Well so far this has been an interesting journey...

3rd week in and I must say it has been quite an experience joining this site and meeting up with entertaining individuals via pm.... email... in person or through the forums. My own imagination didn't have a clue about any of what the last month has brought to life and it has been a mixture of adventure... pleasure beyond comprehension... good conversation with genuine people... and a staggering sense of complete and utter shock and awe. I see now the danger that lurks beyond the whirlwind... a cold hard bitch called REALITY... and that bitch has me rethinking my entire approach to this venture.

To the ladies who have some time under their belts I ask... how nice is TOO nice?

Haha...welcome to REALITY! (lol) Ginger...depends on what you consider *too nice,* and whether you're talking about crossing provider/hobbyist lines...or how you deal with your peers.

If you mean your relationship with some of the clients...it's really not about how nice you are, but rather, how honest and straightforward you are with them. When you blurr the lines...things can get *sticky,* if both parties don't aren't on the same page!

Haha...welcome to REALITY! (lol) Ginger...depends on what you consider *too nice,* and whether you're talking about crossing provider/hobbyist lines...or how you deal with your peers.

If you mean your relationship with some of the clients...it's really not about how nice you are, but rather, how honest and straightforward you are with them. When you blurr the lines...things can get *sticky,* if both parties don't aren't on the same page! Originally Posted by Likinikki

I feel like blurring some lines right now. What do you think Nikki. I would be more than happy to relax you this evening.

Let's just say I've got a clear visual of my head in the game now that I have assessed the situation from the realisitic point of view. Made a mistake or two I admit and will not repeat. Kindness yes... weakness... NO. Grrrrrrrr

Sorry my darling for hijacking your thread. I kind of got the Pepper mojo going on right now. Feeling quite frisky. *

Fuckin hijack away. Lol.. I got what I need anyway..... discounts: nope. Session time not overly exceeded. Sweet kind words in one ear and out the rear. Biz before pleasure and I'm in this for treasure. Sraight up. May have been bought real cheap once but never again. happy bobbying everyone. All other advice id be willing to add to the knowledge base. Tha ks. In advance

Reality check once in a while is a good thing. Helps you to understand where u came from, where you are and where u want to be in the future(near and far).

DISCLAIMER: I have no idea what I just said. I woke up just a few mins ago. Mebbbe I need some caffeine.

Were you trying to rap for a second .. rear and ear , pleasure to treasure..lol.. im just teasing luv.

In the beginning you have to make sure you set your own rules and do not fold for anyone. What u allow is strictly up to you and you have every right to say no or turn someone down even after upon arrival if someone makes u uncomfortable. Always go with your gut instinct.
Also In the beginning I had my time taken advantage of and really annoyed me bc some thought since we were both talking and it went over hhr or hr it was my fault and ect. but i was being courteous and answering questions ((bp clients)). Sometimes a simple Hey im sorry hun i dnt wanna be a buzz kill but time is coming close to an end do u wish to extend your time here with me and continue our fun. Or upon arrival make sure u always know how long ur appt is so u dont go over too much., Some client/friends u can go over and they are courteous and will tip. Now I can say I hve met a few gentlemen who i consider very very good friends and gotten close to crossing the line but we never have bc it can damage a client/friend line.


I can totally understand how u feel just yesterday I saw a repeat client that i never had a problem with and before he came over he scheduled an hr appt. Well upon leaving at the end he hands me a bill and was like im so sorry and ect and im good for it and u know i always see u and ill go to the atm and wife must have taken it. I myself am pissed bc he was telling me and hadnt even opened his wallet all the way and knew it before he saw me. Im like ok .. so Im waiting for him to tell me hey im gonna be right back and instead i have to txt him and ask for it before thurs. and hes like no problem. So he never intended to be right back. That right there made me feel like I should not have been too friendly with him and will never be again. I also will think twice before seeing him again.. So on my part its a lesson learned and it doesnt matter if u have been providing 3wks, 3yr or even 10yrs ..it can happen to any of us.. Just be smart and take it as a lesson learned. On my behalf I am running extreme specials so when u short me 40-60 it is a big deal. So bottom line be clear on how much for hhr and hr and ect.

If you ever need anything u can ask us ladies for anything in the womens area ..Most of us hands down will help u ..

keep ur head up babe and have fun ..

xoxo
Secret Encounter

Never

Not sure exactly what "reality" you speak of but I would regret seeing it change the lady I met. I won't try to guess what has happened. Your playground, your rules.

This little thing we call a hobby is not for the weak of mind.

Everyone on this board is here with a clear objective. For the fellows, the objective is a little more clear.

Some of the ladies I have seen, being a provider is a choice that provides a means to a monetary goal. Others, seem to enjoy the company of selected gentlemen. And there are other reasons but....

So I sincerely hope that the conclusions that you come to provide the answers you are seeking. And hope you get exactly what you want to achieve, and have an enjoyable experience in the process.

Ginger,

It is up to you to set your own rules and guidelines you operate by. Just like any other business you need a set of policies and procedures you have thought through before the heat of passion kicks in. There are a variety of business model examples in the San Antonio group. Don't let anyone else tell you how to do what makes you special.

There will always be guys who try and push the rules. They do it for a wide variety of reasons, but they do. It isn't rude for you to remain true to your rules. If they don't like the rules they can visit others.

Oh the other hand, rules are made to be broken, but if they are your rules, you are the one who decides when and where.

I wish you the best. I enjoyed meeting you for a few moments out and about a couple of weeks ago and I hope to see more of you in the future.

Wow very interesting. That is what this site and all of you are about.

Sometimes better than friends and family, they can be so fake.


You guys are great!


travelerman

Ginger, damn, I should have seen you before you started thinking you were too nice....

Not sure what you mean exactly about putting treasure before pleasure, just remember to make sure the guy leaves remembering the pleasure and not the treasure.

I haven't changed my attitude or stellar personality at all lol. I just decided if I like the individual and am enjoying the conversation and play I'm not going to rush em outta the door. That said I have decided to do away with specials and am also thinking of either raising my hh rate or eliminating it all together. I don't book em deep so I guesss its ok to have some fun and not make anyone feel like they need to hurry their ass up and get the hell out haha. Now if I don't like the persons attitude smell actions demands etc well then I will be a bitchier version of myself. So gents if you wanna kickit gingerstyle dontbe rude.... demand greek...smell funky... or act like an ass in general.

Footlong quit bein a post teaser and set up a mtg w me. Lmfao