Why has your screening become a pain the ars?

In the past month or so, myself and others have observed some odd things that have given me pause. I will leave it at that. I have had a marriage proposal, it's election time, our little world seems to have a bigger audience than ever due to this new bill being pushed, and a creeper contact me recently that spooked me. I value my safety and anonymity just like you. In case I get carved up or something, ya'll know where to look! Kidding!

On a serious note, I would like to think a HEALTHY dose of paranoia is a good thing.
I am really sorry to those of you with the best intentions. Most of you are all really sweet and have no ill intent but it only takes a few bad apples, At least for me anyway!!

Again, anyone that knows me knows I am super laid back. Just thought ya'll might want an explanation as to why my screening is, well- it just looks super bitchy!

Scarlett all sounds reasonable ... BUT
A dna sample - Happy to drop one (on you)
Drop of blood - I don't do that, too dangerous
Your first born - you can have my first born, why do you think I practice CFS these days?

Screening is good !!!

Your first born - you can have my first born, why do you think I practice CFS these days?

HAHA! That's good stuff, F2C!! Thanks for the laugh

I'm right there with you girl. Except I don't see newbies or lurkers. I take a lot of time writing my ads and I'm very specific on them and still people don't follow directions. So I simplified it down to this.

HANDLE (ECCIE OR P411)
REFERENCES
DATE
TIME
LOCATION

If someone emails me and says I saw your ad and totally ignores what I'm asking for to verify them then I simply click DELETE. It sounds bitchy but when you get bombarded with emails you have to be short when responding in order to answer them all. Hit me up anytime you need a vouch.

Lurkers and newbies are some of the nicest gentleman I have ever met. Ya just have to be careful as with anything

i have no problem giving out necessary info in order to get screened.
but, then again, im single and unattached. so my perspective is different than some others.
from your posts you seem to be pretty laid back and like to enjoy your time with the people youve met.
may have to check out how much of a "pain in the ars" this actually is.
i sure hope it doesnt involve giving bone marrow

i sure hope it doesnt involve giving bone marrow Originally Posted by knotty man

That may depend on who's First Born she has at the time....

I think it's only a "pain in the ars" when people are mean about being screened. For the most part everyone I've met have been complete gentlemen and haven't had problems being screened.

I find that newbies are more easily screened sometimes. I've had no problem getting real world information from gentlemen with no references. I have had some problems with guys emailing from their personal account and just giving me their handle. When I ask them to pm me through the system, they do not. I just assume they are using someone else's handle and move on. I did have one jerk who gave me three references. Not a one of them recognized his information. So, I asked him if he had contacted the ladies via different avenues, ie, phone number (which I did not have). He responded with I'm just gonna book again with one of the ladies he provided as a reference. He was clearly just trying to piss me off, but sorry. Maybe he was on the up and up, but he didn't provide the information that would help the ladies remember him. A slight bit of paranoia (does such exist?) is always better. The consequences for a bad decision are pretty high in this arena.

Thank you Scarlett for starting this thread. I am a "newbie" who has been trying to get references with no luck. I respect and expect a providers to screen for their safety. I am not a single guy and try to keep everything on the DL. Passing along private info is not something I want to be doing. Again, I understand and respect why a provider screens. That being said, I have offered to meet a provider in a public place, of her choosing, so she can screen me AND we would not discuss a potential session. My thinking is if a provider is screening for her safety this could work...get to know me and we can then discuss on PM. I get no reply. I was a regular of a provider that is no longer on the board so I don't consider myself a newbie. Granted I never wrote reviews of our sessions, so I would be considered a newbie. Anyway, just my two cents and thanks for posting this topic.

r49729 you ever see Unforgiven ? A saloon lady giggles at a guys little pecker , he goes ape shit with a knife on her . That is the kind of shit they are screening for . Meeting you in public can give a little glimpse of your personality , but only a reference from a provider that has been BCD with you can tell her what you are like BCD . And even that doesn't guarantee you're going to be respectful every time . There are some ladies who will meet you in public , but they are a very small minority . Fact of the matter is , they have screen whatever way they have to , in order to feel comfortable .

RR nailed it! He's always doing that! Besides what he said, it doesn't make good business sense, IMO. Maybe if you have no client requests that day or if the gentleman is going to compensate your time, but again we have no idea who we are dealing with or if you really will compensate for our time. It takes a lot of time out of a lady's window of availability to meet a person in public that may be LE or worse. And the provider is doing this on the chance that you "might" turn into a client. From a provider's perspective or my perspective, it's not very productive when you have requests coming in from gentleman that are already screened. This is Just a generalization and not directed at you

I can appreciate your concerns about giving out personal information. It can be such a catch 22. I think having a seperate, discrete email to send screening information to might be a good idea. It's definately not fool proof, but it something.

You Just have to do your research and be careful. The hobby is risky, obviously. If you want to play bad enough ya do your research and make the least risky decision.

RR, I resemble that remark about "little peckers". Ahh, what I meant to say was that I resent that remark. Don't be stereotyping guys who are horizontally challenged.

Thankfully there are providers available like Scarlett Rossi who are professional and protective at the same time. Clearly there are weirdos on both side of the hobbyist equation. Most gentlemen are not full time hobbyist and desire an occasional discrete tryst. Unfortunately some of the pervs out there give us a bad name. I fully understand and agree with the need for safety provided through reasonable screening. So long as the provider enumerates clearly those steps upfront, there should be no issue from either participant. Besides the horizontally challenged needs loving too.

Sorry shank00 didn't mean to reveal RW info

It has been a while since i was a rookie, but I don't remember having to reveal too much information. RockerRick has a long list of newbie friendly providers, and I know people can find someone on the list that will get them verified.

I have seen a tendency on the board lately that newbies aren't content with the traditional way of getting verified, which is to get a couple of known providers to vouch for them. They want to go for the hard to get providers right off.

If you do your research well, you shouldn't have problems getting references. Providers that are verified on ECCIE are 99% honest and have no interest in keeping your personal information. Anytime you have seen a provider you have given her the potential to know everything about you if she wanted to find out.

If you approach a provider with the idea that I am not going to provide any inofrmation that will cause alarms to go off. Just keep it simple, using PMs through ECCIE, state your handle, name you wish to go by, age, what you are looking for, and other general information that would help.

It is not hard to get vouched for.