I also tend to treat the women I see as ladies -- at least until I know it's okay not to.

I find it curious that, to keep it current, going back my last 15 sessions or so, whether the lady has a hand wrapped around my shaft, or her tongue on my know, or my dick caressing her slit, aside from some onomotopaeic exclamations, there's never been any talk, passionate, playful, or intense, about what we're doing, not even as our eyes make extended contact, and not even any encouragement as I approach the moment of release
What's appropriate and what's not is, I suppose, a subject for a different thread. (Suffice it to say that I just roll my eyes when a porn star tells her partner how good his dick tastes, unless she's just rubbed it with flavored lube.)
So I'm curious: Does anyone else have a similar "language barrier"? For someone like me, how can I either cross it without worrying in the back of my mind that my "lady" friend might not really care for such talk, or how can I get her to take the lead in crossing it?
Yeah, I know. The the eye-rolling and thoughts of "what a douchenozzle" begin.