saw the original thread,but I meant no knock on her,one of the hottest women I've ever seen. Okay clarification/apology offered,now,what makes a great experience for you?

Hmmm The good old GFE! This is the dumbest term GFE, like I said before GFE is like the pass interference rule in footbal, who the fuck knows what pass interference is! GFE should be banned from the lexicon of this hobby!

Any girl willing to have sex with me is better than any girlfriend experience I have had before.

I think a GFE refers to someone you share things other than sex with. Maybe so.me kissing, cuddling, talking, sharing your thoughts and feelings.
someone you connect with on more than just a sexual level.

I agree with Darkside, I feel it (the acronym GFE) serves no purpose and should be discouraged from the endeavor. I use it occasionally, but only because it is difficult to find something short and concise to take its place - however, when I do use it, I usually preface the term with what it means to me in the context I am using it, then I use it to save time and space throughout the remainder of the post or occasional (rare) advertisement I may place.

As I believe Questor has pointed out before, the experience you receive is completely subjective; there's no "ideal" that is consistent between any two clients (hence Fastcar's question, which is valid and a good thread for discussion - I'm sort of surprised it hasn't gotten more traction) and certainly it can't be quantified by an acronym, especially one that most agree originated on BBS systems in Canada years ago to indicate the lady did not require a cover for full sex. Of course, the meaning has changed over time and it even means different things in different areas of the country (world). One man's GFE might be another man's PSE and to another it might be just a NON-E.

GFE to me means that I am not mechanical, I am into the individual that I am with...so much so that he forgets, just for that time, that I am a provider.

If you do this well it can create big problems as fantasy and reality are more easily confused. I see it happen to seasoned hobbiests and providers alike.

Unfortunately, there are many golddiggers who profit off of what was an upfront agreement and now has crossed the line by playing with the man's emotions for money. Totally wrong.

There are also men who abuse provider's time. Overstaying, over texting etc. You compensate the provider for her time. If you are using 1 hr a week between msg.'s and emails, you are abusing her time and stealing from her.

There is a fine line and it is the provider's job to maintain that boundry, not use it for manipulation. That's what I love about the hobby is that everyone has clear boundries.

When I started I didn't abuse that but also didn't know how to see it coming or prevent it. Now, if I see that a client is losing site of our agreement or possibly his emotions are becoming too involved, I call attention to the issue. Sometimes this means suggesting that they see other providers and losing a regular. It's the right thing to do.

It's not worth hurt feelings and it's not worth the emotional drama. No one wins in this situation.

I'm down with GFE....just don't abuse it ladies and gentleman.

Arianna

Ari I need a tie for my suit ...can you recommend one?

Hey BD,I don't care about the tie but I bought the shoes(size 8). Those you can't have!

I just wanna hang on to the shoes while Ari ties my tie with her tongue!!!

Is that possible?

HMMM

Ari I need a tie for my suit ...can you recommend one? Originally Posted by BigDeal

Yes...bring on with you and maybe you can take a souvenier

Hey BD,I don't care about the tie but I bought the shoes(size 8). Those you can't have! Originally Posted by Fastcar

Uh-oh...here we go with the shoes again. If someone finds the last item that I left behind, the probably won't know what it is!

Ari

at least you leave shoes.. I always leave lube... damnit....

GFE... Jesus god, I won't be a girlfriend in real life so I sure as hell am not going to do a fantasy one, unless you want me to and then that had best be discussed before we go into public.

I actually had a guy tell people I was his WIFE because he thought I didn't speak the native language!!! Gotta tell you though, when I broke out the truth en espanol were they shocked or WHAT????

I am me, you are you. As Ari said, we are here to be at one, to enjoy each others company and to be IN THE MOMENT... If someone comes away with a GFE experience of whatever damn label they want to have, ok groovy...

I just like to call me the 'JAZZ EXPERIENCE'

cha baby, cha!!
xo
Jazz

There is a fine line and it is the provider's job to maintain that boundry, not use it for manipulation. That's what I love about the hobby is that everyone has clear boundries.


Arianna Originally Posted by Ari816

Not always true.....boundries are easily confused and be misinterpreted by both parties. How do you suggest infractions should be handled as it is the provider's responsibility?

I don't have a problem with GFE as a term but to me it has a simple meaning. If a lady says she's GFE she just saved herself the effort of having to write that she offers LFK, DFK, and BBBJ. That's it. Shorthand for those three things.

Anything else that someone thinks GFE might describe is so subjective as to be meaningless.

Jack

DFK,DATY,BBBJ,FIV,MSOG about sums it up lol

GFE is a blackbox to a client.