"Falling 4 your ATF"

A fellow hobbyist asked me, "how do you handle falling for your ATF?" and should you tell her? Didn't know what to tell him. Any advice?

Hmmmm. Awkward! lol I wouldn't wanna know of it were me, but that's just me.

You and I will meet him at the place of your choosing; then we'll team up, bitch-slapping some sense into the fool.

On a decidedly more serious note: My ATF is the best girl friend I've ever had for one hour or evening. What helps me keep things in perspective is reading reviews of her by others, for whom she is the best girl friend they have ever had for an hour (or longer). She has an amazing talent for creating nothing more or less than a fantasy hour or evening for each of us. But when the hour or evening ends, so does the fantasy.

Your friend appears to have confused fantasy with reality.

You and I will meet him at the place of your choosing; then we'll team up, bitch-slapping some sense into the fool. Originally Posted by Bush Pilot

May I join?

If he is falling for his ATF, then it's probably time for him to find a new ATF.

I'm not saying that she doesn't feel the same about him, who knows? Maybe she does. I'm all for falling in love. The bad thing about this is that she may not feel the same about him.

Only he and she can figure that out. Maybe your friend needs to take a break from this hobby.

I slapped him several times hoping that he would snap out of it. It didn't work. Damn shame! I have a plan but he might not speak to me again!

I have a plan but he might not speak to me again! Originally Posted by Blckpr

Don't get involved with his affairs. Let him figure it out on his own. I know it's painful to see him suffer, but sometimes we need to fall on our face in order to learn.

In the Hobby, there is a line between Hobbyist and Provider.

We shouldn't cross it.

If the Hobbyist dares to cross it, he better have a bank account as deep as the Marianas (sp) trench.

btdt,,,Well if you tell her ...it will probally be one way.so don't expect anything in return. You may become her sugardaddy if she likes you...not a bad thing just remember thats the way it is. There is some jelousy.miss moss Do it only with me...or with them its only Sex..good luck

There are plenty of articles on the internet regarding "Infatuation vs Love". True feelings may indeed exist on both sides, but it is important to recognize Infatuation vs Love in any relationship.

It's important for ur friend to understand in Life that between two people, it's the feelings that r most important in 3 ways: sexual attraction, communication, and minds. In hobby, usually the frirst two takes the cake; in friendship it's the latter twos dominates. However, it works both ways in each area of attraction. Each can have different feelings in various degrees in the different area. But when one also feels comfortable with the minds in hobbying, the feeling described as falling for ATF can happen but it's most in important to ask ur friend to be absolute honest to oneself as to how he feels the other feels towards him in each area.
Then again, most people in the world can't do that or just don't want to. Thus the moment or even to the perception of stalking.
All most all divoice today happens when one or both finds that either:
-all the initial sexual attraction no long out weighs the constant arguing and fighting.
-the comfort feeling of being with each other no longer out weighs the lack of attraction sexually.
One sign is missing from reading about you friend's feeling, if the feelings are strong mutually in each area, the referred ATF would have already acted the same way, falling for him.
It's quite ok to find someone u like, that's the fun of life; but it's not ok to be depressed when u finf others just don't quite feel the same way. The feelings I referred to will never change, it's even more silly thinking that if u put forth some effort or drastic actions hoping to change other's feeling!
Damn, I feel old! LOL. But I sure am happier and have more fun.
Hale to hobby!

A fellow hobbyist asked me, "how do you handle falling for your ATF?" and should you tell her? Didn't know what to tell him. Any advice? Originally Posted by Blckpr

Blackpr, Don't do it...Don't do it ha.....Remaining "good friends" is the best way to go...You can be close and know the diffence so there won't be no hard feelings

Don't get involved with his affairs. Let him figure it out on his own. I know it's painful to see him suffer, but sometimes we need to fall on our face in order to learn. Originally Posted by JJ

The winner!

My ATF and I fell in love with each other. It worked for over a year and a half. Both of us are married and neither of us wanted anything from each other except for our twice a month multi-hour sessions. It was working out great...until she finally decided to end it when she felt it was emotionally interferring with her marraige despite the fact we never went beyond our regularly scheduled sessions.

It can work, probably not in most cases in the hobby world, but it can. Those sessions were by far the best I've ever encountered in the hobby.

Oh yes. This will be a match made in heaven. Lmfao. Possesiveness is all it is.... I don't wanna share mentality. Sex good blah blah. Old thread but it rang my bell. I'm highly intoxicated and my roomie is still not back from the barr. I'm worried now. Random. Sorry