As Hobbiest and Providers are we just a bunch of sex adicts and perverts?

The common response by most providers is I LOVE what I do, I would do it anyway, I just get to enjoy the financial rewards of being the slut I was raised to be or have become.

The common dawg sees no problem with being a hobbiest. He does not see himself as having a perverted sexual addiction. You have many that substitute the hobby as a real relationship, looking at it as actual financial security against marrying some bitch that will walk out he door with half his shit.

We can tell others and ourselves anything we want inorder to make the hobby/providing fit what we have become and satisfy our insecurities and self perceptions. I do believe thought that most here were raised in homes or went to schools that taught us all so called societal norms of sex, relationships, and generally what is acceptable behavior sexually. I can not recall where women were taught and encouraged to be escorts even though there could be a financial reward if they become a insatible nympho, and it was never taught as normal for middle age men to pay women to satisfy uncontrollable sexual urges. So, the question remains are all of us here in this world we call a hobby helpless perverted sex addicts?

I'll be the first to admit it as I've been thinkin about it the same concept for a while: I am an Addict! I've failed to contain the dark side!

I never try to over think the situation. I love variety and in this hobby you pay for the variety you enjoy. I deal with civilians in the real world, but enjoy each day as it comes until I decide to put my wallet away for good.

I am/I am/I am!!!!woooohoooo and a damn good one..lol!!!

I think alot of my clients just want to "experience" a little something "unique" for a change...I would guess that it does not make them sex addicts{UNLESS they come back three times in one week..lol}...just "partakers of pleasure"......

after all there is alot more to the "hobby" than just sex.

I have been told by a provider, that many of you think I am LE, and by no way do I mean to disappoint those with that assumption, but I am probably the furthest thing from LE there could be, and if you knew me and my background you would have no question as to the answer.I will tell you what I am though, and that is a highly educated individual, that has traveled and lived accross the U.S. and many other countries. I do not say this as a bragging point, it is just who I am. One of the areas of study, that interested me the most is human behavior versus societal norms of expectancy. Providing/Prostitution has always been catagorized as a addictive vice just like drugs, alcohol, gambling etc. It has even been looked at as a more sever personal character flaw, because inside the person is deemed to be a sexual preditor, or a person who lacks a certain level of moral turpitude.Now I realize, that I present my questions for discussion in the lions den, so to speak, so there is automatically going to be the consensus to defend to the unmost infinity, the hobby/providing, because this after all is part of everyone here life and livelyhood. My purpose is not to throw judgement on what anybody does, because lord knows I am no saint myself, and as Jesus said "let the one without sin cast the first stone". My discussion questions are more targeted as a individual self probing. For people to honestly ask ones self why am I here, why am I doing what I am doing from both sides of the coin dawg/provider. My honest opinion of the hobby/providing, and I know I will have many who disagree, is that it is a life long trap, that even though we may all feel we are in control, but deep inside it controls us. Its like taking the first line of coke are you a addict, NO, but gradually it consumes your life to where you depend on it. The hobby is the same way, for the dawgs they can throw down a few dollars an be with a woman that otherwise would not give them the time of day, on the flip side the woman has intimate sex for money with a guy she would not have otherwise given the time of day. For the girl it seems like easy money for doing something she would have done anyway, with any guy in a bar, that bought her a few drinks. You have the guys that look at the hobby as a relationship they can get out of at anytime without consequence, unlike being married to a woman. You have providers who say who needs a husband or SO, I enjoy sex and can have all the sex I can handle and gain the financial reward of being a nympho.The bait in the trap is the MONEY. To be honest all participants men and women are sexual diviants, and I am not saying that is good or bad, because we all have to face who we are at sometime, and we can not lie to ourselves. The "Money" as stated is the root of evil. The money is what destroys the participants lives and makes them dependant on the thing they thought they controlled. I know there are providers right off the bat, I do this because I like sex, I like it all day anyway 15-20 guys in a line the money is just a benefit of being the slut I am, hell I have a husband, a SO that works I do not need the money. I say B.S., that is the face you put on to hide why you need the money. I can not see how anybody can truely enjoy traveling from city to city booking hotels, taking chances with local LE, and really not knowing whats coming through the door next. You say, I get to see the country on the dawgs dime, but if you have a husband or SO with all this financial security you could travel anyway, where ever you wanted, and 100% enjoy the total trip. If its strange sex and lots of it there are no shortage of guys in every city with any level of class and demeanor willing to bang you. The bottom line is you do it for the MONEY, and only you know why you need the money, maybe you have a huge mortgage, Lexus payment, child in college, sick parent in the hospital, a high dollar lifestyle etc., but when its all said and done you do it for the MONEY.On the other hand the dawg thinks how easy $150-200 and I can bang a 18 year old that looks like my niece, a girl that would not give me the time of day if not because of her pimp and the MONEY she has to make for him, or for $250-300 a pop, or even $1000-1500 once a month for the evening I can have a Pam Anderson look alike that walks out the door the next morning, and I have no care no worry. Hell she won"t be taking me to divorce court in 10 years for half of everything. In the end you are paying to live out your sexual fantasies and companionship, and as long as you have the MONEY you have no problem, but I know many a guy that ruined everything they ever worked for to get the money to support their hobby, ask David Vitter how close he was to having the hobby destroy his life, ask Jimmy Swaggert, Bill Clinton, Governor of South Carolina, Tiger Woods etc. In the end we all think we are in control, and we do not even realize when we loose control but we do. I am not LE believe me or not, I could careless, because honestly I have not tried to contact even one of you for a session. I am just trying to present discussion questions about the hobby that makes you ask questions of yourself, who you are and what you have become. right or wrong who cares what others think at least be honest with yourself.

Charlie Sheen, I believe, said it best....... I am the girlfriend you pay to go away!

Amen Nicolet.....but to add to it...I am the girlfriend you WISH you had{lol}

I thought I was the only one that wrote lengthy. I get your point. But in all actuality we as humans all lie to ourselves to prevent us from feeling despair or distraught, it is not until we can learn to be honest with ourselves that we start to let go of our regrets and faults.

I am not in control, let it be known, and there is a lady that knows I live by this philosophy of "I am not in control." I want to be at times but really I cannot control others what they think or what they do. The only thing I am in control of is me.

I had a favorite lady I used to see and I could tell from our conversations she had a moral dilemma with being a provider. I never saw her again, I talked with her on the phone and txted a few times but never paid for her to provide and I hear she is still doing it. But for me, I liked her to much to be a part of something she was doing strictly for the money and against her best nature. I know these ladies do it for the money, what's wrong with that? I am not a woman so I prolly do not understand their need for monogamy or taking things slow before sex, but if I feel if that is a dilemma with the lady I am with, I move on, simple. I do not want to be a part of something she is ashamed of. I can always masterbate, sex is not that damn important to me. I like it very much but not so much as to hurt my inner being by hurting others.

I have seen someone and we spent most of the session just talking, sex is fun but not the end all for me. Some times talking is just as fun for me.

I hope that makes sense, lol.

because honestly I have not tried to contact even one of you for a session

You posted a review...did you not contact her for a session or did she contact you?

some people do it for the money, some do it because they enjoy the outcome and the cash.... this is no secret, we all know. i don't think anyone is lying to themselves here. john wants companionship, jane needs help with her shopping... always been this way, always will. i find nothing wrong with it.

I do so love the ladies and am a prevert studying to be a pervert

Its the oldest profession what else can be said. If a woman has no other means of support she has to use the gold mine she was born with, at least until the gold runs out.

I don't think of my self as a sex addict.... I do know where the off button is BUT the pervert in me keeps me from pushing it!

It makes me laugh so hard when people discuss standard practices of morality in this forum. Those are obviously of no interest to anyone here.

I don't see fifteen to twenty guys a week. I've barely seen five in a week. I hobby maybe six days a month. And, yeah, I do it for money. So what? What you may not know is that civvy sex and provider sex are very different. I have a lot less civvy sex simply because I'm really picky about having a good time. Why not get paid for an otherwise empty sexual experience? I don't want to bother with unpaid sex unless I'm going to have a multitude of orgasms from a guy I think is HOT and carries on great pillow talk. I have a lot of things to take care of before I want to settle down like seeing Europe, finishing schooling obligations, learning how to swing dance, reading books on my ever-growing list, etc. Once I decide it's time to devote myself to someone, bye bye hobby.