So from an etiquette aspect; is keeping a ladies hair out of the way polite? I find it more intimate to run my fingers through her hair, pulling her up to make eye contact, then returning her to the action.

The question for my fellow hobbyists: Do you feel comfortable holding her hair during BBBJ and controlling the tempo or would you rather they use a hair tie or clip so you can just lay back and enjoy?
The question for providers: What do you prefer, hands on or hands off?
