Simple embarrassing ???

I have met 3-4 providers on here and have the same thing happen to me each time (except once)... I get so nervous in the first meeting, I cannot perform. The only provider I was not nervous with was RebeccaUT, who no longer is on here.

In Feb. I met Ashley, then recently met up with Maci. Both times, I was unable to get little man up to the occasion. Which I am utterly and overly embarrassed to admit and usually am so embarrassed at the time.

Can anyone suggest possibly something (other than prescription pills) that will help with this? Does anyone else get nervous when meeting new providers?

Just looking for some advice.

Go do a gang bang you cannot be nervous after conquering that.

I heard a finger in the butt helps....

Maybe you just like guys and have 't realized it quite yet?

Seriously, I hate incalls...especially at some obscure hotel. Try an outcall (if u can) see if it helps with the venue change.
Take some time to talk to the girl...get comfortable...sometimes rushing right in with someone you just met isn't natural. Let some chemistry evolve before physical touch.

If all that fails, have ten shots fo Patron and you won't give a fuck anymore...

How about trying FBSM before full service? You can lay back and be relaxed without the need to perform if you don't want to. Or how about contacting someone like Paven? She will come to your house and be your personal stripper while still providing a happy ending (not fs).

Seriously, I hate incalls...especially at some obscure hotel. Try an outcall (if u can) see if it helps with the venue change.
Take some time to talk to the girl...get comfortable...sometimes rushing right in with someone you just met isn't natural. Let some chemistry evolve before physical touch. Originally Posted by Toyz

That's the only difference between Rebecca and the others. I did an outcall with Rebecca at my place and was comfortable. All the others were incalls at hotels or their place. You might have figured out my issue.

I'll be available here M-F for sexual advice, free provider photography as well as wine selection and cooking tips...just remember to ask for Dr Toyz when you need help...

sounds like you answered you own question,, try to feel comfortable as much as you can before taking the plunge,, that did happen to me once in a Studio in Houston, just to much commotion going on in the lobby,..I had to get it up myself,

It is certainly embarrassing when you aren't able to perform, and anyone who has hobbyed for any length of time has undoubtedly been there at least once.

That's the only difference ...
All the others were incalls at hotels or their place. Originally Posted by sportsguy

By "your place" I'm assuming you mean your home/apartment/condo/place-you-normally-sleep.

From a security/privacy standpoint, you only want to invite ladies with a stellar reputation that don't have issues with their current so, any former so's, former boyfriends, former clients...

If you're concerned about that aspect of it (you may not be, depending on your living situation, your neighbors, etc.) you might try getting a room at an upscale hotel for yourself and then inviting the lady to meet YOU there. It might just be the anxiety of getting to her that is causing the issue.

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Go do a gang bang you cannot be nervous after conquering that. Originally Posted by rockerrick

Ya, I'm sure he won't have any problems with that. If he can't do it one on one how's he gonna do it when you staring him in the eyes banging her from other side.

How about trying FBSM before full service? You can lay back and be relaxed without the need to perform if you don't want to. Or how about contacting someone like Paven? She will come to your house and be your personal stripper while still providing a happy ending (not fs). Originally Posted by justabloke

This is actually a good idea. get massage and see if the relaxation eases your mind and your man comes a calling.

It is certainly embarrassing when you aren't able to perform, and anyone who has hobbyed for any length of time has undoubtedly been there at least once.



By "your place" I'm assuming you mean your home/apartment/condo/place-you-normally-sleep.

From a security/privacy standpoint, you only want to invite ladies with a stellar reputation that don't have issues with their current so, any former so's, former boyfriends, former clients...

If you're concerned about that aspect of it (you may not be, depending on your living situation, your neighbors, etc.) you might try getting a room at an upscale hotel for yourself and then inviting the lady to meet YOU there. It might just be the anxiety of getting to her that is causing the issue.

z Originally Posted by ztonk

+1, risky indeed.


If it's a physical issue there are pills for that. Hard to overcome the mental issue. Sounds like your mind fucking your own dick in softness.

Ya, I'm sure he won't have any problems with that. If he can't do it one on one how's he gonna do it when you staring him in the eyes banging her from other side. Originally Posted by homer13

Never said he wouldn't have a problem doing it , just that he would never be nervous again after conquering it ! Tell me I'm lying .

Don't touch your dick, except to pee or wash it, for 2 weeks. Then schedule a late afternoon session and spend the whole day at the beach watching the hotties in their bikinis. If the girl is halfway decent looking you will probably bust a nut as soon as she puts her hand or mouth on it...then go for round 2 or 3...

Never said he wouldn't have a problem doing it , just that he would never be nervous again after conquering it ! Tell me I'm lying . Originally Posted by rockerrick

I'm telling you I don't think he will be able to conquer it. I think he'd spend the whole time on the bed with a softy or in the corner with his thumb in his mouth.

Been there done that !

I know you mentioned no pills. Why not consider it? They are easy enough to get from a doctor.