Too Personal?

badhusband's Avatar
This question goes out to the gals. During a date, what activity do you consider too personal? I can see that some gals don't do greek with a client, but maybe with a S.O. etc. Do you state the "dont's" beforehand?
This question came to mind a few weeks ago. I was with a gal and while going at it mish, I was balls deep and went to kiss her. She turned away. Okay, I'm shaved, I have a clean mouth, fresh breath, decent teeth, so I don't think that it's me. So I ruled out myself as the culprit and asked her. She stated that she considered it too personal. I was a little taken aback by it considering that my dick was buried full tilt into her and we were going at it and kissing is too personal? I also know that sometimes it's a YMMV thing as well, but again, I don't think it was because of anything bad on my part. I'm curious to hear what are some of the other boundaries are and how do you go about communicating them as well.
Nothing like running into a 'horny' provider...that is AWESOME!!! It happens (with low volume, low profile, UTR, etc. fems). That shit is HOTtTxOxO (kisses)
Lot of providers say kissing is too personal....What the hell...a BJ isnt personal or daty?
How many people here have been at a new years party and kissed a stranger at a party?
Im not wanting to marry you just because you kiss good - so why hold back..kissing is fun !
shorty's Avatar
I would say kissing, cim, bbfs, creampie, are all too personal. Sometimes greek is also personal but there are ladies that true love greek.
burkalini's Avatar
I don't daty or kiss in my hobby life. I keep that for my civie life
Personally I don't mind kissing but I can understand why several girls would not. Kissing IS more intimate than sex, especially to women. Its science. Kissing is connotative of love, commitment, passion, vulnerability, and respect.

Sex, can mean several of these things as well, but its actually connected to a part of our brain thats more instinctive - more about basic mechanical reproduction.

Kissing became something analogous of romance fairly recently in human evolution, while sex, obviously, has always been around - and for a large majority of human history had nothing to do with anything but survival of the human race. Sex was as much as a part of life as hunting and gathering. Kissing came around thousands of years later as the human emotional spectrum and overall social structures evolved.

Also, young girls are raised around fairytales, barbie dolls, harliquin (sp?) novels, etc that perpetuate the idea of kissing = love (not sex equals love), and the moment of the kiss is the climax of solid commitment. Actually, several modern plotlines in movies and books geared towards 18-25yr old females involve meaningless sex or seemingly meaningless sex leaving the woman in a state of limbo until a passionate kiss in the rain (or something equally dramatic) proves his desire to now be in a monogamous relationship with her and her alone.

Unfortunately, the difference between a kiss and sex to a woman is not the same to many men. Studies have proven that a large percentage of men when engaged in or watching a kiss register is as just another sexual activity.

Long story short, when a female experiences a kiss biology takes over and emotions are automatically involved that are not necessarily involved in sex alone. These may or may not be emotions she wants to share with a client. Clients may be left befuddled because they simply do not have the same biological and pshycological makeup as females, because their role in sex has not gone through the same changes that the female role has experienced throughout human evolution.

/end dork rant
Pink Floyd's Avatar
I am suprised on the subject of kissing because it is so important to the whole event. I have only seen one girl who didn't kiss, and I have only seen her one time.
Kissing too personal? This isnt Pretty Woman... lol !!

Too personal would be if hobbyist dropped to one knee and an engagement ring. I draw the line there. LOL!!! Otherwise... bring it!!
I think "Too personal" is all in our heads. The providers that don't let things get too personal realize this and know its just buinsess.
Skip_8's Avatar
Too fucking funny.

A girl says " You can fuck me up the ass,in my pussy, I'll suck your dick and you can cum in my eye or or down my thigh(hell, bring a friend) ....but I draw the line at Kissing that would be too personal...Oh did I mention you shove this 12 inch dildo up my ass during doggy style?"
gimme_that's Avatar
I once saw a provider who ooriginally when our appointment started woul kiss and had a full menu. After I did daty on her an came up to kiss her she said she didn't want to taste herself or kiss after she has been given oral. That was a strange, dissapointing, and temporarily scarry appointment at the time, and I definitely didn't see her again and negated going down on her anymore during the appointment. I just continued on with the appointment requesting just sex and oral on me.
Skip_8's Avatar
Well, I can understand that one.

Do you want a girl to kiss you after she's sucked your dick and maybe came in her mouth? I sure as hell don't.

I once saw a provider who ooriginally when our appointment started woul kiss and had a full menu. After I did daty on her an came up to kiss her she said she didn't want to taste herself or kiss after she has been given oral. That was a strange, dissapointing, and temporarily scarry appointment at the time, and I definitely didn't see her again and negated going down on her anymore during the appointment. I just continued on with the appointment requesting just sex and oral on me. Originally Posted by gimme_that
smoothnsilky's Avatar
I do not look into a clients eyes. That is way to personal to me.

xoxo
Dawn
Since there is no relationship no certain acts feel personal to me.
gimme_that's Avatar
Well, I can understand that one.

Do you want a girl to kiss you after she's sucked your dick and maybe came in her mouth? I sure as hell don't. Originally Posted by Skip_8
Yeah but ladies don't cum like we do. And given the choice beforehand between kissing and no kissing if I daty I wouldn't have seen her. I was moreso worried maybe she knew something that I didn't.....but it was just her preference, and it turned a gfe session into a pse one real quick.