Patience, my son!

Don't you hate when you blow money on a what equates to a bullshit session or even two, only to have a provider that you really wanted to see show up out of nowhere or become available?

Man, I hate that SHIT!!

And when you reflect on those recently wasted sessions, there's always a sign that you should've waited, but ignored. Oh, she took a long time to answer, but you stayed on the line or repeated calling her. Or, it took you a while to find your ATM card to make a withdrawal. Whatever it may be, there's always a moment of clarity that your inner self is saying, "Don't go through with this session", but you blow it off. Money is wasted...and now, here comes _______________ readily available.

If you would've waited that one more fucking day....

Worst feeling in the world.

Rambro, been there and done that. It is one of the worst feelings around.

Don't beat yourself up, my profile quote is only too true. Remember where your decisions are coming from.

Or ... maybe it is the "grass is greener" syndrome. Around here in TX I find it absolutely amazing that when you drive by a big paddock with horses there is so often one of them that's straining as hard as possible over/through barbed wire to reach some of what's growing outside the enclosure.

I do that shit all of the time. You can call me grasshopper. ithygrasshopperphallicus.

I call it "Buyers Remorse". Has happened more times than I'd care to share. Get all worked up talking to a gal and then get to see her and afterwards the reason I feel dirty is because of my own Buyers Remorse Shame. Going back thru the photoshopped pics and mental buildup of what she is/would be like BCD. Depressing just thinking about it...LOL

Hell, imagine how the girls feel after seeing 75% of the guys on this board, bp and other sites.

I call it "Buyers Remorse". Has happened more times than I'd care to share. Get all worked up talking to a gal and then get to see her and afterwards the reason I feel dirty is because of my own Buyers Remorse Shame. Going back thru the photoshopped pics and mental buildup of what she is/would be like BCD. Depressing just thinking about it...LOL

Hell, imagine how the girls feel after seeing 75% of the guys on this board, bp and other sites. Originally Posted by Von Spieler

Yeah, but at least they get to keep the money. We just make "deposits". LOL

Yep. A lot easier on the psyche (possibly) to tough out banging a fat, old man yet walk it off with a trip to the mall with his money. The guy is thinking, "Shit, I could've gotten my oil changed, tires rotated, and had a steak dinner and movie for what I just blew on a lousy lay. Fuck it. I'm done with the hobby (for all of 2 days)."

I would say good research is the key, I've always been a
quality over quantity guy anyway. Only had one disappointment
so far and I knew that it was iffy going in, learned my lesson there.

The rest have been really good to fantastic, and I don't mind
a little more of a donation to get what I'm looking for.

To me ho-hum just to get laid isn't an option.

Find the best girls and don't go in with a selfish attitude,
go in with the attitude that I'm going to show this girl
the best time that she has ever had.

That attitude is kind of contagious and she might just
pick up on it and give it right back to you.
Not always but believe me it can happen.

Hope that doesn't sound too much like the hobby
guide for self affirmation.

My problem is setting a personal goal to reward myself with a hobby experience. Like when I lose 10 lbs I will go see a provider. When I save $1000 I will apply another $200 to the hobby. Shit, all $1200 goes for pussy.

I don't get to hobby near as often as many of you, so I tend to put a lot of effort into research before I see a lady for the first time. I try to get a feel for chemistry before I ever set an appointment. So far it has worked well. I'm also a huge fan of the repeat visit. Given the exceptional ladies that I have met, there has to be a very strong attraction to get me to roll the dice with someone I haven't seen. As Bojulay said, it's all about quality. Thanks to my brothers who are willing TOFTT and report back. Without you, my game doesn't play.

I don't get to hobby near as often as many of you, so I tend to put a lot of effort into research before I see a lady for the first time. I try to get a feel for chemistry before I ever set an appointment. So far it has worked well. I'm also a huge fan of the repeat visit. Given the exceptional ladies that I have met, there has to be a very strong attraction to get me to roll the dice with someone I haven't seen. As Bojulay said, it's all about quality. Thanks to my brothers who are willing TOFTT and report back. Without you, my game doesn't play. Originally Posted by Caleb

I like your post! That's why I like it when a guy wants to see me because he wants to see me and interested in me...not just because he's horny at the moment and wants to see anyone that happens to be available. I like men who do their research carefully and set an appointment with the ones he really wants to see. But I know men...it's probably too much to ask. LOL!!! I understand that too.

Patience does have it's rewards. I have always been somewhat afraid that even with due diligence in researching a particular lady, that my experience will be the opposite of anything written by others.

I waited literally years to meet a particular provider here after a failed first attempt. It was all that I could imagine and more once I did meet her.

But then again, horny right now does often trump patience.

Originally Posted by cheatercheater - But then again, horny right now does often trump patience.

I've beent here many times brother. I know when I have been at work all day or late at night and spent way too many hours in chat talking to different girls, trying to decide who I want to see, I start getting buyers remorse before even deciding. However, I usually end up frustrated and on the drive home, looking at my phone with 3 to 8 girls numbers who want to see me and/or my money deciding if horny and losing $ on an unknown will trump just going home and using my own hand thus saving $.

There have been more times than not where on my drive home I shake my head after I decided to stop for a 30 min or hour rendevous and tell myself "You shoulda gone on home and gone to bed." This is usually preceded by me saying "She's been using the same photoshopped pics since ASPD/Pre ECCIE days. She really should update her pics to reflect what she is now".

Von, I feel your pain. More times than I want to remember smacking myself afterwords and thinking I would have been better off scratching my back on the edge of the door followed by my own hand. And it would have saved the cash for someone worthwhile.