do you tell a provider if a hobbyist is LEO?

Ok so lets face it, many of us have met a cop or two in their lives, so that got me to thinking about a scenario the other day.

We were out for a friends Bachelor party at the strip clubs the other night, and we had a guy who was a cop in the group. Someone mentioned getting the bachelor a date for the evening, and he was up for it. I started to mention one of the dancers I knew was a provider.... but I just shut up due to not knowing how to answer this question.

In that scenario, do we as hobbyist have a duty to inform the provider that one of the possible hobbyists was LEO.... knowing that he was wanting to be a hobbyist for the evening, and taking the "night off". Also assuming you know he would not go back another time to screw with her.

The scenarios I saw coming out of the situation....

1. You ask her to partake, but say, "hey just FYI so and so is LEO, but it's ok he's cool with it". She freaks and black balls you b/c your friends with a LEO.

2. You don't say anything, and everyone is happy, as she never knows.

3. You tell her and she's cool with it (I doubt this would happen)

Discuss!

If you trust your friend the cop, if you really trust your friend, if you really really trust your friend, then i would think the best move is just to not say anything.

But if your friend is Barney Fife, who thinks he's always on duty and needs to pass out jay walking tickets while on a family picnic, then i think you'd have an obligation to tell her.

Don't get into the situation to begin with. If he is wanting to find a provider, let him do it on his own. Wash your hands of it.

Say nothing to any party.

It's a good way to screw up your relationship with each of them and possibly get one, two or all three of you in hot water. If they get together in their normal course of what they may or may not do during the evening, then so be it. You can't be the girls protector...or your buddy's protector for that matter.

What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.

Don't get into the situation to begin with. If he is wanting to find a provider, let him do it on his own. Wash your hands of it. Originally Posted by Tiffany Cums

That was exactly what I chose to do in that situation! But was still curious what others thought of the deal.

Tiffany Cums said it right!!!
{you forgot scenerio #3...later he uses the info he has to blackmail the provider for free sex!}

You can "clean em up/dress em in civilian clothes",but a pig will always return to wallow in the mud!

Actually I hadn't forgot it! I was thinking specifically about it when I stated "Also assuming you know he would not go back another time to screw with her."

Of course you never REALLY know what someone else will do, but you can usually get a good indication of people if you've been around them long enough!

Providers: if a regular refers a friend to you, would you still require some screening info from that friends? I always thought it was a yes but I could be wrong.

The AlphaMale---hell yeah babe!! Ya never can trust anyone in this biz...no matter who they are! It does make it easier to get a reference though.

Providers: if a regular refers a friend to you, would you still require some screening info from that friends? I always thought it was a yes but I could be wrong. Originally Posted by TheAlphaMale

I wouldn't put them through the normal screening. The exchange of emails and chatting on the phone, would be enough to make sure we were compatible.

Originally posted by Doove:
"If you trust your friend the cop, if you really trust your friend, if you really really trust your friend, then i would think the best move is just to not say anything.

But if your friend is Barney Fife, who thinks he's always on duty and needs to pass out jay walking tickets while on a family picnic, then i think you'd have an obligation to tell her."

+1

The problem with saying something if you don't have to is that then you might be obligated to protect her later. If you refer this man and he abuses his position to blackmail or threaten her, she might come to you for help. That would put everyone in a tricky situation.

The scenarios I saw coming out of the situation....

1. You ask her to partake, but say, "hey just FYI so and so is LEO, but it's ok he's cool with it". She freaks and black balls you b/c your friends with a LEO.

2. You don't say anything, and everyone is happy, as she never knows.

3. You tell her and she's cool with it (I doubt this would happen)

Discuss! Originally Posted by Okiecocker

1. she freaks and black balls you bc ur friends w/ LE? hardly, everyone knows someone...

2. if i were you, i'd say something...

3. I doubt this would happen... LOL! Oh yeah?

Forget Barney Fife. You need to channel Shultz from Hogan's Heroes.

It's best to just stay out of it altogether. Don't mix your hobby life with your non-hobby personal life.