Do you have boundaries?

Guys/gals do you have boundaries in this hobby? For example I live by a few rules that have kept me safe and let me sleep at night. One if any children are present any age I will not go through with appointment. One girl had her son take a walk instead he hung out by the door (unknowingly to me) so when I was done and walked out I saw him and the look on his face was just something I don't want to see again as if he knew what was going on. I also won't see a provider if she lives with a SO, brother, uncle etc... Just a pure safety measure. I know I have rules just curious if I'm the only one and if providers live by some as well.
CrimsonValkyrie's Avatar
Your boundaries mirror mine. No children. No SO's. No brothers, husbands...you get the idea.
All of yours. I met a provider at her incall. When she opened the door she was holding a bong and smoke filled room. Drugs=no go. I wouldn't stay if there is anyone else in the incall. But one time at band camp I made an exception, the third wheel was hotter than the girl I was meeting and we made a deal. I left with less money than expected but had a grin on my face the rest of the day. An unplanned threesome doesn't come around often (not since college anyways) so it was very nice.
If I don't feel safe or don't feel my vehicle is safe I would take off.
AngeLisa's Avatar
A NO GO FOR ME IS DRUGS. I will leave if I speculate Yu are on Drugs. Only drug your allowed to us is Viagra!!!
Doglegg's Avatar
All the aforementioned, if I have read or heard or seen any reference to drugs, additional people unless planned threesome, no go.

I have just learned of a new one, no hobby phone for voice recognition, no go.
mwsatx's Avatar
Drugs, kids, hygiene, other people around, etc. Hobby phone as Doglegg mentioned, plus a hobby email account. I'm very selective of location as well. If it's a crap notel or in a part of town I don't like, it's a no go. TCB tells you a lot about someone and if the skills aren't there, neither am I.
dbeartx's Avatar
Pretty much the same here... No SO, no drugs, no one hiding in the bathroom/closet/next room, NO CHILDREN... I don't mind people watching if I know ahead of time.

Won't see someone unless they have a couple of reviews from other well known active hobbyists. Been down that road before and it lead to a lot of head shaking on my part.

If the provider can't put together a coherent sentence, drug induced or otherwise, that's a no go for me.

I don't mind animals, as long as they aren't in the room. Sometimes you get those creepy dogs that sit at the end of the bed just staring, like waiting for an invitation, that's just weird (to each his/her own though)

No food in the bed, went to an incall once and there were Doritos crumbs all over the bed, like everywhere. It's be different if they were large enough to snack on, but they were just crumbs

No cat piss smell, no baby smells, just no bad smells in general.

Like Doglegg, I like to hear your voice ahead of time.

Other than that, in the words of Marvin Gaye, "Let's Get it On"