Meeting a provider at you place of work.

Anyone ever see a lady at there place of employment for the first time? When I was working today, I saw a provider that I had seen on eccie, bp, and preferred411. I did not go up to her and introduce myself to her, so she doesn't know who I am, but I am 95 percent certain it was her. I contemplated talking to her about eccie, but I figured I should just use here.
Just my .02 never approach outside the hobby and contact her here.
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  • 06-14-2013, 02:23 AM
My 2 cents, follow bigworm's advice and don't invade their personal bubble. I've seen similar & even found a provider's profile in an online dating site. But some folks tend to be private or uncomfortable when you have their personal info and you're just a stranger.
Great advice! I was getting a haircut and a provider I had seen was there also.

We had our backs to each other, but kept making eye contact from the opposing mirrors. Neither said a thing....shhhhhh!
i've come across this situation in many aspects of rl. many ladies are in the lifestyle with their partners and my so and i run into them often. i met a VERY popular provider from this site at MY place of work before she became so popular. mum is the word works best. i have booked sessions with a couple of them and have gotten that 'OMG!' reaction every time. great ice breaker.
Would you like it if she came up to you and said hi - if she saw you at the movies - while you were there with your wife?

What exactly would be the upside? The downside?

Respect the boundaries.

Even is she's on a "date" w/ another hobbiest - that is her time.

If you want a date call her. Otherwise, its her time. You don't know her situation.

I'd be very upset if a date came up to me and started a conversation. I'd play it cool - but its not cool.

So, no, never ever approach. Your relationship has certain very CLEAR boundaries.

Don't cross them.

Its totally different if she's your all time fav, and you are regulars, and you've discussed things

But someone you are 95% sure? Nope. no way.

Oh, and by the way - NO
Funnily enough I had a very similar experience the other day. I was at work when a provider came in. I had never seen said provider but recognized her from her ads here. I obviously did not make mention of anything. I'd say no way do you approach.
TiCobra's Avatar
I've seen my ATF while I was at a local sports store,she was with what I'm going to assume her SO she mentioned after one of our sessions was over.I saw her,she saw me.I just smiled and winked at her (of course he wasn't looking at the time) and kept walking.
Always a good idea to NEVER actually approach them outside the hobby...
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If I seen any provider at my place of work I would definitely talk to her. Of coarse I work on a boat in the middle of the ocean. So if she was on my ship I would freak out anyway lol.

But if I saw her in a store shopping or on a date no I would not approach her. But I would smile like a fool I am sure.
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I have had real life contact with several providers and always respected the boundaries. When they were my customers, I greeted them and served them cordially without giving any indications to anyone who may have been watching. When we crossed paths in stores and buffet lines, we just made eye contact and smiled without speaking. There have been a few providers that when we realized that crossing paths in RL was very likely, we decided ahead of time on a cover story of why we knew each other. At least 3 girls I've seen were already acquaintances before I discovered that they would play for pay.
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I've seen my ATF while I was at a local sports store,she was with what I'm going to assume her SO she mentioned after one of our sessions was over.I saw her,she saw me.I just smiled and winked at her (of course he wasn't looking at the time) and kept walking.
Always a good idea to NEVER actually approach them outside the hobby... Originally Posted by TiCobra
But if I saw her in a store shopping or on a date no I would not approach her. But I would smile like a fool I am sure. Originally Posted by timmycanoe
Don't smile, don't wink, don't do nothin'. How do YOU know no one ELSE saw the wink? How do YOU know the person she's w/isn't a hyper-jealous-aggressive-violent shit-bag, and would smack her for a guy she DIDN'T know smiling at her? Don't smile, don't wink--you don't know their situations.

Trekker is right: if you run into one in public, then see her again & y'all might want to work up a cover, then do it. Or if it seems likely you WILL run into her, ditto. But randomly running into her @ Target? You don't know her, unless you're by yourself & she acknowledges you. Even then, SHE won't, b/c she has the smarts to know you might seem to be by yourself when you're there w/someone else in another dept. or in the bathroom. Play it SAFE. This business has rules: DO NOT OUT, or come even CLOSE to outing, someone else. It hurts the girls & it hurts the customers.
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I have encountered numerous clients while walking the quarter....I usually smile 7 nod unless they acknowledge me


I personally don't care that you run up & hug me or kiss me...if you are able to...its cool with me

but most providers are not as open as me...so discretion is the word of the day in their cases
I have encountered numerous clients while walking the quarter....I usually smile 7 nod unless they acknowledge me


I personally don't care that you run up & hug me or kiss me...if you are able to...its cool with me

but most providers are not as open as me...so discretion is the word of the day in their cases Originally Posted by DallasRain
Im the same way...Especially if we've met ...
brownfish's Avatar
I ve met at least 10 providers at my place of work ..other than just one who accused me of stalking her (!!!) ..ive said hi and talked to all the other ladies ..
Brmike1963's Avatar
I always ask. " if I happen to see you in public is it ok if I say hi? ", a simple hey is innocent , it could be a business contact for all anyone knows.