Date or Drink?

curious247's Avatar
Is it weird to call a girl from here to meet up for a casual drink on the way home from work to just chill and relax. Obviously I would be calling one that has seen me a couple of times so they would be comfortable with me. No biggie just curious if this happens or if it is one of those unwritten rules that you dont do or are the women not comfortable with doing. Surely the women dont have an appt every hour. Who wouldnt want to have a drink on the house. Hit me up ladies
pyramider's Avatar
Just be considerate about the ladies' time. They will spend the time to put their warpaint on and get gussied up, even if they are wearing a t-shirts and jeans.
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Pistolero's Avatar
Is it weird to call a girl from here to meet up for a casual drink on the way home from work to just chill and relax. Surely the women dont have an appt every hour. Who wouldnt want to have a drink on the house. Hit me up ladies Originally Posted by curious247
The thing to remember is that these providers are selling time. And I will bet that will be the answer you hear. Some even have prices listed for non-bcd time.

So, not weird, but not free either
Longshot, I think you misunderstood the question, the hobbyist, in this case Curious247 was merely asking if it was ok for him to ask a lady out for a drink.

I agree with Curious247, why is it so wrong for a lady to invest some of her time OTC with a hobbyist for a drink or something? Call it marketing expense, or maybe the lady just enjoys spending time with a certain guy. Whatever, but I think its classy to enjoy a drink or two in a nice setting, good drinks and who knows, the lady might get an appointment out of spending a little bit of OTC time. But I also agree with Pyramider, dont take advantage of the lady's time and certainly do not look at this as an opportunity for a "feebie" session.

Although I know a certain lady on the board that will follow you about anywhere if the evening out includes midget wrestling, hint hint hint ITALIAN PRINCESS!!!!!

OOOppppsssss my bad, sorry not midget wrestling, short people wrestling.
I think you should compensate her for her time but not at the BCD rate. Personally, I think $50 / hour is reasonable.
Red Tex's Avatar
HOw many threads are going to be started on this subject????

These women sell their time. They are not your friend.

Do not be an ass and ask for time if you will not compensate them for it!

If they bring up the idea, then it is okay.
...They are not your friend.... Originally Posted by Red Tex
Actually, I've had the good fortune to make a number of good friends on this board.

"Providers" are "people" too. They like to go out and do things as much as the next person.

As long as you know each other, have a rapport, and you're not interrupting her "business', I say ask away.
Jules Jaguar's Avatar
I have also made some good friends on this board and sure we have dinners and drinks otc but they dont take advantage either, these are people who also spend time bcd with me as well.

So my advice is sure, I dont see it being weird as long as it is someone that you see fairly regularly. If its a girl you have never seen before she may think you are trying to take advantage.
I agree also with most...every provider is different in how they conduct their business. I myself enjoy having a few drinks and sometimes even a strip club time with clients and it didnt require them to have a donation. I will say it is right that if a guy ask for the provider for drinks/dinner/or any other OTC activity, that they expect to pay for that activity and not you expect her to carry her own tab. I will say like Jules that it usually works best with providers that you seem to have a pretty good connection/relationship with BCD to make it very calm and relaxing time OTC. Godd luck!
pyramider's Avatar
I can see now ... some fucktard is going to get all butt hurt because he got NCNS'd for drincks or dinner.
Nothing good comes from blurring a boundry.
I can't see anything wrong with asking a provider. If you and your escort are both happy with the arrangement. It's actually part of a traditional definition of an escort. Just be sure to have a clear arrangement on the donation, if any, as to avoid a potential $ misunderstanding.

The boundary between professional and personal is where I think the risk is, perceptions clashing with the realities of the arrangement.

Escort: n.
1.
a. One or more persons accompanying another to guide, protect, or show honor.
b. A man who is the companion of a woman, especially on a social occasion.
c. A person, often a prostitute, who is hired to spend time with another as a companion.
Just don't forget to ask her pimp to come along. It would be rude not to.
Depends on the chick. If y'all vibe right then it should be known. I know the ones I can do this with, the ones I'm not sure about, and the ones that I know not to even ask about this.

All depends brother.