Anybody else out there feel like me?

I am a married dude with a young son at home and a decent office job. I have normal American sized amounts of debt, an imported car, live in a nice neighborhood. I have some friends from work that I can go have a beer with if the old lady can pick up the boy after work.

So here is the dilemma: I feel lonely as fuck. I am sitting here at work on Friday afternoon, I should be happy to go home to the wife and boy, have dinner and go to bed. I love the old lady, never want to lose her. The boy puts such a smile on my face. But here I am, thinking that Shep3.0 is going to be out at the club tonight with a bevy of hotties, and Jason Gideon is hitting it with some PSE spinner or other 'till the break of dawn, and I am like, what happened?

And I know I couldn't hang with those guys in the party department, and I guess the girls are just friendly until the money runs out. So I will try and make a lunch appointment with a hottie next week, try and make a connection next week, think I am part of some "hobby community" when I am really just a lonely whorehound who can only get girls to talk to him if he pays.

Anybody else feel like me?

Nope!

You'll never find anyone in the hobby that puts a smile on your face like that little boy. Just remember that. And if you have an SO who will pick your drunk ass up after an evening with the boys...well, I'd say you may have hit the lottery in the family department.

Partying with hookers won't help you in the loneliness department. It will only make it worse after you've sobered up.

I am a married dude with a young son at home and a decent office job. I have normal American sized amounts of debt, an imported car, live in a nice neighborhood. I have some friends from work that I can go have a beer with if the old lady can pick up the boy after work.

So here is the dilemma: I feel lonely as fuck. I am sitting here at work on Friday afternoon, I should be happy to go home to the wife and boy, have dinner and go to bed. I love the old lady, never want to lose her. The boy puts such a smile on my face. But here I am, thinking that Shep3.0 is going to be out at the club tonight with a bevy of hotties, and Jason Gideon is hitting it with some PSE spinner or other 'till the break of dawn, and I am like, what happened?

And I know I couldn't hang with those guys in the party department, and I guess the girls are just friendly until the money runs out. So I will try and make a lunch appointment with a hottie next week, try and make a connection next week, think I am part of some "hobby community" when I am really just a lonely whorehound who can only get girls to talk to him if he pays.

Anybody else feel like me? Originally Posted by Meerschaum

Some of what you described may be alot like my life, but there is one diffrence I love my job, I love my family and I love hobbying!!! I guess I am just lucky I guess bc after reading your thread you sound depressed!!!

Words well spoken!

Yeah Bro, you are suffering from a little depression. It may just be situational depression or it could be chemical but that's all it is.
One thing you are suffering from is the "Rest of the world is having more fun than me" syndrome. That is a bull-shit concept promoted by beer commercials and the like.
Look at them all living it up, while I sit here wallowing in self-pity and despair.
The hobby is no emotional cure for loneliness, just a temporary distraction.
Just like drugs are no cure for boredom.
You might need to see a professional to help you put things into their proper perspective and to help you gain some self esteem.
If you see a bunch of strip-bar dick-heads as winners and a man at home with his loving family as a loser....you've got it all wrong.

If you see a bunch of strip-bar dick-heads as winners and a man at home with his loving family as a loser....you've got it all wrong. Originally Posted by TheWanderer

wise words.


FWIW..... everybody gets down now and then... go out and get some exercise.. I am serious...I find that exercise is far more effective and works faster than anything a doctor can prescribe.

Good luck

Meershaum, go home wrestle with your son. Wear the little turd out. Then grab your wife and tell how much you love her and tickle her taint like you mean it. All three of you will be happier for it. Now get off this board ... you have work to do.

We all want want what others have !!!!!!! The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence !! NOT !!!! It happens to all of us we can't see the forest for the trees just human nature i guess .

Look up dysthmia and major depression and read up for about thirty minutes. Sounds like you may have the former and be headed for the latter. Not at all uncommon at your age and position in life for a number of reasons. These are not conditions to be ignored. And "just cheer up" isn't a solution, it's a grave misunderstanding of the problem.

Talk to your doctor and lay your cards on the table. If you can't bring yourself to come fully clean to your doc about hobbying, at least give the doc an expurgated version of this post -- and I mean literally give him a copy. There's a lot of things that can be done to turn this around. And if you ignore it, it will get worse. And when it gets worse, you will make decisions that will cause the problem to get worse still. And when it gets worse, you will fuck up your life one way or the other.

Sounds like you're not in too deep right now, but take action promptly. It's nothing to be embarrassed about. The only embarrassing thing is not taking action while you can.

I am a married dude with a young son at home and a decent office job. I have normal American sized amounts of debt, an imported car, live in a nice neighborhood. I have some friends from work that I can go have a beer with if the old lady can pick up the boy after work.

So here is the dilemma: I feel lonely as fuck. I am sitting here at work on Friday afternoon, I should be happy to go home to the wife and boy, have dinner and go to bed. I love the old lady, never want to lose her. The boy puts such a smile on my face. But here I am, thinking that Shep3.0 is going to be out at the club tonight with a bevy of hotties, and Jason Gideon is hitting it with some PSE spinner or other 'till the break of dawn, and I am like, what happened?

And I know I couldn't hang with those guys in the party department, and I guess the girls are just friendly until the money runs out. So I will try and make a lunch appointment with a hottie next week, try and make a connection next week, think I am part of some "hobby community" when I am really just a lonely whorehound who can only get girls to talk to him if he pays.

Anybody else feel like me? Originally Posted by Meerschaum

Signs of depression man. I honestly think this hobby should be put on hold until you get things figured out. I'd focus on that boy and you SO. This hobby may be adding some confusion. I think everyone needs a little alone time......Get your head clear.

Wowwww....I am surprised at all the guys' suggestions!!! Very positive and encouraging to hear you guys giving him advice to be happy with what he has. :-) It makes me happy!!! :-)
Maybe you need a new hobby...get involved in sports, arts or whatever you've been thinking of learning/being involved in either alone of with your wife. Something new to look forward to...that will give your life a new meaning or purpose or excitement.
Samantha

Ever think that Shep and Gideon may be going home to an empty apartment?

I don't think you are lonely. Sounds like you got it all....bored and lacking excitement perhaps.

PM me meerschaum.....I am good friends w Jason Gideon, we will take you out one night! On me

I am a married dude with a young son at home and a decent office job. I have normal American sized amounts of debt, an imported car, live in a nice neighborhood. I have some friends from work that I can go have a beer with if the old lady can pick up the boy after work.

So here is the dilemma: I feel lonely as fuck. I am sitting here at work on Friday afternoon, I should be happy to go home to the wife and boy, have dinner and go to bed. I love the old lady, never want to lose her. The boy puts such a smile on my face. But here I am, thinking that Shep3.0 is going to be out at the club tonight with a bevy of hotties, and Jason Gideon is hitting it with some PSE spinner or other 'till the break of dawn, and I am like, what happened?

And I know I couldn't hang with those guys in the party department, and I guess the girls are just friendly until the money runs out. So I will try and make a lunch appointment with a hottie next week, try and make a connection next week, think I am part of some "hobby community" when I am really just a lonely whorehound who can only get girls to talk to him if he pays.

Anybody else feel like me? Originally Posted by Meerschaum

hey troll...don't act like you know me. Thanks

Ever think that Shep and Gideon may be going home to an empty apartment? Originally Posted by Tiger Woods