Advice for a newbie?

I'm wondering if any of you have any suggestions for me. I'm new to this and want to be very careful as I dip my toe in the pool. I want to find a well reviewed, trustworthy, as well as very attractive provider but I'm running into a big issue. I completely understand why these ladies want to screen us and it makes me more comfortable knowing that they do. But it seems common that a major way they screen is to call us at work. I have no problem with this whatsoever, but I work for myself and my work number is my cell phone number. There must be a lot of other guys out there that own their own business, work from home or some other variation that doesn't have them working at an office with a work phone number. How do you guys get around that?

guess it kinda depends on what type of personal info your will to provide the provider that screens..some are very creative with the screening and can work with you..some are more cut and dry about it.. some guys will say dont give her a damn thing about you ..some will say this provider that provider will work with you...tat for tit..goodluck...play safe..

She can Google your work number and business name, I know I do. I kind of prefer small business owners, Dr.s with their own practice, real estate agents, and lawyers with their own firm because screening is easy. It is always comforting to know who to look for in your peephole, it adds a sense of security like with a regular. I like to know things like age, height, musical tastes, and so on just to get a feel for who I am meeting. If someone is 65 and 5'7" I want to know so I'm not blasting tool wearing my 7 1/2 inch heels with guns barrels for heels and bullets across the straps and turn up fishnets . I also want to know if someone is 25 and 6'4" so I'm not barefoot with Frank Sinatra on.

Thanks Anita. I tried to get creative but it didn't seem to work. Like you said, I guess it will be different with different providers. The only reason I posted this question is because I ran into it both times I contacted a provider so I thought maybe it was pretty standard.

That all makes sense Lexxxy. I work for a very large company but I'm the only employee in the area. It's not the type of business where a google search will yield my name and number associated with that company. But I do have business cards, company email, many many clients in the area, etc.

Thanks Anita. I tried to get creative but it didn't seem to work. Like you said, I guess it will be different with different providers. The only reason I posted this question is because I ran into it both times I contacted a provider so I thought maybe it was pretty standard. Originally Posted by blankslate31

In my situation, there is NO WAY IN HELL I'm giving out my work info. My advice: before you share information, you need to consider what's the worst possible thing that could happen once she has that info, and plan accordingly. If she has your work info and goes aggressively off the deep end, you've now compromised your economic well being. Same thing if you're hobbying UTR and have a significant other you don't want to know. Do you really want to do an outcall to your house, and risk the provider showing up one day, unannounced, paying your family a visit, because she went off the deep end? No, you do not.

One thing you may want to try, if you have a specific girl you ABSOLUTELY want to see, is ask her exactly what she will or won't accept as references. If she wants to talk to other providers, find out specifically what kind of providers she'll accept. Then, make an appt with one or two who will provide references for you (ask before you go! Not everyone's willing to provide references.) If the main girl you want to see isn't willing to work with you a little bit, it should be a clue as to what kind of experience you can expect if you did see her in person.

Honestly, there's so many perfectly nice girls who don't put clients through this run around with references and all this other baloney. You can get all the info you need on them online to satisfy yourself that they're legit. And if she's that uptight, you really have to ask yourself if she's worth all this prep work just to spend an hour with her.

I understand the girls need to exercise some discretion and protect themselves, but some people turn this into a freakin' Bond movie. It's P4P, not some cloak and dagger spy on spy scenario.

your very welcome.....

In my situation... Do you really want to do an outcall to your house, and risk the provider showing up one day, unannounced, paying your family a visit, because she went off the deep end? . Originally Posted by oliassunhillow

Many ladies have incall in their HOME. Same concept for us. We risk it every time, just so we can pay the bills.

I'm with most everyone here... each lady has her own guidelines and their spin of them. Sometimes screening is easy with what you are offering for info. Sometimes screening is not easy. It really is an individualised process. I require different things from different people, depending on the info they provide me with initially.

A lot of ladies lose out on a lot of money because of their screening. I rather be broke than busted. Most of us just want to make sure you are not LE.

If you are striking out, just keep going!

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Good luck!!

heyhey sweets..very well said..)

Sometimes I forget how hard it can be when your first starting out. Used to think I'd never get to see the ladies I wanted. Now I just give my ECC handle and my P411 id #. Quick and easy. Never, never blame these ladies for being cautious. It's their business but they want to be able to go home safe just like you do.Same for both of you, you want to know what your walking into, they want to know what's walking in.

Thanks, Nita. As are all of your posts! :-)

Sometimes what I like best about the forum is that I have the opportunity to hear the personal spins on a single topic. I like "reading the personality" in the posts; Funny that sometimes the personalities match the online persona and sometimes they don't.

thankyou sweets!! when you coming back to town? we gotta do a m&g again soon

I have hardly ever needed a reference. I sure as HELL would never give out my private information. Work info? Are you crazy?

I haven't met one provider that was so amazing that I felt compelled to endanger my livelihood.

Good luck,

Max

I'll be sure not to miss seeing you! The last time was awesome!

Pick a good lady with reviews that has been around a while so that you know she runs an actual business instead of being a bimbo with a cell and vajayjay putting 2 and 2 together.Doing your homework is just as important as us doing ours.
Allow her to screen you her way and then make sure to post a review and make posts on the board to show your personality.
Dont be rude, vulgar, graphic, or say how much for this or that when you write a Lady. I don't reply to those messages and I know I'm not alone in that.
If you chose to go the way of not giving any info I recommend going to Canada to start where it is legal. Once again. Pick a good girl with a business and site or else a lot of us wont count her vouch if she isn't legitimate.
Within no time if you aren't an ass on the board and pick your Ladies wisely pretty much anyone will see you.