GFE or not to GFE......

That is my question. What is your idea of a GFE provider? And what are your thoughts on non-GFE providers?

There are 2 ways to look at it:

1. The attitude and overall EXPERIENCE (the E in GFE) - the passion, the connection, the sex, the attitude, etc.

2. BBBJ vs. CBJ

For me, I can't consider a girl who does a BBBJ but lacks any enthusiasm or passion to be GFE. I've been with several women I'd consider to be GFE in total attitude and performance but did CBJ. Some guys here think that BBBJ = GFE no matter how bad her bedroom or romance skills are.

To be a true GFE would be the qualities in point number 1 plus BBBJ. A girlfriend wouldn't give you a CBJ. One might not even use any latex protection at all with a girlfriend (birth control, maybe, but not condoms). However, given that this is about sex and being safe, I still think a lady can provide a girlfriend experience regardless of whether she is BBBJ or CBJ, but BBBJ is high on the list to be considered GFE.

Dave's right: it isn't the ONLY factor & you can certainly have a non-GFE-hurry-up-and-come-and-get-the-fuck-out-rotten-attitude experience w/someone who DOES offer bbbj, but it's USUALLY a big signal or factor in what most of us would define as a GFE experience.

It is hard for me not to be GFE, I am affectionate by nature There are some gents that do not want GFE, they want entertainment, to each his own.

i agree with April, sometimes i just wanna fuck and leave.

I think the BIG difference is in attitude

According to everyones definition,I find it so hard to define myself as gfe or pse or fetish.....I am not fully a dom or fully a gfe or fully a pse...i just mix it all up and do what feels so dam good!

I personally consider myself to be GFE while I am bending you over and milking your bull....lol

There are 2 ways to look at it:

1. The attitude and overall EXPERIENCE (the E in GFE) - the passion, the connection, the sex, the attitude, etc. Originally Posted by pornodave69

Dave hit the nail on the head here. It has to have passion and the experience needs to be that of a new girl friend.

2. BBBJ vs. CBJ Originally Posted by pornodave69

BINGO!!!! If a girlfriend even thought about pulling a wrapper out for a BJ I would leave. Not only do I not feel anything, but it also goes to a state or mind and lack of adventure. No thanks! I might as well leave and take care of my own pleasure.

For me, I can't consider a girl who does a BBBJ but lacks any enthusiasm or passion to be GFE. I've been with several women I'd consider to be GFE in total attitude and performance but did CBJ. Some guys here think that BBBJ = GFE no matter how bad her bedroom or romance skills are.

To be a true GFE would be the qualities in point number 1 plus BBBJ. A girlfriend wouldn't give you a CBJ. One might not even use any latex protection at all with a girlfriend (birth control, maybe, but not condoms). However, given that this is about sex and being safe, I still think a lady can provide a girlfriend experience regardless of whether she is BBBJ or CBJ, but BBBJ is high on the list to be considered GFE. Originally Posted by pornodave69

I agree - BBBJ without passion isn't GFE.

But Dave and I disagree on the CBJ. I don't give a damn if she has loads of passion. A CBJ means no GFE. Sorry. It sucks and a complete waste of time.

bbbj , dfk and never mentioning the clock ..

Maybe the E in GFE REALY stands for EMOTION. If you feel your companion is very much into you and when you look into her eyes your wondering if you might fall in love with this one......your having a GF EMOTION(IMHO). If you are feeling that it may not make that much difference where you ejaculate when you do.
If you real dig "slam,bam thank you mam",you are probably not truly interested in real GFEmotion but you like sex and would like BBBJ.
One is more like I love my girl,the other is more like " shut up and swallow"
That said;on this board there does seem to be the perception that GFE=LFK+DFK+BBBJ+CFS

2. BBBJ vs. CBJ
Originally Posted by pornodave69

This should not be an issue, who ever had a girlfriend that actually blew him?

Honestly, if it weren't for GFE - I wouldn't even bother with the hobby.

I've just never been one that is interested in the B&G and I always schedule at least 2 hour appointments because I actually LIKE talking to the girl. Anything less than 2 hours and I feel like I'm being timed and that's a turn off to me. Any girl that's seen me knows that - in two hours, talking is mostly what we do (that, and drinking wine). :P

There's a lot of definitions of GFE - everyone tries to break it down into certain acts. I don't see how you can do that. I've had very good straight girlfriends that I loved who wouldn't let me CIM. It honestly wasn't a big deal at all. Even girlfriends have limits and things they don't like. Hell - even I have limits - I'm completely turned off by greek.

BBBJ vs CBJ? Well, CBJ's don't really appeal to me but I don't necessarily define a GFE as whether or not a girl does BBBJ. If the girl treats me like I'm her man for a couple of hours - that's GFE to me. If she doesn't have boundaries on just about everything - that's GFE.

GFE for me starts at kissing. Starting out laying down and kissing is a way to start. Next would be to gently caress each other's bodies as we're kissing. As I run my hand down her back as I'm holding the back of her head she wastes no time to go down and give the captain a rub. A true GFE will be her grabbing the captain as I'm grabbing her boobs. Next she pulls her head back as I gently kiss her down the neck as I work my way down south. As I'm kissing on her nipples I go for the 2 finger in the panties. This leads to me going to some DATY that leads to 69. None of this is rushed. I'm in a very relaxed state of mind until I realize that it's not really a gf and throw on the cover and off to the races.
I've had many BnGs with no kissing or passion. If it's late at night and all is quiet, I can really enjoy a BnG experience. Most of the GFE advertised girls that I've seen will look away as I go down to kiss their neck while in Mish.
Oh and I forgot, having the TV on with volume isn't GFE for me. Have the lights down low with a lamp on and maybe a candle or two burning. But no Kenny G or anything similar.
So is GFE more like love making and PSE or BnG just fucking?

Having been a girlfriend many times, my boyfriends and I kept those rubber plantations and those factory testing machines pumping and kept the Trojan brand on the stock market! And never, not ONCE, did we use them for oral. GFE should be, romantic, playful, nasty, erotic, and just plain fun! Even goofy at times! I would absolutely LOVE it if a guy got goofy with me! Like jump on the bed with me on it! Or stand buck nekkid and do something silly with his........ well YOU know!
Ladies, would like your guys to be more BFE? To have a GFE/BFE session would be great fun and what a review that would make! Especially with the fun factor!
If anyone has some stories about a fun experience, share it!

Simple, think of the girlfriend that would do anything to please you. Does she kiss you affectionately? Does she make out for a bit instead of going straight into sex? Will she give you a BBBJ? Never had a girlfriend use a condom for a BJ. Is she willing to give you sex several times in one lovemaking session? Multiple positions? Willing to experiment (to a point!). Girlfriends usually set up a nice atmosphere also. For my experiences so far, GFE= April Cox, Lovely Lolita, 1ThickBlonde and Lovely Callie. If Elegance Reign kissed, she would be there too!

I just like to call mine "an experience like none other"...lol